Friends blowing trumpet

annandale

In 100 years time every single person posting on this thread will be gone.

Do you really want to spend the short time you have on this planet grizzling about other people having more holidays than you?

Perspective

lika_86

I agree with the poster above, nobody has ripped you over this but you posted about the same thing a few months ago and had some good advice. Now you're posting about the same thing again (having seemingly done nothing about the situation) and are expecting what? Yes it sucks, but that's life. Deal with it or find different friends.

annandale

There are some threads on this board that are just misery and I totally get that some people are going through very hard times but we all do.

Some people need to give themselves a shake and appreciate what they have

FBaby

If your friends are not supportive during this time when your OH will be losing their job, the frankly there are not friends and the question you should be asking is why you hang on to a supposed friendship that seems more toxic than rewarding. If that happens, move on!

d70cw6

why dont you earn more money and do the same if you're that put out by it?

C_Mababejive

Listen up OP, is it as bad as THIS >>??

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8Kum8OUTuk


If it is as bad as that, then i would distance myself from such people for they are not real friends.

But if they are just ordinary people who are enjoying their retirement then you have to consider that they have worked all their lives, they maybe dont have many years left and are just trying to enjoy those years together whilst they can.

There is a man with a black cape and a sickle chasing all of us.

When we are young, well we dont even know he is there.

When we get to maybe 30 ish, we can see a little black speck in the distance. Its far away and not too much of a concern.

When you get to fifty, well you can almost make him out,,hes a lot closer now and you realise who he is !!

Add a nother decade or two and well,,you can feel his breath on your neck.


Now having been dragged up in poverty, im not the materialistic type.

My long suffering partner will attest to this as every Christmas she asks what i want and i always say nothing !

But i have a few sayings,, one is,, Your health is your wealth..

and the other,

Well no matter how big/wealthy/whatever you have got,,someone has always got something bigger/better.

It doesnt matter if its houses, wives, yachts, cars, physical err attributes,,someone can always best you in some way..so dont worry about it.

minimacka

On the flip side to this we have just been on a dream holiday travelling down the east coast of America for 2.5 weeks. We had such a lovely time and yes it cost us a lot of money but our children are grown up and we now feel that we have given our children a really good life (still do) and now its our time to treat ourselves. We are only in our late 40's both with really good jobs.


Although they asked us about it they didn't ask in depth I feel that I cannot really speak to my family about our holiday because I feel that we are rubbing their noses in it. This is not the case we just had an amazing time and wanted to talk about our experiences and what we saw.

pollypenny

We've spent most of our adult lives juggling the pennies, robbing Peter to pay Paul and all those cliches. However, now the hard work work has paid off, as has the contributions we both made to our pension schemes.

We can enjoy life without worrying - for the first time!

LilElvis

Muscle750 wrote: »

...............and as for the quote on if they had public sector pension ................yes and ill leave it there

Your wife is a teaching assistant? I always thought that members of the teaching profession worked in the public sector. What you actually mean is that your friend had a very highly paid job, regardless of whether it was in the public or private sector.

74jax

I think it depends how good friends you are.


I am that friend who takes as many holidays as I can, I love them, but I can also thankfully afford them.


I have been a single mum for the majority of DD's life. Up until 4 years when I got married.


Prior to then I went through times when I couldn't eat to make sure my DD could eat, I had no central heating and single glazed windows it was really cold an would frost up on the inside. But I came through it. I started with The Sun Holidays, and then another one, eventually we were having maybe 4 of them each year.


I'm only saying this to show that it may just be 'how they are', they don't mean to say anything to rub you up the wrong way, but genuinely enjoy their breaks away.


If you are really good friends, I'd just ask them to not tell you about their holiday, but it does seem to me to be you reading more into it than them doing it deliberately.