Pet hate - being asked for a title

Cloudydaze

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

So as well as people thinking that you're either divorced or a raging feminist trying to make a point, then get used to some people also thinking that you might be gay too. Nothing wrong with any of those of course, they are just connotations that can come with using the title Ms.

Are you really that ignorant?

Georgiegirl256

Cloudydaze wrote: »

Are you really that ignorant?

No. If you read it properly, I said that those are connotations that people think of when they hear the title Ms. I didn't say I thought them, so wind your neck in.

Pollycat

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

No. If you read it properly, I said that those are connotations that people think of when they hear the title Ms. I didn't say I thought them, so wind your neck in.

Although I guess there are people who might hear someone saying they are a Ms and wonder if they are single, married, divorced or even gay, personally I wouldn't give it a second thought.
Their choice - just as mine is to be called Mrs.

Mojisola

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I think that the title "Ms" may have originally been something that was used by women of a more left-wing persuasion (ie to the left of the Labour Party possibly?)

The impetus to find a marital-state neutral form of address for women came from the business world. Why risk upsetting a female customer by calling her Miss when she's a Mrs and vice versa?

Mr or Ms - very straightforward.

Cloudydaze

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

No. If you read it properly, I said that those are connotations that people think of when they hear the title Ms. I didn't say I thought them, so wind your neck in.

Yes I read it properly. You were telling Money to get used to the fact that people will think she is a lesbian for using Ms. I think that is a vey unfair and unkind thing to say.

Georgiegirl256

Cloudydaze wrote: »

Yes I read it properly. You were telling Money to get used to the fact that people will think she is a lesbian for using Ms. I think that is a vey unfair and unkind thing to say.

I said, SOME people might think that. Because like it or not that is another connotation to it. She said that would bother her, so I said get used to the fact that SOME people might think that as I have heard people say that.

Apologies if it was worded in such a way that you did not understand.

Person_one

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I said, SOME people might think that. Because like it or not that is another connotation to it. She said that would bother her, so I said get used to the fact that SOME people might think that as I have heard people say that.

Apologies if it was worded in such a way that you did not understand.

I've no idea why people thinking you're a lesbian would be so terrible or 'unkind' anyway, and its easily corrected if it matters.

Georgiegirl256

Person_one wrote: »

I've no idea why people thinking you're a lesbian would be so terrible or 'unkind' anyway, and its easily corrected if it matters.

Well, that is actually my point. It wouldn't bother me, but it would obviously bother some people as in the above post, and that's what I was meaning that if it is going to bother you then you'd better start looking for a new title.

But it obviously went over the head of some people.

Mojisola

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Well, that is actually my point. It wouldn't bother me, but it would obviously bother some people as in the above post, and that's what I was meaning that if it is going to bother you then you'd better start looking for a new title.

Ms was only ever suggested as an equivalent title to Mr - it's random people who have assigned all these different meanings to it.

If yet another title was found for adult women to use, it's likely that people would do the same thing.

Better to educate people that Ms just means an adult woman with no other connotations rather than introduce a fourth option!

missbiggles1

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I said, SOME people might think that. Because like it or not that is another connotation to it. She said that would bother her, so I said get used to the fact that SOME people might think that as I have heard people say that.

Apologies if it was worded in such a way that you did not understand.

Except, like it or not, it really doesn't.