sexual harassment on seetec course?

andygb

supermario1965 wrote: »

You're overreacting. It's just a bit of fun.

And you are a nasty troll, so go and get lost, because your input is not valuable in a post such as this.

YouAsked

xapprenticex wrote: »

I'm calling B.S. on that.

You can tell a woman she look pretty or has nice legs and some will get triggered by that, that is not sexual harassment regardless of what they may think.

Now if they say "Dont say that" and you continue, then yeah, thats an issue.

Um, do you work in the 1970s? Of course it's inappropriate to comment on someone's physical appearance (whether positively or negatively) in a work environment!

Yes, we've all got colleagues that we would consider friends, and that's ok, but if I'm giving a presentation and some random man says I have nice legs how is that anything other than inappropriate?

Undervalued

andygb wrote: »

And you are a nasty troll, so go and get lost, because your input is not valuable in a post such as this.

Which is not exactly valuable input either!

If the behaviour is exactly as the OP has described then, in my opinion, it certainly goes well beyond "a bit of fun" and needs to be stopped.

What the post you responded to illustrates though is that there will be wildly differing views on when fun / banter becomes unacceptable.

Back on page one I suggested how I felt the OP might best tackle the problem. I still believe, based on what we have been told in this thread, that would have been the most effective response.

However the OP has followed a different path and walked away which is a shame.

In amongst some of the rubbish that followed (some of which has been deleted) there has been a more reasoned debate about how an employer (or training provider in this case) should respond to a single unsubstantiated complaint about two or more people. Most likely they will deny the accusation and back each other up.

Sangie, with whom I normally agree on most issues on this forum, feels that the employer / training provider should take action against them despite their (assumed) denials and with no evidence apart from one complaint. S/he feels that they would be on "dangerous ground" if they do not.

My view is that, with no other evidence, they would be on "dangerous ground" if they do and on that point we will have to agree to differ.

Ultimately that is why I suggested that the OP should have had one go at dealing with the alleged problem herself and at the same time acquired some evidence to back up a formal complaint if one was still necessary.

cat_777

thanks again for all the advice guys, i have just sent my complaint letter today. just a bit worried now as i know he wont be happy when he finds out.

just hoping i will be able to find a job soon as most shops are looking for Christmas staff now.

sangie595

cat_777 wrote: »

thanks again for all the advice guys, i have just sent my complaint letter today. just a bit worried now as i know he wont be happy when he finds out.

just hoping i will be able to find a job soon as most shops are looking for Christmas staff now.

Fingers crossed for you. But just remember, he isn't supposed to be happy. He's supposed to grow up!

I hope you do get a job soon too.