22 Foxhole East

f0xh0les

Urgh, just about ready to rip someone's head off.  I do not like solicitors.  All manner of nonsense has gone on today, including them saying they were going to move completion date from Monday to Wednesday (????) which I did not agree to, and then, suddenly,  all the paperwork was where it was supposed to be, 5 minutes before the post was to go out. ... and they could email it to me - after telling me it was not possible.   Shonky Nonsense Merchants!!  So I told them to post it to me just to be difficult. 

Hopefully it will be here tomorrow, but even if it comes on Friday I can still have it back in the post and in their office Saturday morning.   Twits!!

So all being well, fingers and toes and legs and eyebrows crossed, the money will be with the solicitor on Monday morning.  The difficulty will be in getting it back out again.  I have cleared and sold a house in the time it has taken them to fail to close 3 bank accounts (they have managed 2) .  Very unimpressed.  Bet their bill is going to be HUGE! as well.

Replacement covers for the bath lift arrived today, so that will go on the local selling site tonight.  Have given it a flippin' good scrub.  Hopefully it will give me £100, it cost £30 for new covers, and the seat itself is still being sold for £330 in the Greek Boat Shop, but mine has been lightly used for a couple of years. 

Having baked sweet potato and baked beans for tea tonight. The scales will move tomorrow!! I am doing everything right, so I want results now!!

kerri_gt

Hey F0xh0les. We've been away for a few days (nearly a week) ooop north as haven't been up since BC (before Covid) due to travel restrictions. Pleased to say the airport both ends was thankfully pretty normal...which also reminded me how little i like airports and people who seem to pack their brains in their hold luggage (like the utter twonks who can stand in a queue for security for 30mins and still be surprised they need to separate their liquids 🤦‍♀️)

Sorry to hear about DS1. A bit extreme perhaps but could you remove all but the very essentials from his room until he has a job and earns them back?
I was another who never went home after uni, moved in with OH but also got various temp jobs straight away and managed to run our little household in a reasonable manner. 

Jellytotts

I knew from an early age that if I wanted anything other than the very basics I needed a part time job (worked from 13 in a hotdog/donut stall on the seafront, every weekend and school holiday until I was about to turn 16.  Did my last gcse on the Friday, turned 16 on the Saturday and started full time work on the Monday.  I was told the only other option was 6th form/college and on to Uni (which I didn’t want to do).  We said the same to our girls, both worked part time around school and college and both started careers after Uni/college.  There was no other option. We couldn’t afford to keep them and at 18/21 they needed to be independent.  

I’m with your DH on this one, shape up or ship out. He’s a fully grown man.  Might be worth laying down the law to the younger ones too so they know what’s expected.  

Suffolksue

sounds like we had similar childhoods Foxholes I left the day after I was 18 to start my nurse training many miles away .
rarely returned.
l always wonder if in my efforts to do things very differently,I went too far the other way ,my son is now45 and my daughter would have been 49 next month .so older than yours 
Think getting the balance right is v hard ,maybe once the others have returned to school you and OH can sit him down and lay it on the line 
what is DS 2 planning on doing ?

Flying_By

Breaking cover to ask might it be worth DS1 checking out apprenticeships? We are over the border from you but our careers service offers a wide range of links to available apprenticeships, and DS1 would be earning while learning. Maybe researching this would give him something to do, too!

Flying_By

I'm guessing DS would prefer to be near to home so would need to look at apprenticeships locally obvs, and best through a careers agency.

f0xh0les

DS3 cooked the boys their tea last night.   It was all on an oven tray, but still.  The smaller ones are learning!

DS1 went off to a jobs fair this morning, and came home and applied for a job.  Pat on the head. 

Then I told him he has to apply for more than one.  He has info he is looking at (he says) and has details of agencies.

I received the docs from the solicitor, took them across the road to a solicitors' office paid £10, they witnessed the signatures and the docs were back in the post 20 minutes after being delivered to me.  Scanned the pages that were signed  and sent them to the NI solicitors' office.  Radio silence.   All looking good for Monday.  I cannot wait for this to be over.  It sucks.

Took up 2 pairs of DS4's school trousers an inch.

Made a list of all the people I need to call on Monday during my work breaks to cancel insurance, rates and power.

There is one bank which has not transferred funds to the solicitor, so I am going to ring them tomorrow and find out what is going on. It is only £12k in that account, but still it needs to be done so that I can never speak to these solicitors again.

Now, what shall I do to celebrate when this is all over?  I have never had money before.  Ever.

jennystarpepper

Nice to hear house is coming to a end and DS1 has started a job hunt.

My step child 'dropped' out, they are now in a job and are happy.  I think you are doing an amazing job by not going in 'gun's blazing and taking  things off him or making things feel like a punishment... this style of parenting does not work (in my opinion), although a few food bank hours would be good though if only for a work reference.  

Life is not easy at his age and having people on your back when you have made a bit of a cook-up makes things worse,  you  don't need anyone pointing out your mistakes!

Onwards and upwards to you all. X

greent

All celebrations should involve cake as a minimum! 🍰🍰

jennystarpepper

P.s... having extra pennies, can you all have a trip together... memories last forever?