Emotional abuse

AnotherJoe

Pollycat wrote: »

Well, you actually posted this:

'as bad as'?
'no better'?

I agree that the OP is enabling the behaviour of her fiance.
And it does sound like she doesn't deal with the issue very well - but she is aware of that so maybe she can change things there.

Fair enough I take your point, no better was poor phrasing on my point.
Not much better would have been, ermm, better.

DSmiffy

I'd say there's a control issue here..... If you don't laugh at his "jokes" he hides your phone ??

What happens next? He's tells you he doesn't like you seeing this person or that person, he stops you having an online account, he controls your money, what you wear etc etc. Before you know it he will be controlling everything you do and making out he is doing you a huge favour.

He's a control freak, and not a particularly nice person, this is how it starts, you need to recognise the signs.

marisco_2

Living with emotional abuse gradually erodes any self confidence and belief that you have in yourself and your feelings on your rights to be treated with respect.


It is clear to me that your partners behaviour is having a devastating affect on you. I cannot fathom what the attraction is to a person who thinks nothing of humiliating and threatening you. That you need time to decide to walk away from an individual (sorry but I cannot refer to him as a person or a man) who treats you so badly speaks volumes about how effective his abuse has been.


I am going to say it straight. Get out of this toxic connection while you can. His treatment of you will only get much worse. I cannot emphasise that enough.

breaking_free

marisco wrote: »

That you need time to decide to walk away from an individual who treats you so badly speaks volumes about how effective his abuse has been.

Exactly this. He has already got you wondering if it is you: are you over reacting, are you the one who is being unreasonable, are you just being over sensitive...

No. He's an abuser - he fits the description to a T. Please call Womens Aid as they help people day in, day out and will be able to assist you in asserting yourself.

Look after yourself and make yourself happy again.