Help! Need advice on living situation.

rachaelfleur

So I sent the email last night and pretty much got the response I expected. He saw it coming and is concerned about the direction my life is going. Also had a dig at my partner too which I fully expected and gave a few suggestions on how to improve my life! Then went on to say it would be good if I could still check on the house for him. And the unbelievable part was he said I still owe him £1000 for September!! I pay at the end of the month for the following month so as far as I'm concerned September has been paid! Absolutely. O mention of the money he owes me in gas/electric overpayments and rent reductions when they live there! He's not getting a penny from me. I don't have it to give him anyway cause I've just paid the deposit and one months rent for my new place. I'm absolutely disgusted with him right now!! From a guy who earns 11K a month plus.

greenbee

If I were you I would tell him what your house-sitting fees are...

lessonlearned

Wow....

So much has happened so quickly. How exciting.

Well done you.

Enjoy your new flat.

Don't worry about your brother, he'll get over it.

And if doesnt that's his problem.

Time for your new life.

Have fun.

lessonlearned

greenbee wrote: »

If I were you I would tell him what your house-sitting fees are...

:rotfl::rotfl:

Hell yeah, he's had an easy ride. A good tenant who looked after his property.

He's probably upset that he's going to have to take some responsibility for his own property now and that he will have lost his cheap "hotel" for home visits. :rotfl:

rachaelfleur

greenbee wrote: »

If I were you I would tell him what your house-sitting fees are...

That's exactly what my other half said!

His attitude has just confirmed that I'm absolutely 100% doing the right thing!

Teacher2

The CCTV thing is NOT all right. Your brother has no right to spy on you and interrogate you about who visits the house. I should leave as soon as possible if I were you.

Muttipops

Rachael,
Compared to the lady who first wrote on here you have come a long way; standing up for yourself has done you a lot of good. I am so pleased you didn't just stay in the situation.
As to your brother, I hope he settles down soon and I suppose you will have much less to do with him once you are nolonger his tenant and he has lost his position of power. Just keep standing firm and if possible try to see the situation as humerous, because it's hard to get wound up about things if you can instead laugh at them.
Good luck with the final hurdle on your debt free journey of that last bit of money to pay off and enjoy that first evening in your new flat; i can imagine it now with one very happy lady putting her feet up.:)

Smodlet

I am sorry, rachaelfleur, but your brother sounds more and more obnoxious and bullying with every post you write about him. He needs to wake up and smell the coffee, imho. I feel sorry for his poor wife... unless he's completely under the thumb? I have had the misfortune to have a manager like that in my time. He came across as the big "I am" and everyone in the whole office was afraid of him, he was horrible. Then, I met his wife and saw he was terrified of her, completely at her beck and call. Jus' sayin'.

I would make darn sure he does not know your new address and suggest you get your mail redirected a.s.a.p... you don't want to come home one day to a shiny new CCTV camera on your front door.

rachaelfleur

Yeah unfortunately his wife just does what she's told. Has never had to stand on her own two feet and probably never will. I haven't told him anything about my new place and I don't intend to either. I've already been on to Royal Mail this morning about the redirection. I can't wait to move in to my new place and just be me!

rachaelfleur

Muttipops wrote: »

Rachael,
Compared to the lady who first wrote on here you have come a long way; standing up for yourself has done you a lot of good. I am so pleased you didn't just stay in the situation.
As to your brother, I hope he settles down soon and I suppose you will have much less to do with him once you are nolonger his tenant and he has lost his position of power. Just keep standing firm and if possible try to see the situation as humerous, because it's hard to get wound up about things if you can instead laugh at them.
Good luck with the final hurdle on your debt free journey of that last bit of money to pay off and enjoy that first evening in your new flat; i can imagine it now with one very happy lady putting her feet up.:)

I feel totally different! Certainly much happier knowing I'm gone on Monday and that first night will be amazing!!