Friends blowing trumpet

Muscle750

Some friends of ours who seem to have bottomless pits of money and have 4 plus big holidays a year inc Safaris a month plus in Carribean month in New Zealand etc are forever going on about their holidays and its beginning to seriously do our head in we cant afford a long weekend in Weymouth let alone anything else we both work as well. They are retired althou obviously retired early and before long somethings going to be said, we will never be able to afford such holidays and we just feel like our noses are been rubbed in it somewhat they even tell us how much it cost them.
Ok i know certain things money cant buy and alot are going to say that we are just envious but things like this are well out of our reach and we have tried to tell them about our odd day out here and there seeing if the penny drops but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. Only two weeks ago come back from three weeks on safari in Kenya i believe. Just wish we could treat ourselves to a nice holiday rather than working 60 hours pw Rip us to shreds if you want but had to say something to somebody Off to Cuba for nearly a month as well in a few days for christmas ................where oh where did we go wrong

LilElvis

How much do you value their friendship otherwise? If they are just casual friends you see occasionally then you probably won't miss them if you let the acquaintance Peter out. If they are close then just have a quiet word with one half of the couple and say that whilst you're glad that they are enjoying their retirement that it is sometimes hard for you to hear their stories knowing that you won't be in the same fortunate position. A good friend will be mortified that they have hurt your feelings.

melanzana

It only gets annoying when they insist on showing you the photos. LOL.

Self absorbed, not reading a situation.....hmmmm. Time to say goodbye, as the question I would ask myself is, what the heck is the point of listening to all this, does it make me happy to be with them? NO.

Bye bye. Life is far too short.

And you don't need five massive holidays a year to be happy either. So go figure out what's missing in THEIR lives!

gettingtheresometime

I understand where you are coming from but you never know how they got that money.

As an example both my parents in law are dead and when FIL died we inherited a sum of money which meant we could pay off our mortgage early. However both MiL & FIL died relatively young and if we could have had them still with us even though it would have meant we'd have had 10 more years of paying a mortgage & less ability to have nice holidays .....we would

gardner1

You may find they haven't got a pot to pi55 in....they could be up to eyeballs in debt

we know a couple who have massive income and are skint and in debt.....they have no idea about money and it goes through their hands like water

thorsoak

Don't let what they have and do impinge upon your lives. Its not worth feeling envious.

judy2357

Muscle750 wrote: »

Some friends of ours who seem to have bottomless pits of money and have 4 plus big holidays a year inc Safaris a month plus in Carribean month in New Zealand etc are forever going on about their holidays and its beginning to seriously do our head in we cant afford a long weekend in Weymouth let alone anything else we both work as well. They are retired althou obviously retired early and before long somethings going to be said, we will never be able to afford such holidays and we just feel like our noses are been rubbed in it somewhat they even tell us how much it cost them.
Ok i know certain things money cant buy and alot are going to say that we are just envious but things like this are well out of our reach and we have tried to tell them about our odd day out here and there seeing if the penny drops but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. Only two weeks ago come back from three weeks on safari in Kenya i believe. Just wish we could treat ourselves to a nice holiday rather than working 60 hours pw Rip us to shreds if you want but had to say something to somebody Off to Cuba for nearly a month as well in a few days for christmas ................where oh where did we go wrong

It may be easier if you look at it from a different angle, ie appreciating what you do have and maybe you might have something that they would swap in a blink of an eyelid. Do you have healthy beautiful children, grandchildren a lovely partner etc. We are in a similar position only manage one holiday a year etc and must admit if we had the money we would go away as much as possible but definitely would not swap travelling for our lovely family.

Losing my dad 2 years ago made me appreciate what we have especially my 84 year old mum, rather than what we cant afford to do.

Twopints

OK, I'll bite. Did they used to work in the public sector, and are their pensions gold-plated?

Knightsuntold

It sounds to me as though you're getting very little out of this friendship - perhaps it's time to put a bit of distance there. The subtle hints aren't working, and I don't think you want to tackle it head on (I don't blame you for that.)

balletshoes

OP if it made you feel better to have that rant to a bunch of strangers on t'internet, then thats good.

Unless your friends are nasty and vindictive people, they're unlikely to be telling you about their long holidays abroad just to rub your noses in it. Its how they spend their time now, what else would they talk about when they see you? How often is that, anyway? Are they close friends or just people you socialise with every so often?

Tiddlywinks

I doubt they are telling you about their trips just to make you feel bad.

Your reactions and feelings of jealousy are saying more about how you feel about yourself than anything else. I'd even guess that they don't talk about it as much as you feel they do.... things that irritate us tend so seem bigger than they really are.

Should your friends really have to keep quiet about their trips? Can't you just be pleased for them?