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trix-a-belle

I'm glad SG was still in the hospital and hadn't convinced them to let her out, & that it was fairly swift and painless. My experience is medical staff are either absolutely top notch or utter fluff at those critical end of life points, the on call Dr who came (7! hours after putting in the call) to certify the death of a family member I helped with in their last weeks sat looking at the extremely frail before its time body on a hospital bed in the living room surrounded by medical gubbins and asked 'was it expected?' & tried to make small talk

A celebration of the person is always better than mourning their passing. That's super swift organisation & despatch! Over this way its ~6 weeks to get a slot at the moment.
I'm sat here chuckling like an idiot at the idea of andrex as party favours

Hopefully the boys continue to maintain their ability to fend for themselves mostly while you are back so you can take a proper breather

Orangetoes

Glad to hear that SG's passing was not painful. She is very lucky to have had you to sort everything out so well. You have done an amazing job. 
As others have said make sure you take time for you to rest and recover. 
X

Deni_debt-free_dreamer

Hi f0xh0les

Lovely to have you back.

What you said about SG:  "She did not suffer, she was in no pain, it was a good death." that's the best you can hope for isn't it.
I'm sure it was a fab funeral if you organised it, sounds like you did her proud with a celebration of her life.

Hope you can get some time to yourself to rest and reflect before you are back there like a whirling dervish doing all that needs to be done

love Deni x

Cornish_mum

Dear Foxholes, I am really sorry to hear about your step-gran, do take care of yourself CM

kerri_gt

So sorry to hear about SH F0xh0les, I for one will miss hearing about her latest antics and whom she'd fallen out with from you and although I know it's not amusing when you're at the coal face of it all (my mum used to dispair at each visit to bed bound grandma when without fail she'd regail a list of those she'd 'wiped the floor with' since our last visit).

A swift and painless final exit is all you could wish for and glad she was blessed with that. The old photos of her sound lovely. It's easy to forget who someone once was isn't it. 
Her send off sounds wonderful (given circumstances). The cardboard coffin is one I've not come across before. Wicker yes but card no.

I told OH if i went first i want to be cremated into one of those bio pot things and grown into a tree, he thinks I'm being daft. Knowing my luck a dog would come and p*ss up me...

Do take time to rest yourself and grieve. Sending hugs. X

Chrystal

kerri_gt said:

So sorry to hear about SH F0xh0les, I for one will miss hearing about her latest antics and whom she'd fallen out with from you and although I know it's not amusing when you're at the coal face of it all (my mum used to dispair at each visit to bed bound grandma when without fail she'd regail a list of those she'd 'wiped the floor with' since our last visit).

A swift and painless final exit is all you could wish for and glad she was blessed with that. The old photos of her sound lovely. It's easy to forget who someone once was isn't it. 
Her send off sounds wonderful (given circumstances). The cardboard coffin is one I've not come across before. Wicker yes but card no.

I told OH if i went first i want to be cremated into one of those bio pot things and grown into a tree, he thinks I'm being daft. Knowing my luck a dog would come and p*ss up me...

Do take time to rest yourself and grieve. Sending hugs. X

I think I may have woken next door neighbors, laughing so hard that I had tears running down my face at that comment )

Foxholes I'm thinking that SG went in the way she would have wanted.  It doesn't get much better than that after a long life.  XXX

joeyjimbles

So sorry about SG but as someone else put it, that is the best you can hope for with everything she had going on, and it sounds like you gave her a good send-off.

A thought to consider, and it may be different where you bury SG but it took 6 months before we were allowed to erect the gravestone when we lost my parents in the last couple of years. 6 months from the last internment, something to do with the earth settling enough but that could be just where we happened to be. 

Hope it is as straightforward to deal with as the professionals say, and you take some time for yourself too.

f0xh0les

Thanks, but she is in the top bunk with her mum & dad and husband.  The gravestone has been there a good old while. She is the last one to be put in there.  The normal rule over there is to be buried within 3 days of death, but her brother and sister both said they wanted to come over if there was going to be a funeral, but not if she was just dying in hospital, and then when I rang to tell them there was to be a funeral, they mucked me about for another 2 days before coming clean and saying they would not be coming over at all as 'they were not that close anyway'.    Then asking if I wanted to buy their share of the house....before the will was read.... I could go on, but I won't because that way lies madness.

 I have posted them any bits they said they wanted from the house,  along with their parents'  and grandparents' birth and marriage certificates, and any photos of them as children (or they may be other people, if they don't put names on the back I am not a mind reader and black and white 1930 - 1950's photos are not my  M4stermind Specialist Subject).  They did not offer to pay postage.  They are quite happy to leave me to it.

I have also told them to make sure their wills are up to date, as they should be getting around £100k each. 

That little bombshell was met with surprised silence...  They will have the absolute best care homes money can buy I am sure, and probably a few cruises thrown in for good measure.

firsview

I take it you are charging the estate for the postage f0xh0les. She wasn’t even my SG and I feel absolutely incandescent on your behalf! 

f0xh0les

No, the contents of the house belong to me, as she knew I would be clearing the house anyway.  I am just being nice sending the bits and bobs- he suggested just paying  a house clearance firm to skip the lot and splitting the cost 3 ways.  I declined his kind offer  

Just rang 'the brother' and got his wife, he was very happy with the painting and the photos.  There. I have made an old man happy.  Hope there is such a thing as Karma.