Financial help after a split.

enthusiasticsaver

I agree you are enabling her and I would not be sleeping on the sofa. I know it is hard when you are depressed but if you are working you need a decent nights sleep in a bed. If she has a problem with that then let her move out or sleep on the sofa. This is her problem and only she can deal with it. You are having to deal with the consequences but you can limit the affect it has on you.

You wont be able to sell the car unless she is prepared to sign the transfer document as presumably it is registered in her name.

I would also cancel the car insurance and let her deal with any subsequent problems. She will not stop gambling until she hits rock bottom. My suggestion is you protect yourself. Pay your rent, bills and save up for your own future.

Andrew_Ryan_89

You're separating because of her gambling. Why would you want some of her gambling money?

Bogalot

Telina wrote: »

I am now in the care of Avon and Somerset mental health trust, I have to take strong and addictive anti-depressants just because of this.

There are many non addictive ADs available. Speak to your care team if this is a concern for you.

Yorkielassy

Maybe it's about time you allowed her to take responsibility for herself & her actions, instead of attempting to mop up after her all the time.
Take control of your own life & leave them to get on with theirs.
You are fighting a losing battle by the sounds of it.
Cancel the insurance.

surveyqueenuk

Telina wrote: »

I did think of that, but I don't want her to be arrested as she will certainly still drive it and subsequently have recovery and storage fees plus fine and points.

That's her problem, not yours.

DCFC79

Cancel the insurance and get her out of the place.

She needs help badly.

TheSilentMeow

They guy didn't come here to get relationship advice or to be judged, he asked a question.

So to answer. No, you can't sell the car because it is legally her property. If you feel she owes you money and are able to provide evidence you can make a claim against her in the claims court. If you're successful she will get a county court judgement. Eventually if she does not pay it can be escalated resulting in enforcement officers turning up at her home and if she can't pay and the car is there and she has no other assets of any value, they can seize it and sell it to get you your money back.

paddy's_mum

TheSilentMeow wrote: »

They guy didn't come here to get relationship advice or to be judged, he asked a question.

That may be so but sometimes it is only when totally disinterested people with no axe to grind gather together and every single one of them shouts the b%^&*y obvious that a person so in thrall actually starts to hear the unpalatable facts that they have hitherto been deliberately deaf to.

TheSilentMeow

paddy's_mum wrote: »

That may be so but sometimes it is only when totally disinterested people with no axe to grind gather together and every single one of them shouts the b%^&*y obvious that a person so in thrall actually starts to hear the unpalatable facts that they have hitherto been deliberately deaf to.

Apart from the fact that realistically he knows full well she's no good for him. But do you not think every one in his family and most of his friends have told him the same thing? Yeah, he's come on a forum and suddenly people have told him the truth for the first time and he now sees the light. The reason he's stayed with the woman so long is because he's been in love with her, nothing critical anyone says to a person who's in love gets listened to. But it's bedside the point, even if you were right, it's still no one's problem, all he wanted was some advice about whether he could sell her car.

Guest101

Telina wrote: »

I really hope someone can help me please.
My partner and I are separating due to her compulsive gambling which has caused me mental health problems. Back in February she won £10,000 online after already promising that she would never gamble again for the 3rd time. She bought a car for £3,500 and without my knowledge has gambled the rest of it away. The car is registered in her name and the insurance is in mine. The car is currently still here and I was wondering if I can legally keep it.
My intention is to sell it as I believe I have a legal right to some of the money she won and didn't share at all with me.
Thankyou for any help.

Hahahah.... no. You have no such right