Elite 11+ shopping and chat thread

HILLBERN

Saversue wrote: »

I had a Carers Assessment from a Social Worker from Social Services. They could offer me some courses to attend, provide a night away in a hotel (long waiting list, no one to look after Mum) and 5 hours per week of someone to sit with Mum (not do anything for her) to give me a break, can be taken in one go or split. However Mum has refused, doesn't want anyone to come and sit with her.
SS can't make her accept, so all they can do is write a report saying they think I need more support for myself through Mental Health Services, as I am a service user. However useless Locum GP who I saw last week, said he doubted they would be able to help me in any way.

Just tried the Walkers website and I am getting a white page with a very strange message as well. Looks like it's broken at the moment.

oh dear poor you ...it must be an awful struggle for you but unfortunately im afraid you must think of yourself upmost and foremost because without you mum would not be where she is today. you must allow someone to come in and sit even if for only an hour a day every day and you keep out of the way. I have seen many palliative patients putting up barriers about having someone else in their home, but after a couple of visits they are more than happy to see someone else to chat to. life does revolve round mum but you also have a life. Please take any help that is offered, once you are on their system you may be able to get more help/support in the future.
Are district nurses involved with mum? they can often put a referral in to ss also well the ss around where I live contract out to various agencies but they all come under ss umbrella so nurse will have contact numbers for them. Near me the redcross also come and sit, they don't do care but they will do shopping all voluntary ...its worth picking up the phone and enquiring even if they cant help they may know of someone who can, we also have a group called befrienders that come and sit. Can mum go to a res.home for a week to give you a break?
look after yourself x

lesliejack

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

Just looked on Nectar and I think I have the 500 points from the closure of My Coupons.

all my Family have had their nectar points added too. :j:j

mhoc

Anon wrote: »

First rule of dealing with Sky and Virgin - cancel.
Second rule, see above!

To get the best deal from either, put in your 30 days notice. With Sky, in all likelihood within minutes/hours you will have offers on your account (and service screen on your Sky box). 60% off TV seems to be regularly reported. You will likely get other offers by email and in the mail.

You have to be brave by putting in your cancellation otherwise their system does not give the operative the option to offer the best deals. I had box sets - I went through with the cancellation and then a few days later went on chat and was immediately offered 75% off and moments later £100 account credit (this was in March). There are reports on the Retentions thread on here and elsewhere what can be achieved if you get the right person (after cancelling!).

If they don't play ball and you worry about losing your services, you can always cancel your cancellation.

Hth

Anon

I was thinking overnight that I should keep the line rental and fibre bit but cancel the TV bit - it seems a bit if a half way house but I know
but I could totally go through with this plan if sky would not play ball.

I think I will give them another ring and see what figures they give me. The annoying thing is OH is first named on the account so they ask to speak to him first before they will discuss the account with me

LEJC

Good morning all....

I have to send DS a text....he will not be happy!

last night overnight someone has hit his car whilst it was parked outside...I say someone as I know who did it...just didnt see them do it...but they did leave a lovely scrape the same colour as their car down the side and back....
I've also found their car parked in the next street with corresponding scratch/impact marks...
Who would do this....a very near neighbour and when I went round this morning to ask about it...they claim they didnt know who's car it is they hit!!!
I assume that if they don't come round with their insurance details later as promised it needs reporting to the police?
We shall wait and see....

Hope others have had a better start to the day and that mine improves....

altojack

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

Good morning all, overcast and cool here.

Hoping to finish off the kitchen today, one bit of glossing left to do and a lot of shelf cleaning and putting back up, tiles and cupboards to clean too.

Slightly annoyingly I couldn't get a new pin board yesterday, I've got it into my head that I want a fabric one rather than cork because I saw a super one in Costco that was too big, now have to find an equivalent one in a smaller size for a price I am willing to pay :eek:



Sue, this thread is a fantastic support system, come on here and have a moan.

It is very hard looking after a parent. I remember when my mum was terminally ill, she would not allow us to get a nurse in (even though father's work provided health insurance that covered it) and I missed out on a lot of social things during that year, it was down to me and my father as my father said my brothers should not miss out on life :mad: If they had taken their fair share I might have had a social life, they even stole my 20th birthday trip out, I had taken the day off , but my father then announced I was staying home to look after mum because he was going into work :mad: Admittedly he nearly lost his job because someone had to look after her, but he refused to make my brothers do their fair share. The awful thing was that she had turned into a bitter woman by that point and did nothing but moan. Yes, she was very ill, but if only she had accepted a nurse we might have had a chance at life.

Annoyingly, at some point in that year my older brother managed to move out. I had to reassess my life totally, and I had to admit to myself that wedding plans I had made had actually been just in order to get away from a home life I hated. So that wedding got cancelled, I would have been way too young and I was way too bitter at that point.

Oh my, I sound so bitter don't I, but it was a very tense homelife so I understand well that people with MH problems would really struggle with that sort of set up.

Sue, your mum understandably wants the world to revolve around her at the moment, but she has to be made to understand that you need a life and need to get away from the tensions at home. Please take it from me, you need a break and you need help, if we had had help my life would have been VERY different.



Yes please, I love photos of the Caribbean

Enterprise, you had such a terrible time that extra help could have, would have made all the difference. When mum was almost in full flow with altzimers, I gave up one day of work, we did have care go into her but my sister who lived miles away didn't think there was any problems :mad: there wasn't any if 24 hours a day were spent with mum, she wouldn't be able to turn the grill on and leave it :eek: she wouldn't have gone walkabout in the early hours of the morning and get picked up by the police.

My brother did next to nothing so it was all down on me and DH, I had 3 of the boys at home to see too and still go to work 2 days a week .

It's Bl00dy hard trying to keep everything ticking over.

Sue, please use this thread as a sounding board, that's what we're here for. You'll be surprised how many of us have had to care for a parent xx

Snap-ant wrote: »

:A Saversue

I've slept deeply & feel refreshed for our hospital visit today.

Catching an early train so I can post parcels, unforeseen eBay clash of time.
But fortunately all paid so that is one less stress
looks like a nice day outside

Have a safe journey Snap, hugs to you and your sister. See you later xx

izzeyb

LEJC wrote: »

Good morning all....

I have to send DS a text....he will not be happy!

last night overnight someone has hit his car whilst it was parked outside...I say someone as I know who did it...just didnt see them do it...but they did leave a lovely scrape the same colour as their car down the side and back....
I've also found their car parked in the next street with corresponding scratch/impact marks...
Who would do this....a very near neighbour and when I went round this morning to ask about it...they claim they didnt know who's car it is they hit!!!
I assume that if they don't come round with their insurance details later as promised it needs reporting to the police?
We shall wait and see....

Hope others have had a better start to the day and that mine improves....

Oh dear, hope you took lots of pictures before actually asking ? xx

LEJC

izzeyb wrote: »

Oh dear, hope you took lots of pictures before actually asking ? xx

I did....they have now gone out in the car so I'll see what happens later.....

We are now in the situation that they know I know they did hit the car...admittedly they have not been near neighbours for too long but long enough to know who's car they hit.

....and I certainly wont be a friendly neighbour going forward if they choose to ignore.

hornetgirl

(((x))) Saversue. It's such a difficult situation to be in. Please try to take care of yourself too x

Morning all

LEJC

morning HG....Have a fab holiday x

emerald21

LEJC wrote: »

Good morning all....

I have to send DS a text....he will not be happy!

last night overnight someone has hit his car whilst it was parked outside...I say someone as I know who did it...just didnt see them do it...but they did leave a lovely scrape the same colour as their car down the side and back....
I've also found their car parked in the next street with corresponding scratch/impact marks...
Who would do this....a very near neighbour and when I went round this morning to ask about it...they claim they didnt know who's car it is they hit!!!
I assume that if they don't come round with their insurance details later as promised it needs reporting to the police?
We shall wait and see....

Hope others have had a better start to the day and that mine improves....

What about this then :mad::mad: