Being excluded from events because your partner is not liked...

SuzieSue

Judi wrote: »

The second, he'd called one of our daughters friends an old trout on one of our daughters Facebook post a few weeks before our daughters wedding, not realizing that she could read what he'd said. Anyway, this 'old trout' caught up with him at the wedding reception and gave him a mouthful that he deserved.

Thank goodness it was at the end of the night and to this day hubby still doesnt think he did any wrong.

Ha ha. Sounds like my husband and technology. His daughter rang him up in a panic when his daughter in law (who he doesn't particularly like) set up a group on WhatsApp to remind him that everyone could see what he was saying even if he thought he was only replying to his daughter.

SuzieSue

Actually, what I find most puzzling about this thread is that the OP's friend would expect to be invited to the wedding because they do not have a direct relationship with the people getting married.

I don't think I would invite my son's wife's parents to my wedding let alone his girlfriend's parents. But perhaps some extended families are closer than mine.

Peter333

SuzieSue wrote: »

Actually, what I find most puzzling about this thread is that the OP's friend would expect to be invited to the wedding because they do not have a direct relationship with the people getting married.

I don't think I would invite my son's wife's parents to my wedding let alone his girlfriend's parents. But perhaps some extended families are closer than mine.

Yeah ... but her son's girlfriend's brother's family were invited... and they had only known them 6 months.

So by this token, our friend and her husband should have been invited too.

But it seems it's because they don't like her husband that they weren't invited.

SuzieSue

Judi wrote: »

Thats just it. He asked our daughter what she was doing being friends with an 'Old Trout' (she had posted previously). As far as he was aware, he posted to a comment on his newsfeed so that meant in his mind that no one other than our daughter could see it.

Son in Law isnt keen on him, hubby isnt keen on Son in Law so a lot of family functions we arent invited to.... except if its to do with our Grandson. The kids on the whole give us a wide berth. If theres something to say, Dad will say it. Whereas i am a little more diplomatic hubby just comes right out with it.

Sounds like our family. But neither me nor my husband mind because we both can't stand family functions. We are happy to meet, say, his son and girlfriend for a meal, but that is about it.

We have decided that we won't be going to my step grandson's christening because my husband's ex wife will be there and also because we don't like family functions. So we will take his son, girlfriend and son out for a meal at another time.

theoretica

Peter333 wrote: »

Yeah ... but her son's girlfriend's brother's family were invited... and they had only known them 6 months.

So by this token, our friend and her husband should have been invited too.

But it seems it's because they don't like her husband that they weren't invited.

When I am choosing people to invite to something I don't start with a list of how long I have known them. Does anyone?

SuzieSue

Peter333 wrote: »

Yeah ... but her son's girlfriend's brother's family were invited... and they had only known them 6 months.

So by this token, our friend and her husband should have been invited too.

But it seems it's because they don't like her husband that they weren't invited.

Yes, I see that. I find the fact the other parents were invited after only 6 months of going out even more surprising.

Peter333

SuzieSue wrote: »

Yes, I see that. I find the fact the other parents were invited after only 6 months of going out even more surprising.

Well yeah, especially as they have only met them twice in that 6 months for an hour each time! Our friend and her husband have met them a dozen times or more, and known them 2 years....... She thought they got on so well, and was surprised to not be invited. Not upset but surprised. She was upset when she found out why though!

Person_one

Peter333 wrote: »

Well yeah, especially as they have only met them twice in that 6 months for an hour each time! Our friend and her husband have met them a dozen times or more, and known them 2 years....... She thought they got on so well, and was surprised to not be invited. Not upset but surprised. She was upset when she found out why though!

Its a bit odd that your friend knows so much detail about her son's girlfriend's brother's girlfriend's parents!

Peter333

Person_one wrote: »

Its a bit odd that your friend knows so much detail about her son's girlfriend's brother's girlfriend's parents!

Well it's not really 'a lot of detail!' She just knows that they have only met twice in 6 months. That's hardly a lot of detail.....

Robisere

Background: my brother is much older than me, which means I have nephews & nieces who also have children and are closer to me in age than their parents. OK? -

I blocked a great-nephew on FB because he mocked my spelling of a word, which was actually correct. (he is as thick as porcine exhaust) He also used obscene language in the 'Mock' session, makes a habit of it on FB, he is a very objectionable, aggressive thug. I informed him of the corrected version and that I was going to block him, and did so. The rest of his aunts have now blocked me, but his remaining uncle would not do so and we are still in contact. Apparently they have informed their aged parents about this, which means that my brother no longer speaks to me. As we never did get on anyway and I live two counties away, I am totally indifferent to them all, with the exception of my nephew.

My attitude is screw them, not one except my nephew has ever visited any home that my wife and I shared, even when we lived just a mile apart, although I was expected to visit them. We have our own family and many friends and need them no more that they seem to need us.

You can choose friends, you are not extended the same choice regarding family.