Adult sharing inappropriate content

Guest101

Andypandyboy wrote: »

Any more than yours is, we are both/all going off what the OP said, although you seem to have inferred very different things to what the op actually stated.



Then you must agree that it cannot be harrassment, given that the dissemination of a one off piece of factual information does not fit the definition.

A series of actions - making false report to SS, to police, to friends... That's 3 right there...

It could be true, but it's much more likely to be a fall out between to acrimonious parents, and ones decided to involve the authorities, because playing the system is easy

settlerofcatan

Of course I haven't made a false report. Don't be daft. I've given them a copy of the group chat.

The police aren't prosecuting, but SS are taking it as a very serious matter.

What would I have to gain from 'playing the system'?

Guest101

settlerofcatan wrote: »

Of course I haven't made a false report. Don't be daft. I've given them a copy of the group chat.

The police aren't prosecuting, but SS are taking it as a very serious matter.

What would I have to gain from 'playing the system'?

I'm done.

My suggestion: concentrate on what's best for your children.

AnnieO1234

Guest101 wrote: »

A series of actions - making false report to SS, to police, to friends... That's 3 right there...

It could be true, but it's much more likely to be a fall out between to acrimonious parents, and ones decided to involve the authorities, because playing the system is easy

I have PM'd you. But it's not exactly a false report if the OP has physical evidence. Xxx

missbiggles1

Guest101 wrote: »

I'm done.

My suggestion: concentrate on what's best for your children.

I agree - and that's to make sure the ex doesn't have unsupervised access to them.

elisamoose

not going to join in the 'who is a troll' competition but coming at this as a professional in the safeguarding team at a school........big alarm bells are ringing.If a child disclosed this it would be an immediate referral to children's social care, with a strategy meeting held the same day with the police.I would expect the father would be interviewed by the police and all devices examined for evidence.

I can't make my mind up whether it is worse that it was own boys or not!

IF it was other people's kids , it would be seen by most people as an attempt at grooming.........with his own kids- bad parenting or emotional / sexual abuse?

Ames

Taking the OP at face value.

An adult man who enjoys sex with barely legal girls and tries to persuade a 15 year old boy to have abusive sex with his girlfriend is at best a very poor role model, and shouldn't be around children.

I'm not surprised the police aren't taking action though, given things I've been involved in at a safeguarding level. When it comes to harm done by online images the bar seems to be set far too high (IMO).

I'd be surprised though if Social Services are happy to let it go.

I'm another one who thinks that Sam shouldn't be seeing his dad, not least because he seems to have been disturbed by what happened. Does he even want to see his dad again?

settlerofcatan

Ames wrote: »

Taking the OP at face value.

An adult man who enjoys sex with barely legal girls and tries to persuade a 15 year old boy to have abusive sex with his girlfriend is at best a very poor role model, and shouldn't be around children.

I'm not surprised the police aren't taking action though, given things I've been involved in at a safeguarding level. When it comes to harm done by online images the bar seems to be set far too high (IMO).

I'd be surprised though if Social Services are happy to let it go.

I'm another one who thinks that Sam shouldn't be seeing his dad, not least because he seems to have been disturbed by what happened. Does he even want to see his dad again?

I think he does, but he's not in a hurry to. He says that he feels like his dad doesn't like him very much and is always disappointed in him. When he initially showed him some of these memes (in person) Sam found some of them funny and some of them upsetting, but he wanted to find some of his own to show his dad to impress him and 'make him proud' of him.

Andypandyboy

Guest101 wrote: »

A series of actions - making false report to SS, to police, to friends... That's 3 right there...

It could be true, but it's much more likely to be a fall out between to acrimonious parents, and ones decided to involve the authorities, because playing the system is easy

How can it be a false report if it was SS that referred to the police when they had seen the evidence?

You are an apologist. I think your judgement is clouded by something that has gone deep.

The authorities are there for the protection of the children, and it is right that they are involved in cases such as the OP described. The man is unfit to be in a parental role and should be kept away from impressionable minds.

Running_Horse

Haven't read the whole thread.

Has the OP reported her concerns to the parents of the other children involved?

I would be wanting to let them know their children are in danger.