Large single Parent Family getting Debt free

kimplus8

Nope he's not paying child support. I've applied and I'm sure the sh*t will truly hit the fan once he realises that he has to pay regardless of whether he wants to be in his life or not.
I have heard from him, he text me to say he feels nothing for the baby, he wants nothing to do with him and I not to write to his parents again as they don't want to know either and now don't speak to him because of me. He says it's my fault for keeping 'it'.
I am going to start looking for a job today- there will be Christmas temp jobs coming up everywhere now so I shouldn't find it too hard to pick up something. Even a cleaning job would do for now just to tide us over.

milasavesmoney

I'm sad that he is so cruel Kim. That must be a kick in the gut. It's a shame babyboy's fraternal grandparents feel this way. At least you gave them the opportunity to know your darling boy.
You are a kind soul. Remember, he's not in charge of what you do. If you want to send them pictures occasionally he can't stop you. If they don't want contact then they should tell you themselves. He could be lying.

kimplus8

milasavesmoney wrote: »

I'm sad that he is so cruel Kim. That must be a kick in the gut. It's a shame babyboy's fraternal grandparents feel this way. At least you gave them the opportunity to know your darling boy.
You are a kind soul. Remember, he's not in charge of what you do. If you want to send them pictures occasionally he can't stop you. If they don't want contact then they should tell you themselves. He could be lying.

I think he probably is lying, I will continue to update his parents from time to time, just because he is a scumbag doesn't mean that they are.
I absolutely detest the man and I'm glad he doesn't want to see my beautiful boy. Ild be lying if I said it doesn't hurt, of course it does, he is my babies dad and I loved him, but hurting me is one thing, abandoning my son is another that I may one day forgive but I will NEVER forget.

Smodlet

Hey, Kim, please, just chalk it up. I would have far, far rather had no father than the one I had... it is not always a good thing to know your parent(s) If he is not there, he cannot let you or Ezra know how much he does not want you, can he? Who wants to be told they were a mistake? Ezra is way better off without a waste of space like that in his life, believe me... and "mistake" is downright charitable compared to what I got.

Children need love, attention, food and warmth: Which of these can he supply? Food, which you will get when you get the CSA to sort him out. Food, which anyone could provide. The other things he is too shallow a human being to provide.

Mila, "you rascal, you"? Are you channeling Louis Jordan? Not the French actor, y'all, the musician, "Baby, it's cold outside"...

Gosh darn it all to heck, I have come across the most hilarious couple of threads and no-one seems in a mood for them. I will save them for when you are ready for a giggle (I've been crying with laughter) and Mila, if you needed any more proof that the English are nuts... something to look forward to, maybe.

Keep the faith, Kim, you will get there... and we never stopped thinking about you, did we, Mila, guys?

Kim_13

milasavesmoney wrote: »

If they don't want contact then they should tell you themselves. He could be lying.

Exactly what I was thinking. If they are not speaking to him then they must disapprove of his actions. If they agree he is in the wrong then surely they must care about their grandson to some extent.

I do feel for his parents who may be afraid to keep in touch due to him.

kimplus8

Kim_13 wrote: »

Exactly what I was thinking. If they are not speaking to him then they must disapprove of his actions. If they agree he is in the wrong then surely they must care about their grandson to some extent.

I do feel for his parents who may be afraid to keep in touch due to him.

I feel for his mother, this must be really hard for her.

Smodlet

Hey, Kim, how's it going? Yeah, his mother must be real proud...

Smodlet

Kim, regarding your other thread, call the council and explain your situation. If they take back the debt, you may be able to get the leeches' fees taken off and just pay what you actually owe, or not much more. Get them on side as much as you can, they are actually human beings, too, hell, you worked for the council; do you not have any contacts you could ask for help? You might need their housing dept a couple of months from now so, time to start building bridges, yes? Just in case these departments actually do talk to each other. I seriously HTH. S xxx

Poor_Single_lady

So sorry to read about your horrible morning. Hope you can get that sorted, but its more about the emotional side for now. I hope you are ok. I know this doesn't help but I felt so upset reading your post, we live in such an unfair society.
Hope you can follow the practical advice people have and find a way through. xxx

kimplus8

Smodlet wrote: »

Kim, regarding your other thread, call the council and explain your situation. If they take back the debt, you may be able to get the leeches' fees taken off and just pay what you actually owe, or not much more. Get them on side as much as you can, they are actually human beings, too, hell, you worked for the council; do you not have any contacts you could ask for help? You might need their housing dept a couple of months from now so, time to start building bridges, yes? Just in case these departments actually do talk to each other. I seriously HTH. S xxx

I called the council today and they remain firm that as the debt has been passed to collectors they are unable to help until it has been passed back.
The lady on the phone really tried to help bless her but her hands are tied by the powers above and so on.