Help! Need advice on living situation.

Smodlet

Monday is moving day? Yippee! If you get a chance to post that night I, for one (and, I strongly suspect, LL and Mutti for two and three) will raise a glass, virtual or actual to your new life and freedom. Well done, again rachaelfleur! :beer::j:T

rachaelfleur

Pick up the keys at 10.30am!! So unbelievably excited!! I will definitely let you know on Monday that I'm in and all settled.

greenbee

I was serious about the house sitting. I can't believe you've been paying him rather than him paying you. I don't think you can ask him for back pay since you agreed to pay him to live there (and as he was still using the house I'd say you were a lodger, rather than a tenant, but worth checking on the housing board if he gets difficult about notice), but I do think if he wants you to keep an eye on the place in future you can give him your rates (which should cover travel time and costs) and what you are prepared to do/how often, plus payment in advance with one month's notice to terminate the agreement). Keep any paperwork and declare it all to HMRC so there is no way he can pressurise you because you're working cash in hand. Explain that you need to do this as your priority is paying off your debts, and it would interfere with you doing overtime/getting a second job.

Of course, that's if you want to help him out. You could just say that you're moving too far away to make it viable, but give him details of house sitting agencies. (check their rates if you're going to offer to do this yourself).

Smodlet

Good advice, greenbee but, were I rachaelfleur, I would make a clean break; they heal more quickly. It is, of course, your call, rachaelfleur but, having worked up what sounded like considerable courage to make the break, further entanglement would seem not in your best interests... and, should you decide to provide any further house-sitting services, how about making it a condition that he gets rid of the CCTV???

enthusiasticsaver

Congratulations on getting your own place. My advice would be not to get involved in your brothers affairs from now on and make a clean break with contact on your terms from now on. He sounds like a complete control freak. Ignore the request for rent or tell him you paid Septembers rent at end of August.

rachaelfleur

Yeah think it'll just be a clean break. I'm so sick of all the BS so for my own peace and happiness there'll be no more contact unless necessary.

Smodlet

Good for you. Your life, your terms. If you decide you want contact with whoever, your terms, lady. Proud of you.

S x

rachaelfleur

So spent my first night in my apartment last night and it was amazing! Just the best feeling ever! So glad to be out of my brothers control and watchful eye. I haven't responded to any of the emails he sent me over the weekend, in fact most of them just got deleted without being read. His wife contacted me and I explained to her that I don't owe any money and I haven't heard anything since.

Very happy person today!! I have to thank you all for the support given to me, I really appreciate it.

Teacher2

rachaelfleur wrote: »

Yeah unfortunately his wife just does what she's told. Has never had to stand on her own two feet and probably never will. I haven't told him anything about my new place and I don't intend to either. I've already been on to Royal Mail this morning about the redirection. I can't wait to move in to my new place and just be me!

Well done! Way to go.

lessonlearned

Wahoo. Well done Rachael.

Wishing you happiness in your new home.