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I think it is a great shame that you are wasting your life feeling jealous of other people.

I also think that asking them not to talk about their holidays is quite spiteful. I could understand it if, for example, you were struggling to conceive you may not want them to talk about their children, but going on holiday? Really?

Try to be pleased for them. One day you might be that person.

I have been in both places. We spent years either camping or staying with friends. Now I can afford posh holidays. Instead of travelling we have a static caravan and spend time in that. I would hate to think that if I speak to people about it, that they felt as you do.

Please try not to let the situation bother you, life is too short.

Lily-Rose_3

minimacka wrote: »

On the flip side to this we have just been on a dream holiday travelling down the east coast of America for 2.5 weeks. We had such a lovely time and yes it cost us a lot of money but our children are grown up and we now feel that we have given our children a really good life (still do) and now its our time to treat ourselves. We are only in our late 40's both with really good jobs.

Although they asked us about it they didn't ask in depth I feel that I cannot really speak to my family about our holiday because I feel that we are rubbing their noses in it. This is not the case we just had an amazing time and wanted to talk about our experiences and what we saw.

Can you not?!!!!!!!!!! :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Muscle750 wrote: »

Taking everything everyone has said on board i knew id get ripped i expected it. Just things are boiling up My OH is having to give work up at christmas due to ill health and they feel pretty bad about having to do so and the implications it will bring but its our problem and its life. And the last thing we need is what the original post was about, ................and as for the quote on if they had public sector pension ................yes and ill leave it there

If you knew you would 'get ripped' then why did you say anything? serious question. :huh:

And as for this sentence;

and as for the quote on if they had public sector pension ................yes and ill leave it there

Can you elaborate on what you mean?

jaydeeuk18 wrote: »

This. Maybe if you had put as much effort in to your education and career as you do in moaning about friends, you too could be sat on a beach in Tahiti sipping cocktails (which is lovely btw)

Part of the fun of going on holiday is telling people all about it when they get back.

Ooooh, I had to google where Tahiti is! Yeah, I'm that dumb! :rotfl:

You lucky sausage!



One of the ladies in the neighbourhood has a daughter who is going to Antarctica next week, with her job. :eek:

Now THAT I am jealous of!

Anyone else got a strong suspicion the OP ain't coming back?

BarryBlue

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

Oh nooo!

Put pictures on facebook while you're there and people can ignore or enjoy and contribute as they see fit.

You get the ego boost of sharing but they can take it or leave it, it's not being forced on them.
You can just tell yourself everyone saw it and everyone's seething with envy.
Everyone's happy.

When you get home, shut up about it, it's over.

That may be the situation in your social circle, but not ours. We have lots of holidays in all sorts of places, and so do many of our friends. We are always discussing various places we have been and would like to visit. Our regular toast over a bottle of fizz is 'Holidays'.

We have been inspired to visit quite a few places on the experiences of others, and vice versa. We also enjoy looking at photos. We don't, however, use Facebook or other social media sites to share our experiences. We meet up with people, like proper friends do.

Robisere

Muscle 750, you are making yourself miserable by allowing jealousy of others to inhibit your life.

I had to give up a career after injury and disability cost me the job I had always loved doing. I have had a life since, of operation after operation. My wife had to give up work as a PA shortly after me when an operation on her hand was wrongly carried out. We lost our house, started again and moved to a rented bungalow. We were made to leave that when the owner decided to sell it, despite having assured us we were there for life. We managed to get this tiny Sheltered Housing bungalow and we live here, still in love in our 70's and still standing up to anything else life throws at us. We have a great ds and dd, 4 lovely grandchildren and lots of very good friends. Those friends are from across the social and financial spectrum and there are just two who talk about wonderful holidays and luxury lifestyles, but it does not bother us one bit. We are jealous of no one, why should anyone be jealous of another? That's just the way life turns out. You need to take a look at yourself and make a decision to stand up to whatever trouble you think you have, then think about how to combat that trouble. Stop worrying about the other guy and get on with your life! If it bothers you that much, next time they blather on to you, just tell them to xxxx off and watch them disappear from your life! Grow up!

AylesburyDuck

BarryBlue wrote: »

That may be the situation in your social circle, but not ours. We have lots of holidays in all sorts of places, and so do many of our friends. We are always discussing various places we have been and would like to visit. Our regular toast over a bottle of fizz is 'Holidays'.

We have been inspired to visit quite a few places on the experiences of others, and vice versa. We also enjoy looking at photos. We don't, however, use Facebook or other social media sites to share our experiences. We meet up with people, like proper friends do.

Not sure if it was meant as nastily as it sounded, but wow are you implying that unless you meet up all the time your not "proper friends".
I have "proper friends" who were lucky if we meet up a couple of times a year, due to distance, time constraints, busy lives, and i love seeing there holiday snaps on Facebook.
Different horses for different courses, one size does not fit all!

BarryBlue

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Not sure if it was meant as nastily as it sounded, but wow are you implying that unless you meet up all the time your not "proper friends".
I have "proper friends" who were lucky if we meet up a couple of times a year, due to distance, time constraints, busy lives, and i love seeing there holiday snaps on Facebook.
Different horses for different courses, one size does not fit all!

Actually it was in response to the post I quoted. I don't use Facebook and regard it as faintly ludicrous that people have hundreds of 'friends' there that they have never met. Yet they are still willing to post pictures of their lunch or whatever for them all to peruse.

I have friends who we rarely see as some live some distance away, in some cases abroad. I would not regard a few words on a public forum as proper contact with them at all.

As you say, though, each to their own.