Problem with a dating agency… Please heeelp!!!!

tea_lover

Interesting to note that responses highlighting the reasons you may not be doing too well with dating have been removed.

thorsoak

It seems to me that your attitude is rather "I've paid you £3,000 to get me the woman of my dreams - where is she?".

Have you not read that slavery is illegal in this day and age?

SORN

strawberries1 wrote: »

OP, I do hope you find love; everyone deserves it.

Perhaps put in writing a complain to this agency to start with.

Personally I feel you'll get better results using dating sites and interest groups. Takes some nice photos that show some personality and likely to attract the attention of the sort of ladies you'll like to attract, write a good profile and then be intentional and proactive. Perhaps you'll meet 10 ladies before you meet the one; you'll learn from those interactions with those 10 personalities. So if perhaps your 11th matches doesn't respond as quickly as you'll like you'll be more understanding and excuse it to mean she's been busy and perhaps you need to invest in her more etc? Read some good books about relationships etc. Joined meetups and look for sites women you'll like are likely to join and go to where they might be.

I wish you the best!

My PA has sent me an email saying, she has just found an other introduction for me and she is 37year-old and we agreed I was going to accept ladies up to 36year-old that is 3 years older than me, however this is not a problem, but I did not say to her yes or not yet, about this 37year-old lady
and now she did ask: Please can we have a phone conversation tomorrow?
I have never heard her saying please before, she's probably now realized she needs to correct the way she talks to me... I will definitely have a phone conversation with her tomorrow without any problems... this phone conversation will be very important to me tomorrow so please any suggestion will be very appreciative... Thank you very much indeed again to all of you for your support

SORN

My PA has sent me an email saying, she has just found an other introduction for me and she is 37year-old and we agreed I was going to accept ladies up to 36year-old that is 3 years older than me, however this is not a problem, but I did not say to her yes or not yet, about this 37year-old lady
and now she did ask: Please can we have a phone conversation tomorrow?
I have never heard her saying please before, she's probably now realized she needs to correct the way she talks to me... I will definitely have a phone conversation with her tomorrow without any problems... this phone conversation will be very important to me tomorrow so please any suggestion will be very appreciative... Thank you very much indeed again to all of you for your support

SORN

Detroit wrote: »

You're welcome.

I really like you advice thank you very much for your support and wishes

My PA has sent me an email saying, she has just found an other introduction for me and she is 37year-old and we agreed I was going to accept ladies up to 36year-old that is 3 years older than me, however this is not a problem, but I did not say to her yes or not yet, about this 37year-old lady
and now she did ask: Please can we have a phone conversation tomorrow?
I have never heard her saying please before, she's probably now realized she needs to correct the way she talks to me... I will definitely have a phone conversation with her tomorrow without any problems... this phone conversation will be very important to me tomorrow so please any suggestion will be very appreciative... Thank you very much indeed again to all of you for your support

hollydays

SORN wrote: »

My PA has sent me an email saying, she has just found an other introduction for me and she is 37year-old and we agreed I was going to accept ladies up to 36year-old that is 3 years older than me, however this is not a problem, but I did not say to her yes or not yet, about this 37year-old lady
and now she did ask: Please can we have a phone conversation tomorrow?
I have never heard her saying please before, she's probably now realized she needs to correct the way she talks to me... I will definitely have a phone conversation with her tomorrow without any problems... this phone conversation will be very important to me tomorrow so please any suggestion will be very appreciative... Thank you very much indeed again to all of you for your support

Listen more than you talk . Have a couple of questions to ask her.
You need to think of the exact reason you decided the First introduction wasn't suitable.
Just saying " not up to my level" is meaningless , you need to communicate with your pa.

Detroit

SORN wrote: »

I really like you advice thank you very much for your support and wishes

My PA has sent me an email saying, she has just found an other introduction for me and she is 37year-old and we agreed I was going to accept ladies up to 36year-old that is 3 years older than me, however this is not a problem, but I did not say to her yes or not yet, about this 37year-old lady
and now she did ask: Please can we have a phone conversation tomorrow?
I have never heard her saying please before, she's probably now realized she needs to correct the way she talks to me... I will definitely have a phone conversation with her tomorrow without any problems... this phone conversation will be very important to me tomorrow so please any suggestion will be very appreciative... Thank you very much indeed again to all of you for your support

The phone conversation is an opportunity for you to get some clarity about the service the agency are providing and let them know about any issues you have with the service.

Beforehand it would be helpful to make some notes of the things you are dissatisfied with.
It is important though that these should be about the agency and their service, not about the people they've matched you with.
In your posts you are blurring the two and this won't be helpful.

For example, if they are matching you with people who you have expressly asked not to meet, such as people with children, this is a fault in their service.
However, if they are matching you with people who are suitable, but for some reason you don't get on, or the woman doesn't respond quickly enough for you, then this is not their fault.

Be objective and clear about your problems with the agency, and make sure the issues you raise are within their control. They can't be expected to control the reactions and behaviour of the women you meet, so this would be pointless to complain about.

They have matched you with a 37 year old, which is very close to the age range you specified, so this doesn't seem unreasonable.
I can't see what you have to lose by meeting this person.

Top_Girl

Christ on a bike. 3k?!

Pay me that, I'll find you 100 dates.

I mean, none of them will be people I like, for obvious reasons, but you'll get out there.

UKTigerlily

Wow, why would anyone pay £3,000 just to find a partner? What happened to going to places you enjoy being at and maybe meeting someone with similar interests etc? I think just by using somewhere like that, you'd cut out so many people surely? I mean, if I were to use something costing that amount, I wouldn't be using other dating places/websites as i'd want my money's worth from the above. Basically, it means you miss out on people like me! But then I am 37 so not up to your level

In regard to the lady who works 32 hours and didn't have time, of course she can't just take time off of work! Plus, maybe she had just suffered a bereavement or something personal that she wasn't able to discuss at this stage? Maybe she also cares for elderly parents or has a social life too?

I am glad I don't have so much money that I can waste £3k on something like this, when there are single guys all over the place to meet!

SORN

hollydays wrote: »

Listen more than you talk . Have a couple of questions to ask her.
You need to think of the exact reason you decided the First introduction wasn't suitable.
Just saying " not up to my level" is meaningless , you need to communicate with your pa.

I really like this advise thank you!