At OUR financial limit... now she's leaving me

fashionvictim

Opposite sex teenagers sharing is not appropriate -They won't want to and it would be a shame to put them off visiting

Yes a 2 bed would work better one spare room for one teen and a lounge sofa bed.

Or a one bed with a sofa bed for your daughter.

By reducing your rent then the other things will be easier. Good luck

Gerry_Mandarin

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Whyever not? What on earth do you think your son would do to your daughter?


My OH used to work for a council housing department and he was, just as I am, baffled why people think their sons can't possibly share rooms with their daughters. In this case, it's not even their main home, so if it's that much of a problem, have one stay each week or get them to take turns to sleep on the sofa.

Separating from somebody sucks, but not wanting to change the comfortable life you did have isn't any consolation if you simply cannot afford the luxury of two spare rooms for two hundred and sixty days a year. It would make sense for you to look for a cheaper two bedroom flat and explain to them that, unfortunately, sharing is just what has to happen.

I don't think the OP's teenage kids will want to stay at his at all if they're made to share a room! So then he'll have lost his woman and lost his two kids.

If push comes to shove maybe OP and the lad have one room and the girl have another.

FBaby

I don't think the OP's teenage kids will want to stay at his at all if they're made to share a room! So then he'll have lost his woman and lost his two kids.

What makes you say that? If it was my kids, they would want even more to spend time with their dad knowing he is going through a difficult time and it probably would be them who would suggest getting a smaller place and that they really didn't mind sharing a room for however long it took if it meant they could see him regularly and see him happier.

Gerry_Mandarin

FBaby wrote: »

What makes you say that? If it was my kids, they would want even more to spend time with their dad knowing he is going through a difficult time and it probably would be them who would suggest getting a smaller place and that they really didn't mind sharing a room for however long it took if it meant they could see him regularly and see him happier.

Their age. The fact that they are boy and girl. And that teens use social media.

Sharing a sleeping space with your brother (if you're a girl) or worse sister if you're a boy will provoke a LOT of bitching from schoolmates.

19lottie82

Gerry_Mandarin wrote: »

I don't think the OP's teenage kids will want to stay at his at all if they're made to share a room! So then he'll have lost his woman and lost his two kids.

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What utter tosh.

Gerry_Mandarin

19lottie82 wrote: »

What utter tosh.

What a useful post.

Loz01

Why don't you just buy a sofa bed and you sleep on that and let the two kids have a room each then at the weekend? And the rest of the week you can move back into one of the rooms.

19lottie82

Gerry_Mandarin wrote: »

What a useful post.

More useful than yours, which tells the OP he will "lose his kids", if he doesn't get them their own rooms for when they visit, despite it being blatantly obvious, that he can't afford it. :huh:

I shared with my brother when I used to visit my father at weekends, up until the age of 17, and bizarrely enough it didn't scar me for life and I still speak to my father!

Gerry_Mandarin

19lottie82 wrote: »

More useful than yours, which tells the OP he will "lose his kids", if he doesn't get them their own rooms for when they visit, despite it being blatantly obvious, that he can't afford it. :huh:

I shared with my brother when I used to visit my father at weekends, up until the age of 17, and bizarrely enough it didn't scar me for life and I still speak to my father!

Was your brother also an older teenager?

I'm sure the OP will sort something out, but I doubt if the kids age 13 and 15 will want to visit if it means sharing a bedroom.

Loz01

OP could always buy a large room divider if they have to share. It won't scar them for 2 nights a week. Yes it'll be slightly annoying to share a TV or if they're both trying to snapchat their mates or FaceTime with someone else in the room but its not the end of the world, lets be honest...