Trying To Concieve

Js_Other_Half

bimbo82 wrote: »

Hi All,
I have been TTC for 8 months & still nothing! Find it very heart breaking so reading some of the posts on here have been great!
Just thought it would be easier than this?

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For lots of people it is easy, but for some of us it isn't. I actually found the disappointment easier to live with around the 8 month mark - and then went to my GP. As I was 35 at the time he shouted at me for not going to him 2 months earlier...:p

Anyway, we never managed it the conventional route, but in the grand scheme of things, I actually found the IVF procedure not too bad.

You don't say how old you are, but if you are in your 20s just relax and keep trying, if you're in your 30s consider chatting to your GP.

skintbutsmiling01

what sort of ivf did you have (sorry if a too personal question you dont have to answer!)

Js_Other_Half

skintbutsmiling01 wrote: »

what sort of ivf did you have (sorry if a too personal question you dont have to answer!)

I'm not sure I understand the question? We had to have it because of me, not DH if that is what you want to know.:)

If I can help answer any questions/worries you may have I will.

frivolous_fay

Js_Other_Half wrote: »

As I was 35 at the time he shouted at me for not going to him 2 months earlier...:p

:eek:

Does that mean the doctors write you off in terms of natural conception after 35?

I'll be 31 this year and babies are so not on the agenda yet

Js_Other_Half

frivolous_fay wrote: »

:eek:

Does that mean the doctors write you off in terms of natural conception after 35?

I'll be 31 this year and babies are so not on the agenda yet

Your fertility starts to decrease dramatically from 35 onwards, so they tend to take you much more seriously much quicker...

Part of me wishes I'd met DH earlier, but given I've PCOS, one blocked fallopian tube, endometriosis and a fibriod I was always going to have problems!:rotfl:

jaffacat_2

just read this thread and wanted to post. we had a m/c last july (believe it when we had to leave our house as we were under threat of flooding,worse week of our life).we were told it was 1 in 3 that have a mc. ours was at 7wks.We have been trying again since nov with no luck. we are using a hospital and are having IUI but have missed a couple of months due to holidays/falling at wkends when they dont see you.next month im off for a scan when they inseminate you with die to see if there are any probs with tubes etc.
cant understand in DS is nearly 2 and we fell on 2nd insemination with him.
all our friends are due their num 2 from now til aug (we know 6 couples)so hard esp as ours would have been due in 2mths if we hadnt mc.

I have to look at our beautiful son and realise how lucky we are,we just want him to have a bro/sis as we are only children and dont want him to be the only child.

This whole adventure is so hard on us emotionally and financially (nearly £800 a month)....just brought a clearblue monitor, anyone use one? It has such a good read up....just gotta get the 4 batteries as a/f is due next week.

good luck to everyone, lets hope that this year is our year.

shelly

jaffacat wrote: »

next month im off for a scan when they inseminate you with die to see if there are any probs with tubes etc.

Have you had this before? Do you know what to expect? If you don't I can tell you because Iv'e had it done twice.
I thought I'd ask first though as not everyone wants to know, knowing what I do now though I wish someone had told me!

butterfly72

I'm gutted. We should be TTC, but when it came to it.. my OH wouldn't 'do the deed'. We'd talked about it for the past few months, how the new year would be a good time and a few days before my fertile period this month, I mentioned to him we'd need to get busy!!! He told me that it was unromantic to make sex into a baby making act and we should just let it happen. But it didn't!!! To be honest, we have low sex drives... so I doubt that it would ever happen if we left it to when we are in the mood!!!

Afterwards I asked him why he could't go through with it and he told me that we should have talked more about it! I thought he didn't want to!! Now the time has passed and I guess I'll have to hope that next month he's more willing. I think he is suffering from last minute commitment phobia... but i'm 36 and feel now is the time. I'm not sure how to approach this.. what do you think?

jiblets1

Talk definately, as gently as you can if he's nervous, but it has to be done.
My OH and I had spoken about it for a while before I came off the pill, but when I said I was definately doing it, he had a bit of a shock. We talked it through and decided to come off the pill but use condoms for a little while to let the pill get out of my system with "no obligation" as it were. Within a week or so of that he'd gotten to grips with it just fine, and was ready and keen. Men are a different animal, and sometimes need a little extra time to get their head round something. Good luck with it...

shelly

Butterfly, I know big time how you feel! My hubby doesn't like "being turned into a machine" My fertility doc said to do it every 2-3 days throughout the whole month but we manage for about a week then we miss a few days and its back to square one! Its not romantic and it does take the spontaneity out of it but we must do what ever it takes