No children at wedding

Jagraf

Imp wrote: »

2 reasons I can think of:


1) A wedding joins two families as well as joining the couple. The families include children
2) Weddings and funerals are often the only times families get together on mass, and weddings tend to be more enjoyable than funerals. Aunt Mavis from Plymouth would love to meet Baby Alex from Dundee, and weddings make the ideal opportunity.


and 3: unless you are a bridezilla, weddings aren't all about the bride. Scores of people are involved and contribute to the day, and benefit from the day.

Whoever the day is about, it certainly isn't about other people's children. At all. Nothing to do with them whatsoever.

And it's not about distant aunts meeting babies. They can see each other outside of a wedding day if they really want to.

And a wedding is about what the bride and groom want it to be. They don't need to invite any family, let alone whole families.

Lily-Rose_3

Imp wrote: »

1) A wedding joins two families as well as joining the couple. The families include children
2) Weddings and funerals are often the only times families get together on mass, and weddings tend to be more enjoyable than funerals. Aunt Mavis from Plymouth would love to meet Baby Alex from Dundee, and weddings make the ideal opportunity.

and 3: unless you are a bridezilla, weddings aren't all about the bride. Scores of people are involved and contribute to the day, and benefit from the day.

I don't agree with this, one single bit.

If my family - or my husband's - had ever told me that the wedding is about THEM and not me and him; they would have found themselves ALL not invited, and the two of us eloping alone!

If auntie foo-foo and cousin fluff want to meet up for a chinwag, and see other family members new babies; then go for a costa together. Don't demand an invite to OUR wedding! It's not about being a bridezilla; it's our wedding, our rules. Don't like it? Tough.

Jagraf wrote: »

Whoever the day is about, it certainly isn't about other people's children. At all. Nothing to do with them whatsoever.

And it's not about distant aunts meeting babies. They can see each other outside of a wedding day if they really want to.

And a wedding is about what the bride and groom want it to be. They don't need to invite any family, let alone whole families.

This. It's got naff-all to do with anyone if a couple say 'no children' at their wedding.

It could make things awkward if someone invites some children but not others though.

The OP just needs to say 'sorry no children invited,' on the invitations.

Person_one

Lily-Rose wrote: »

The OP just needs to say 'sorry no children invited,' on the invitations.

That's not the case though.

enthusiasticsaver

My daughter and son in law had about 12 to 15 kids at their wedding from a baby which was about 2 weeks old up to 18. All behaved wonderfully and the cousins had a lovely time on the dance floor in the evening. The kids had their own menu and a goodie bag each with bubbles, colouring books etc to keep them occupied after the meal. Lots of space outside to run around between the reception and evening disco.

If OP however doesn't want them there then they are perfectly within their rights to say no children and maybe phone the ones you are happy to come although I guess that may lead to questions on the day. So long as you say it is due to space restraint or you thought they may be bored. Some will take offence but that is a risk you have to take if you feel that strongly. My elder daughters friend got married last year and said no children because she didn't want the attention to be taken away from her.

Marvel1

Totally different but the same I guess, I went on a tour around a rugby stadium last year, with my Dad and 8 year old nephew.

During the tour there was a couple with a toddler no older than 2. During the tour guide speech the child was crying, parents made no attempt to calm him or remove him, in my head I was thinking "!!!!!! I can't hear a bloody thing the guide is saying".

After a while the tour guide said polity if they could take the child over there, luckily the mother did, but it shouldn't have been the guide to tell them.

Spendless

silvercar wrote: »

What is it with wedding invites that people expect that their children be invited? Have any other sort of party and people read the invitation and see who is invited. Mention the word wedding and people either assume that their kids are included or refuse to come without them.

I said this before on a recent thread, it's often because weddings run at a time when childcare isn't readily available and not everyone has someone who can babysit. I had to miss out on an evening invite at Easter because it took place 100 miles away and my DD was in her dancing show. My IL's were all at the wedding and my parents on holiday, so I had no-one to pick her up. She wasn't allowed to leave the venue and make her own way home even if I'd wanted that.

Takeaway_Addict

victor2 wrote: »

^^exactly that^^
My sister's wedding many years ago clearly stated "no children" on the invites. As we had two, we declined. It was only pleading from my father that made us find someone to mind the children so we could go.
But that was a blanket ban, not a selective one - which I can't see working at all.

So you were being spiteful until your father had to step in.....

well done.

Takeaway_Addict

calleyw wrote: »

I understand its your wedding and you don't want children.

But why not invite the children and then hire as many as needed people to keep them entertained. Like a kids/holiday club type thing. So the parents can attend and not worry about the children.

As children find it boring.

Means happy people all round.

Yours

Calley

Because everyone wants to have to find more money to accomidate people they don't want at the wedding...

Misty_Blue

Mojisola wrote: »

At which point, the parent takes the noisy baby/child out of the room so that the ceremony isn't disrupted.

Or, as happened at my sister's wedding, they remain in their seats and do nothing, even though the rest of us can't hear a thing. And this was after a small speech from the Registrar, asking that if any of the "little ones" were noisy during the ceremony, they be taken out of the room so the other guests could hear.

OP - it's for the two of you to choose who comes or not. The rest of the world, and certainly people's weddings, do not revolve around the children of others.

Mojisola

Misty_Blue wrote: »

Or, as happened at my sister's wedding, they remain in their seats and do nothing, even though the rest of us can't hear a thing.

And this was after a small speech from the Registrar, asking that if any of the "little ones" were noisy during the ceremony, they be taken out of the room so the other guests could hear.

Which is why some people prefer to ban kids from their weddings.

If I'd been the Registrar, I would have stopped the ceremony and asked for the child to be taken out.