Should I just give up?

feater

Turns out that doc has said he is depressed so think I'll just bear with him for the time being.

Not sure about him getting scared (did think that myself early on) but at one point he was hiding my pills to see if I'd forget to take them! He still wants kids and we are talking again so maybe I'll find out what's really going on sometime soon.

ceegee

feater wrote: »

.....had a bit of a reputation with woman so I didn't want to get hurt. He says that he wants me to move on and forget him but he'll make sarcastic comments about me probably having moved onto a new guy already (which I haven't but his ex before me messed him about a bit) and has said that he doesn't want me to meet anyone else.

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Sorry to sound harsh, but it looks to me as if he is "playing" with you and your emotions. I've been on the recieving end of this myself some years ago and I recognise the signs. You have said yourself that he has a reputation with women. Please don't have anything else to do with him.

So that's him sorted!

As for you .....is it him in particular that you want and are missing, or is it that you feel a bit lonely without a man at your side? The two things are quite different and I would say to you to go out and enjoy yourself and hopefully you will meet someone who is far more worthy of you and will treat you properly, with kindness, sincerity and consideration.

feater

Just a quick update. Ex came round for dinner last night and all was fine.. Then he just turned (like he has done for months).. All of a sudden everything was my fault.. I make him feel his age - he knows he is getting older but apparently hasn't felt his age before... He can't go out and get drunk and act foolish anymore (doc told him to drink lesss last year).. doesn't feel comfortable wearing clothes and accessories he used to wear. I dont' get along with his mates (ahem... this is a new one as his mates all ask about me when I'm not out so this is soooo not true, ). He wants to dance his weekends away while off his face etc.... but as that's not my sort of thing (dancing is fine just the recreational drugs I've never been into) we wouldn't see each other at weekends so what's the point of carrying on..

Can't believe the rubbish that was spouting (really just flowing...) out of his gob. I didn't even need to interrupt or encourage..he just went on an on and on and then said I should listen to myself and stormed out.

Thats it as far as I'm concerned.. When I want a mid life crises I'll get my own!

larmy16

He was right! You don't deserve him. Good luck and be your own best friend.;)

feater

Thanks, think it helped that he was soo cold about the whole thing. I text to say that i wouldn't put up with the verbal abuse and wouldn't be contacting him again.. his reply.. "probly fro the best. gbye"... He's just had a complete personality transplant.. he's not even the same person I knew before we got together.

feater

He has been offerered prescribed anti depressants but doesn't want to take drugs to feel better.. but then was moaning how he wanted to do recreational drugs as they make him happy.....

Confused.com is me

Sola

Stop fretting about it - he's an immature middle-aged man by the sounds of it and not your responsibility any more (he's made that quite clear). Forget him and enjoy your life - he sounds like a complete nob. Chalk it up to a lucky escape on your part.

feater

I know I have but it may take a while before I actually believe it. Doesn't help that we socialise in the same places and keep thinking that it will be another birthday and Xmas alone.. Been single on and off for over 6 years and just fed up to back teeth now

feater

I know I have but it may take a while before I really believe it.

Doesn't help that we socialise in the same places and keep thinking that it will be another birthday and Xmas alone.. Been single on and off for over 6 years (more off than on) and just fed up to back teeth now of even trying to meet someone or make things work.

conradmum

Mmmm. So as soon as you stopped chasing him suddenly he didn't like it and got peed off. What happened to "You'd be better off without me."? What a pr**k.

You're better off alone than with this sort of person.

I hope someone nice comes along for you soon. Don't feel embarrassed to do internet dating or personal ads. This is how I met my dh of 7 years!