Eviction notice served

earwig

mumoftwins wrote: »

Good idea about the comparable rented properties earwig - thank you! Have printed some off Rightmove for the council tomorrow. Will speak to HL Officer also tomorrow about your other suggestion and apply for crisis loan also when at council offices.

no problem but you need to phone your local job center for a crissis loan they will ethier give you an appioment for a claim or send you a claim pack in the post good luck with it all

earwig

floss2 wrote: »

Earwig - as you can see from the above quote posted at 10.25 this morning - MOT is already doing that.

PM me if you need to chat, MOT!

Love Floss xx

well im so sorry i dared mentioned it again floss if you have nothing usefull to say to me then dont i am like you only trying to help op with this problem i dont need your sarcastic comments

giveagiggle

Thanks again earwig for seeing my point. It was looking from the councils POV as you have (although you never got called a moron for it!). And the HB was completely relevant. It all was.

MOT, my 'comments' were in no way meant to be hurtful and for that I completely apologise. Like I said, I really DO sympathise with your situation. Believe this or not, I've been in a similar circumstance myself where I had to use HB payment for living because I was waiting for a claim to go through but it had a dispute on it, not sure how the HB managed to go through though without the other claim, a lady in the jobcentre wrote a letter for me and that seemed to help it through, HB went through really quick. Got myself in a terrible rut over it and when the landlord approached the council about my rent being behind the council got straight on my case and forced me to pay it back (as they would and rightly so) but I got charged other charges on top etc and threatened to be taken to court by the council for theft no less, on top of that got my other claim stopped. This wasn't a personal attack and before others start to judge just remember there's a lot of us that have been though it or are going through it. MOT You've been gracious and dignified enough to let everyone know your circumstance but not everyone is as able to be so open. Your great attribute is your ability to be able to speak openly and without shame and by doing that you've seen you're not alone. I didn't tell anyone about my troubles and my life went (fart noise) downhill as quick as you can say a fart noise! I never asked advice, I never knew the avenues I could go down, it was awful. But I got through it and I know you can too. The bright thing about this move for you is that its a chapter closed. I didn't divulge anything about me because to me it is a chapter in my life best forgotten and quite honestly I didn't want it known now as much as I didn't then. This is how I'm able to understand, empathise and completely sympathise with you, because I do understand. I just want that record set straight about this. I know a lot more these days than I did back then when it happened to me. If my words came out wrong then please accept my apologies but it wasn't meant to hurt you. There is a light at the end of this. It never seems it when life gets you every angle you turn but thats why we have an inbuilt fighting mechanism in us, you've proved today you can use that by biting back at me so channel that fighting spirit into something positive and look forward to your move. Its a chance to get this (dare I say knob ed) landlord out of your life.

mumoftwins

Thanks gag, you've brought a big smile to face !

I do understand that some people find it difficult to talk about things, but the one thing I have learnt in life is when to talk and when not to - this is talking time! Having never been in this situation before I have found it very difficult to know which way to turn, but am now becoming more knowledgeable - mainly thanks to you all on here

Have rung Crisis Loans at JBC to be left hanging then it rings off - ah, well nothing's easy:rolleyes: just keep trying!

Gillianh2

Hi MOT,
I have followed this thread and as I have had nothing constructive to add to all the great advice you have recivied I have just read thru each day.
I just felt today that I had to post a big (((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))) to you and the twins. You are doing a fantastic job your strength is mindblowing the Twins are very very lucky to have a Mum like you.
I hope and Pray that things improve very soon. Try to look on the forced move as a "Fresh" start tmwr is the start of a new future for you and the twins.

)))))))))))))))))))HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))
Maybe try to have a little time for yourself in all of this stress just a nice hot bubble bath at the end of the day to help you unwind.

mumoftwins

Hi Gillian - you've made me cry!

It's just that when people say such nice things about my kids and what a good Mum I am it's so lovely cos I feel that I am a bit of a grumpy Mum these days! Though the twins do get lots of kisses and hugs I sometimes feel I haven't so much time to devote to them chat wise like before as my mind is racing with thoughts of what's happening or I'm scouring the internet for advice and the best way to handle things. Still, they're becoming knowledgeable on this too! They are aware of what is going on but not the seriousness of it all - they're too young to be exposed to the worry.

giveagiggle

And one other small thing... I'm actually taking my ex employer to court as we speak for a very complex case. I'm nervous of the outcome but I know I have a strong case and since going through this myself its amazing how much information I've found out about different employment laws and loopholes etc. So far I haven't paid for anything even though I have a great solicitor, the bill will come later on after the court case. But I only mentioned about taking your ex employer to court because I wasn't sure on what grounds your grievance procedure was ended and how exactly your employment ended and to me you have a very strong case for a few things, but as I said it depends on how the employment was ended, that only reduces your case by one thing. I have read this thread inside out beginning to end and my hat's back on to those who said I haven't. The ex landlord part, (not this one) I just felt you'd been stitched up and at some point you need to get your justice in this world. So far you've been stitched beginning to end and thats what riles me. I feel as though you've been bullied into giving up when you have every right to fight for what is either rightfully yours or what is simply your human right. If I'm wrong here then please put me in my place, I am just so tired of seeing people done wrong, including myself. This is what I mean by that fighting instinct - we all here want to fight for you.

mumoftwins

Bullying is the right word!

Bullying by ex, bullying by him over the house and settlement money, bullying by boss at work (not just me but all 3 females - I was the only one who spoke up to the powers that were) now bullying by LL, and it feels like all 'officialdom'.

Still we have to fight for ourselves these days, so must get on and fill in Crisis Loan form (downloaded off website - couldn't get through on phone :mad: ).

giveagiggle

Please, I hope you can see that I was never attacking you now. I was putting across from the councils POV and how they are probably seeing it (thats what they did to me). Thats why they said what they did to you about intentional homelessness etc. The rest of what I said was only advice as the complete story wasn't there. It wasn't a "why haven't you bothered with this n that" it was supposed to be "did you know you could do this n that". Also, forgot to ask, you might be sick of me now but your chiropractor (if thats spelt right) treatment... why on earth did your doc never send you for that on NHS? It's an outrage! I suffer with Osteoarthritis in my hips, back, hands and feet, was told I'd probably be in a wheelchair by the time I'm 40 because of it (I'm actually very young to have it) but the doc put me in for NHS physio straight away. I'm not doing it now as the physiotherapist said it was too widespread and they only dealt with more localised stiffness and pain, they told me to try other methods - by the by - your injury is different from my ailings. I ask because being referred and getting it on NHS might be looked on more favourably than going private if you decided to do a claim for your injury (and you should do it). (I assume coz you pay for your chiropractor it's private?). And again, if you could get it on NHS your doc should've been working harder for you. So again - is this you being stiffed by others? We're in different parts of the country here anyway and I understand different counties work different but the amount you're being stitched by from council etc is terrible. Sorry about going on about claims here and claims there, I realise you have other pressing issues at the moment but you also have a certain amount of time to make claims and do things and with your financial situation as stretched as it is, why the heck not go out and say 'up yours' to the ones that have taken you for a ride and take back whats yours for once?... why should you suffer? Friends?

giveagiggle

on a separate side completely to all I've said - I really hope your mum is ok and as for your kids - kids are so resilient, as much as you may think you don't give them enough kisses n hugs, they will understand why even if they don't fully understand the whole picture, they'll still know you love them just as much. I can still remember what I felt like when my mum went through divorce & upheaval, she was going through hell and I regularly came home to her when she was upset, but I gave her hugs and slept with her at night when my dad wasn't there anymore. You'd be amazed at how much kids will understand! Even at such a young age as yours. They're there for you as much as you are for them and I bet you smile now as I say that :-)