Advice on buying the wrong house

Buddy1990

No the size of her old house has nothing to do with it. It's the noise from neighbours she's having trouble with. They are a young couple with 3 children and just let them run loose at all hours by the sounds of it. If it's not the kids you can hear it's there music. I'm
In to minds weather or not to speak to them. They seem the type that think they can do what they want when they want, and i don't want to make it worse by goin around one day and explaining there a tad noisey

ViolaLass

But if you don't even ask them to be quieter, they won't do anything to fix it.

My neighbours had very noisy sex at 1am. After I asked them to stop (twice) they appeared to get the message.

Buddy1990

They have allways got people round there Aswell so there's never a good time to nip round for a chat. I just feel they will tell me to f@@@ off and then make our lives even worse.

Nebulous2

Buddy1990 wrote: »

They have allways got people round there Aswell so there's never a good time to nip round for a chat. I just feel they will tell me to f@@@ off and then make our lives even worse.

If you end up in a dispute with your neighbours you may need to declare it when you are selling. That could then impact on how easy it is to sell.

I've been in my house for over 20 years and I don't ' feel' anything for it. Or if I do I haven't worked out what it is. It works for us though, which is why we've stayed.

House buying is always a compromise. You trade off what you want with what you can afford with whats available at the time. So, a flat in good central position or a house further out? An extra bedroom, with a smaller garden near a busy road?

You get the picture. It's never perfect, just fills more of your positives, with fewer of your negatives.

There's also the point of where you start. Few people I know move straight to a house. A year renting a flat would have given you a trial of living together and running a property. I doubt very much if your girlfriend's parents started in a detached. They would have worked up to it over time.

manuel_ritz

What are your plans after you sell that wrong house? Are you renting now? That kind of situation actually happened to us before but instead of leaving the house we still live here and just improve it. I think it's not practical to sell the house especially if we just bought it a few years ago. Probably you need to think twice.

spidereyes

Buddy1990 wrote: »

It's the noise from neighbours she's having trouble with. They are a young couple with 3 children and just let them run loose at all hours by the sounds of it. If it's not the kids you can hear it's there music.

Is the sound worse in a particular room? If so I honestly recommend soundproofing.

Our lounge and my neighbours lounge are adjoining and my elderly neighbour is deaf, his tv is so loud you can hear it half way up the street, it was totally horrific when we first bought the place and thought it was a total mistake, but we made it work.

We did a diy soundproof job on the adjoining wall, in effect we now have a second wall in our house, it's basically battens attached to the existing wall, sound insulation (looks a bit like loft insulation) in between a new layer of acoustic plasterboard. It cost us a couple of hundred quid, lost about 4inches of room space and a few weekends work of graft but it was totally worth it. We finished it off with 4 tall ikea bookcases (£35 each) running along the length of the wall to absorb any further sound. The difference is unbelievable, now we either don't hear it at all (whilst you can still hear it clear as day at the far end of my garden) or it's a very low muffled sound which disappears if you make your own noise - tv/music etc.

As someone who suffered from severe anxiety, and find noise very stressful I do feel your pain but from my experience I've had problems in every place I've ever rented and as this is ours it's the first place I've been able to make the situation bareable!

DavidF

Not meaning to sound rude but your OH is coming across as a little "precious" the way you have worded your op and your subsequent replies. Maybe also you are being dragged down and in turn being a little over protective ?
So what to do ? Well you could "properly" sound proof your house, You could ask the neighbors to quiet down in the evening if possible, Or you could move.
The issue with moving is, Where are you going to move to ? Will it definitely solve the issue ? If either of you move back to parents 1. Do they want you back 2. Are you both actually ready for moving in together.
Don't take my not ready comment personally as many people find they don't cope very well when they 1st move out and many do find themselves drawn back to the nest as it were.
You do have choices and none of them are going to kill you off...maybe hurt you financially but as you know you signed the papers, im afraid it's either stay put or suck up those fee's.

ViolaLass

Have you talked to the neighbours since moving in?

Gone over to introduce yourselves? Do you know their names?

Start with that. They're probably not scary but if you keep building them up in your head rather than getting to know them, nothing will ever change.

This is part of living in your own house, it won't go away even if you move.

suki1964

You are probably making a mountain out of a molehill about the noise. As you say the gf has fixated on it and can hear every little sound

So make your own noise to counteract their noise


I lived in a terrace where if I was home alone, I could hear the fella next door go to the loo, and I don't mean hear the toilet flush

So I always kept a radio or tv on whilst at home. I focused on that noise and didn't hear the other noise


Also you say you are 'rattling around'. Can it also be that your home is sparsely furnished? The more things you have in a room, the less echo you get back. We had a massive extension built and before I had it decorated and filled with furniture and stuff, you just couldn't hear yourself think in there

Right now in the house I'm in now, we have enough bathrooms that all three of us have one each, we could have 2 bedrooms each if we wished. I'd say like you we live in just three rooms. The rest, I just go in once a week to dust, freshen. But I wouldn't be without them, the soon are needed when the kids, grandkids, odds and sods turn up

Your first home is a huge shock to the system. My first, I thought I was in a holiday let and wasn't staying. Took about a year before I thought of it as home

missbiggles1

Buddy1990 wrote: »

Kids would solve the problem but not for another 9 months. On a serious note tho. There not loud as such you can just hear everything impact noise wise. We never really hear shouted crying just the kids running around upstairs front door opening closing ect. It's a mix between poor sound proofing between the houses and the fact there's 3 young children. But the move we hear it the more we focus on it and hear it more. Obviously kids make noise because I knew I did,just after work when you want to sit and relax in peace you don't want to hear someone else children playing , and I don't mean that in a funny nasty way. Mg gf isn't taking it well tho she's working her self up and getting quite ill in the process. and won't let her brain switch off that she's ruined the rest of her life ect because we can't see a way out. We would like to just sell but we've saved hard for that money. Plus we want to buy again so every bit of money counts. Is there anyway to get out of early repayment charge. I'm guessing not.

But you said earlier that you only use the living room for an hour each evening. Are you saying that the children are running around making a noise during the night?