Trying To Concieve

VK-2008

well i have a lot of family fiance comes from family of 11 and i get questioned on when i am having them all i do is say wait and see and give a big grin and then change subject -being light hearted i normally am like oh ill wait a wee while and see how it all pans out just enjoying life at the moment

that normally shuts them up

hope it helps

helen79

I have only told a few very close work mates that we are TTC. My other so called mates are too !!!!!y and keep judging things that I can't be bothered with telling them. They didn't tell me when they were trying, so why should I tell them? Hehe!
One of them asked me outright too I was pregnant the other week. And when I answered 'No' she was like, 'Are you sure?'.......erm, I think I'd know don't you?!
Why do people feel like they the rights to ask such personal questions, when you know that if YOU were to ask them the same question back they would go off into one?!
Sorry about being so negative. Just been a bit of a mare recently with my friend ship group, so I am avoiding them as much as poss!
I also haven't had any action all weekend, so I think I'm getting sexually frustrated, lol!
xx

jiblets1

Hi all. Thanks for all your sympathies - it really helps. Unfortunately the doctor was a complete pillock. I think he was running a little late (unusual in my surgery) and just wanted me gone. I went in and got upset straight away (seeing all the mums and mums to be in the waiting room wasn't helping) I told him I'd come off the pill in August and I wasn't coping. He asked why, then suggested maybe now wasn't the time for babies and did we want to wait a few years - which I thought was random. Then when I told him that now was the time for us he said "don't you think you should decide that in discussion with your husband? There are two of you in the relationship" which I thought was really rude! How dare he make judgements about my marriage? He basically suggested I might be trying to have a baby against my husbands wishes! He then went on to tell me that 2 godawful periods out of the last 3 really isn't that bad in the grand scheme of things, that there wasn't anything he could posssibly give me while I was ttc (which contradicts what the locum said last time I went) and that he couldn't suggest any dietary changes or anything else that could help me, I was just going to have to put up with it. He then said good luck and sent me on my way. I even had to ask him for a tissue from the box in front of him, as he didn't offer me one.

So I had a good cry about it, talked to my mam, 2 of my colleagues and my OH and have decided that there is still a problem, I'm not being silly and he really should have at least tried to take me seriously. I think I'm going to go back again for the well woman clinic, and avoid him completely. My colleague is in the same surgery as me, and said that this particular doctor is renouned for being tactless, so I mustn't feel that it's me. The biggest pain is that I had to really work myself up to going, took an hour off work, and now I'm goign to have to go through it all again. Maybe I'll be mid-cycle by the time I go next and it'll be a bit easier. Here's hoping.

My_Fathers_Daughter

((((HUGS))) jiblets - your doc sounds like a complete prat :mad:

I have to say mine is awful too - a really arrogant man who I am not looking forward to having any contact with. Listen to your mom, friends and most of all your DH. YOU know yourself, your relationship and your body so if you are not happy be sure to keep going until you feel reassured.

What a grade a D 1 C K - I am fuming for you :mad:


Take care babe

MFD xxx

helen79

Jiblets, I completely agree with the great advice that My Fathers Daughter suggested. I find that you get more sympathy from women drs, men are just gits, lol! I can't believe he said those nasty things to you. Good luck with the well woman clinic x

sismith42

jiblets, MFD: can you change doctors, even without changing surgeries? I ask because in the US (where I'm from), you can request to never see a specific doctor again, but there it's all private medicine... you need to be able to trust your health practicioner, and if you just can't, that puts unnecissary stress on yourself... I know changing surgeries is also an option, but it's a bit more dramatic.
Heh, jiblets, I think that your *husband* should file a complaint to the GP on your behalf, discusing the insult to his wife that the GP might suggest that you wouldn't consult him over whether to have a baby (I know it sounds unfeminist, but if your DH complained, it would underline the fact that the GP was making stupid assumptions about your situation... even if you don't want to get DH to do it, you should still complain. that is simply appaling treatment!)

redmel1621

Jiblets, sorry you had a bad time at the docs...I would definately try to see a different doctor. In our surgery I just phone up and ask for a specific doctor, if one iv'e seen before has been useless I just reject any appointment with them and ask to see someone else, it's usually fine to do this!
I would suggest seeing a female doctor if possible, or ask friends and family if they use the same surgery and if they can recommend a nice, caring doctor there, that's what I usually do now.

Hugs to you, take care.

Mel x

Sarah_Joanne

Ah Jiblets Bless you. I had a similar situation a while ago where I was suffering really badly from depression and had been for some time. I went to the dr's after lots of persuasion from family and this was a major, major step for me. To cut a long story short he told me I needed to get out more. :eek:

That was such a blow to me and a week and a half later I was in hospital after an overdose - it had all just got too much and that loser of a doctor was just the last straw.

I never saw him again.

I would definitely suggest changing dr. I'm sure it won't get as bad for you as it did for me but I can understand how you feel.

Give him the boot and find someone who'll listen to you!

All the best to you and good luck! You'll get there in the end! :A

shelly

Sorry you had a bad time jiblets, that kind of treatment is not what you need right now what with the stress of TTC. Its bad enough without people making comments like that.
Definately see someone else next time. I'm not 100% sure if I believe seeing a woman over a man makes much difference. I sometimes think that seeing a woman about woman troubles, she knows what its like and isn't as sympathetic as a man might be. That's just my opinion though, you do whatever you feel comfortable with

My_Fathers_Daughter

Shelly - forgot to say - congratulations (is that the right thing to say) on getting your app with the fertility doc! A positive step forward