Failing as a parent :(

wendym

lynzpower wrote: »

you feel you are not cut out for the job and you should never have been a mum. End of the day, the situation is here, lets make the best of it. You can be a brilliant mum you just need to allow yourself to think

I am convinced that it's possible just to decide that you're going to be the best parent you can, in whatever circumstances you find yourself. In my case I did it partly to prove that my cold and disapproving childhood needn't influence how I treated my children. I wasn't on my own, but we were absolutely broke - I got books on child development from the library and learned invaluable stuff. We tend to feel that parenting skills and knowledge appear automatically by magic. I certainly needed to learn, for example, the developmental reason for 2 year old tantrums.

And I know from friends how great Gingerbread can be. The job is worth the effort, even if at times it seems just about impossible.

lynzpower

wendym wrote: »

I am convinced that it's possible just to decide that you're going to be the best parent you can, in whatever circumstances you find yourself. In my case I did it partly to prove that my cold and disapproving childhood needn't influence how I treated my children. I wasn't on my own, but we were absolutely broke - I got books on child development from the library and learned invaluable stuff. We tend to feel that parenting skills and knowledge appear automatically by magic. I certainly needed to learn, for example, the developmental reason for 2 year old tantrums.

And I know from friends how great Gingerbread can be. The job is worth the effort, even if at times it seems just about impossible.

Absolutely I agree wendy.

I have worked with many parents who think they re crap parents, when ultimately, its more that they felt , through their own experiences of being parented that they are "crap people" . Whatever they were doing, if they were working they would have thought they were ther "crap waitress" "crap secretary" whatever.

ONce you start equipping yourself, with the knowledge, then you can see the tide turn. Books are good, as is supernanny, lots of parents can then acknowledge what they are doing already, and add value to that.

Once you say "I can and bloody well WILL do this" the tide will turn for sure !

Good luck OP xx

wendym

"Once you say "I can and bloody well WILL do this" the tide will turn for sure ! "

Not a bad mantra for Life, Lynz!

And best wishes to the OP.