Friends blowing trumpet

Robin-o'-the-Hood

This is the second thread on the same subject from the same individual. Take the advice. Don't be friends with them if them talking about their holidays bothers you that much, as it clearly does. It will make you very bitter as someone else pointed out. Concentrate on your own life. Would you be going on safari etc etc if they weren't? Probably not? So them going doesn't take away your ability to do so. Its not zero-sum.
Bear in mind that a whole third of British people don't have passports so there is more than you (and me!) not going away on 'big' holidays. (You could always tell them your green beliefs don't allow you to destroy the Earth by using long distance air travel. That you do worry for your children and your children's children and what will be left by our casual use of precious resources...Or something)
But at the end of the day, its their money.

hazyjo

I have friends who go to Spain for the summer, others who went on a £10k Disney/Florida trip this year with their 3 kids, others who are off on another trip to Oz/Singapore next year... tbh, I can't say I'm anything other than pleased for them


Jx

lewishardwick

Stop being a wet lettuce and get over yourself!

I am friends who are a couple. Both late 20's, have a 5 bed house, two cars, nice lifestyles. I'm not particularly jealous because they come home from work most evenings only to work more and have dinner in their 'home office'.

I come home, have my dinner and relax. I don't earn as much, but I am very happy and VERY GRATEFUL with my life.
There are no doubt many many more people worse off than you. Quit your whining and creating multiple threads!

jemb

If this is the second thread the OP has posted, jealousy is really an ugly trait.

paddy's_mum

Many years ago, I went to type up some important documents for an old and valued friend who was at the time live-in security advisor to a very wealthy couple - think top 100 richest folk in the world, former business partners of Mr Trump, living in a grade I mansion in the Home Counties etc etc.

My friend let me into the house but Mrs Loadsamoney had forgotten that I was expected and when, out of the corner of her eye, she caught a sudden glimpse of a stranger (me) carrying a large dark (typewriter) case, almost fainted with fear and shock. So great was her panic that she fell back against the furniture in a near collapse of terror. It turned out that the family had suffered multiple threats to kidnap and ransom their son, contaminated syringes through the mail, death threats...you name it.

Her fear hurt my heart and I clearly remember going home and saying to my family that if the price of having wealth made normal life completely out of my grasp, then I genuinely would not want it. I have never wavered from that view in the years since.

I feel very sorry for people who are in want of nothing and so glad that in my own life there are still things I aspire to!

Ganga

I can understand the friends taking plenty of holidays,we have just retired and this year have been abroad four times. Why - well we both worked hard all of our lives,i used to work about 50/60 hours a week for the overtime and the money that it generated but that was our choice,now we are both in our 60s and as there no pockets in a shroud we intend to enjoy life,we have made provision for our only son when we get to put on the wooden overcoat.
Telling our friends when they ask about our sun tan can be explained without braging,we just say we cannot take it with us so spending it whilst we are able.

Proxima_Centauri

I imagine, if they're retired, they're of the baby-boomer generation. A lot of them are very well off.

Muscle750

Taking everything everyone has said on board i knew id get ripped i expected it. Just things are boiling up My OH is having to give work up at christmas due to ill health and they feel pretty bad about having to do so and the implications it will bring but its our problem and its life. And the last thing we need is what the original post was about, ................and as for the quote on if they had public sector pension ................yes and ill leave it there

annandale

You haven't been ripped. You just need to stop comparing your life with everyone else's. I've lost two family members to suicide. I felt like giving up many times. I didn't.

Other people's holidays are the least of my worries

annandale

Sometimes you need to step back and realise that so many people on this planet are suffering much more than we are.