Bereft and Broken

Thistle-down

I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better. That's funny about the lady at work - and yay if she is going to possibly [STRIKE]be fired[/STRIKE] leave so you don't have to put up with her! I think EH's advice was spot on though, so even if she stays, make sure she knows you won't bend to her will.

Boo about your son's foot and possible dehydration though. I hope he's doing ok.

Good news on the text charges, it all adds up, doesn't it? I have made a few ebay sales, quite small but enough to show me that I should probably keep it up even once I've sold the things in the house. The ipad app does make it easier, but it's the people being snarky or wanting partial refunds when you know they are trying it on that make me want to throw in the towel. It seems to be happening more and more.

I hope you have a good night and wake up full of energy!

EssexHebridean

Yay - great work on the refund, well done!

Not so good on your DS's foot though - you'd kind of think they would have noticed at the school as presumably his show must have come off to allow him to have cut his foot like that? Hope it heals quickly, and that they get to the root cause of the apparent dehydration, too.

It does sound like work-woman's days may be numbered if she doesn't clean her act up doesn't it. Full marks to you for checking with the Manager whether it was an instruction that had come from further up the chain, too. :T

Thistle-down

I hope things are going well, Smolly, and work has become a bit easier!

I keep popping on to check on a few people but am trying to actually get things done rather than just list them and write long posts wondering why I'm getting nowhere

I have still not finished fettling the welsh dresser, though I do often stop to stare at it. How can something that is just a thing make me feel so happy? Maybe because I've wanted one for so long, or because it looks like it belongs in an old cottage, who knows. I am going to put some hooks in the shelves today so I can hang some of my jugs etc on them and get them out of the kitchen cupboards. I'm looking forward to having more room and everything having an actual place where it's kept.

Smolly

Thistle I have just had a look at your dresser and it is GORGEOUS!!! I absolutely love how you've dressed it. Those big kettles on the top are fantastic. I think I would keep stopping to stare at it too.... and I really pleased it is making you happy.

Thanks folks on the good wishes about DS's foot - he is coming out in bruises all over the place bless him but his foot is healing nicely. Just got to get through the next blood test now and hope that's him done for for a while.

What a day I've had! Found out yesterday that N@tWest still charging me interest so rang up today and got that sorted. To anyone who is fretting about contacting creditors when just embarking on a DMP or whatever - then don't. I have found nothing but sympathy and kindness when ringing my creditors and today after making the call I realised I was no longer afraid to pick up the phone and speak with them as I didn't give it a second thought. I started my journey in July and as yet all I've seen is my debt increase due to interest and charges, but I think finally I am at a stage where it can't go any higher. My next step is to get the debt down.

Anyway - back to my day. I felt really good about the phone call and went off to work feeling really good about things. We'd had a day of it at work yesterday with quite a few unexpected problems without the manager but the three of us pulled together and the work got done. On manager's return I paid a compliment about 'nasty' woman because she had done really well with something despite all of us being thrown in the deep end. Nasty woman however decided once more to have another go at me for something which I just hadn't had time to do. Sorry EH I forgot your advice and just floundered. I then went on to clear up after nasty woman after she had gone home as she left a right mess in her wake.

Go into work today and blow me but she's made a complaint about how I don't like her and never speak with her! How childish. We are adults not children in a playground. Just yesterday I had been chatting to her about her weekend and all I can think is that she is really stupid or really forgetful.

I couldn't stand it anymore. Ever since I returned to work she has been niggling at me for all sorts of reasons and today I just wanted to pummel her! I asked her outright what the problem was and she started about something really trivial. I am sorry to say that meek little me lost her temper and shouted at her. I don't know who was more surprised - me or her. Anyway things got worse and the manager ended up calling her bosses in as she has had enough too. This woman is so weird - she lies constantly and she has really done my nerves in today. I asked my boss if I was doing something wrong but she said the nasty woman is jealous of me as I had some management training before I went off and now that I'm back she feels threatened by me. And no I haven't done anything wrong. No wonder I suffer from anxiety if I have to put up with her!!!

Anyway...went home had a good cry and chose OH to do it on because he was there and no one else was. Think he was mortified and just didn't know what to do but he had come home with chocolate and a bottle of wine anyway so I cheered up.

In a short while I am going to get settled for the night and have a small tentative drink of wine. The last time I did that I passed out so will only have a sip or two. The chocolate however has no hope.

Take care everyone and sorry for the ramble xx

EssexHebridean

Wow - well done you for facing up to her! :T Having worked with someone some years ago who was very similar - the lies, the jealously etc - you may well find that alone will be enough to stop her trying it on with you again. It is upsetting though - not surprised you had a cry!

You've come on so far though - back at the beginning of this diary you'd have totally gone to pieces over something like that, wouldn't you!

Thistle-down

Thank you for the nice words about the dresser. TBH it's much nicer than what I've been dreaming of all these years, and I can't quite believe it's mine. Every time I walk into the dining room I have to gaze adoringly at it. Now I can't wait to finish clearing the room out so I can sit at the old pine table drinking tea and imagining I'm in a seaside cottage.

I totally agree with EH - you have come so far in such a short time! Having no problem calling up creditors, giving pushy crazy lying ladies what for, could you imagine yourself doing that a couple of months ago? Good too that your manager knows the situation and that you are not at fault. Hopefully the crazy lying lady will soon be on her way out the door.

Yay for DH and wine and chocolate! I hope you had a lovely evening and wake up tomorrow with even more courage than you had today. :j

Huskyrunner

Thistle-down wrote: »

Ziffit wouldn't take any of my books - though to be honest many of them are fairly old and there is probably no demand. I have not yet sent in my box as I received a code for an extra £5 if I sent a box with £20 worth of trades in it. I am not sure they will take all of the ones I have scanned, I don't really know what their criteria is so I am hoping to get the value up to about £23 before sending it in, just in case they say my trade is actually only worth £19 so I can't have the extra £5. I don't know if they are sneaky like this but I don't want to take any chances.

Good for you and your son - learning to declutter when you are young is such a good skill to have! I wish I had learnt it long before now He will be even more motivated when the money is in his account.

I have a 25% off ebay fees code, not as much as I'd like but better than nothing. It seems I only get the really good codes offered if I have been inactive for a while, probably to entice me back to selling. I am going to spend today and tomorrow getting most of the stuff that is left listed, I'd like it out of the house within the next couple of weeks.

I am still amazed by your free chicken, what a bonus. That will keep the food bill down for a long time!


I hope you're having a lovely weekend xx

Ziffit can be quite poor with what they pay re books, me and my oh tend too buy a new dvd 1-2 times a month we literally list the dvds on ziffit before we have even watched it lol too get above that 5 pound selling amount. You best off selling books two-three at a time with ie brand new books, brand new dvds etc

A ziffit tip they are on top cashback at the minute offering i think 8-10 percent cashback

Sorry cashback site addict here lol

Huskyrunner

Smolly wrote: »

Thistle I have just had a look at your dresser and it is GORGEOUS!!! I absolutely love how you've dressed it. Those big kettles on the top are fantastic. I think I would keep stopping to stare at it too.... and I really pleased it is making you happy.

Thanks folks on the good wishes about DS's foot - he is coming out in bruises all over the place bless him but his foot is healing nicely. Just got to get through the next blood test now and hope that's him done for for a while.

What a day I've had! Found out yesterday that N@tWest still charging me interest so rang up today and got that sorted. To anyone who is fretting about contacting creditors when just embarking on a DMP or whatever - then don't. I have found nothing but sympathy and kindness when ringing my creditors and today after making the call I realised I was no longer afraid to pick up the phone and speak with them as I didn't give it a second thought. I started my journey in July and as yet all I've seen is my debt increase due to interest and charges, but I think finally I am at a stage where it can't go any higher. My next step is to get the debt down.

Anyway - back to my day. I felt really good about the phone call and went off to work feeling really good about things. We'd had a day of it at work yesterday with quite a few unexpected problems without the manager but the three of us pulled together and the work got done. On manager's return I paid a compliment about 'nasty' woman because she had done really well with something despite all of us being thrown in the deep end. Nasty woman however decided once more to have another go at me for something which I just hadn't had time to do. Sorry EH I forgot your advice and just floundered. I then went on to clear up after nasty woman after she had gone home as she left a right mess in her wake.

Go into work today and blow me but she's made a complaint about how I don't like her and never speak with her! How childish. We are adults not children in a playground. Just yesterday I had been chatting to her about her weekend and all I can think is that she is really stupid or really forgetful.

I couldn't stand it anymore. Ever since I returned to work she has been niggling at me for all sorts of reasons and today I just wanted to pummel her! I asked her outright what the problem was and she started about something really trivial. I am sorry to say that meek little me lost her temper and shouted at her. I don't know who was more surprised - me or her. Anyway things got worse and the manager ended up calling her bosses in as she has had enough too. This woman is so weird - she lies constantly and she has really done my nerves in today. I asked my boss if I was doing something wrong but she said the nasty woman is jealous of me as I had some management training before I went off and now that I'm back she feels threatened by me. And no I haven't done anything wrong. No wonder I suffer from anxiety if I have to put up with her!!!

Anyway...went home had a good cry and chose OH to do it on because he was there and no one else was. Think he was mortified and just didn't know what to do but he had come home with chocolate and a bottle of wine anyway so I cheered up.

In a short while I am going to get settled for the night and have a small tentative drink of wine. The last time I did that I passed out so will only have a sip or two. The chocolate however has no hope.

Take care everyone and sorry for the ramble xx

Your work place sounds like mine

The reason when at work i go for breaks on my own lol

Smolly

Thanks folks - you're right. A few months ago I would have been found weeping in a corner. Oh wait - that did happen actually! Guess who's fault it was - THE CRAZY LYING LADY. So funny Thistle - will remember that (if I can!). :rotfl:

I think to be honest that getting it all out in the open like that has been good for me as I've felt quite relaxed this weekend. So relaxed OH asked me what pills I was on! I had a lovely time of it yesterday by the way. For Mother's Day I received a gift voucher for a massage. No idea why I hadn't used it yet but I guess I was saving it for when I did NEED it. Saturday was that day and fortunately I got booked in.

I booked a deep tissue massage.....yup it was a deep tissue massage. In fact it was so painful at times I actually felt slightly sick. But that is what I asked for and I'm nothing but stubborn and decided to put up with it. Eventually it got a bit easier but you know what - my back feels amazing now, and I'd go through it all again. My neck feels about 2" longer! Half way through though and the power goes off! Pitch black and the poor therapist is trying to get to the door without killing herself as it is really dark. Telling me to stay where I am (don't worry I'm missing my top half of clothes - I ain't going anywhere!). She comes back with a torch bless her and then we're told we have to be evacuated. I felt so cheated! Reluctantly I get dressed but then the lights come back on again and we're good to go again!

Didn't feel like doing much when I got back so lay on the sofa watching !!!! tv all night! I never do that!

I have sold a few bits on 3Bay tonight so just waiting for people to pay up and then will try and get posted tomorrow if I can. In fact I have just noticed the time and I'd better get the ironing done or no one will have uniforms for tomorrow!

Night all hope everyone is well xx

Thistle-down

The massage sounds great, and doing nothing but relaxing afterwards is wonderful. I'll bet your body needed it badly, with all the stress you've had recently. And it's so nice to do something that's just for yourself.

I used to go for regular free massages when a friend was training to be a masseuse and needed something like 300 practice hours before they could get the license. I felt so much better during those months and was very sad when he got the license, because I couldn't afford to keep the messages going once he started charging for them. My DH used to give me vouchers for reflexology (which felt like an hour long foot/leg massage) and my feet felt great for at least a week afterwards, like I was walking on air. Alas, another thing gone down the drain due to lack of finances.

Can you imagine how wonderful it would be to have the money to go for a massage every week? I think about it sometimes - and having my hair cut and dyed in a salon instead of doing it myself and making a mess in the bathroom. Belonging to a gym and having a personal trainer. Having someone wash and valet the car. Buying all organic. Having the carpets cleaned professionally once a year. Buying new underwear. It doesn't seem like it's too much to ask out of life, but at the moment priorities are placed on things like rent and food, and I wonder if we would ever be in the position to do things like that. Or even if we were, would it seem like a waste of money after living frugally for so long?

Anyway, I'm glad you can see how far you've come, and I hope the CLL has the sense to stay out of your way at work. :T