Advice. Mental and emotional abuse

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Thank you I have forwarded all the links to her. I have to go offline now as I am getting bogged down and don`t want it to affect my emotional well being. Will be back this evening

missbiggles1

It do think parents (however well meaning) should stay out of their adult children's personal affairs.

Mojisola

If an adult child can't turn to a parent for help, who should they go to?

fairy_lights

missbiggles1 wrote: »

It do think parents (however well meaning) should stay out of their adult children's personal affairs.

Generally I would agree with you, but if OP's daughter turns to her for help it's important that she's prepared. I think it's a good idea for her to gather information at this point.

Dill

He must be earning good money if he's keen for his wife to be a stay at home mum. There is nothing wrong in that, but it's something that needs to be discussed between the couple. My mum was a housewife, and was happy to do so.

In this particular situation it sounds like both partners are very unhappy.

Caroline_a

If she is going to leave him then planning is essential. She needs to ensure she will have a roof over her head, her own money source and the ability to access it freely herself, and all documents relating to her, her daughter etc etc.

However, she is the one who should be doing this for herself, and while you can support her in the background, you must ensure not to take over!

paddy's_mum

kittie wrote: »

I have no experience to help my daughter.

She is at the end of her tether

I need help as I am the one she is turning to and need to give her the right advice

Those are 3 very sound reasons to be "interfering".

What sort of Mum turns away when a child asks for help?

iris

missbiggles1 wrote: »

It do think parents (however well meaning) should stay out of their adult children's personal affairs.

I agree with missbiggles1.


Just be there for your daughter Kittie should your daughter's marriage fail, but don't offer advice or money it may come back to 'bite you on the bum', believe me I have been there and as the saying goes 'got the t-shirt'.

paddy's_mum

Now I am totally bewildered.

How can a person 'stay out of' and yet 'be there for'?

In any case, the OP makes it very clear that the daughter is ASKING for help and that's a long, long way from poking one's nose in!

Mojisola

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Now I am totally bewildered.

How can a person 'stay out of' and yet 'be there for'?

In any case, the OP makes it very clear that the daughter is ASKING for help and that's a long, long way from poking one's nose in!

Me, too. One of the first things that get said to people who are in an abusive relationship is to talk to parents/family about it so that they can help them.