Trying To Concieve

scottishchick27

chickpea wrote: »

It's normal, don't beat yourself up (visualise beating up her smug, pregnant, happy face instead if it'll make you feel better.) Just joking, of course!

Although take it from me, once you've been trying for a while, like over 3 years, the jealousy is all-encompassing. I physically can't walk into baby clothes shops anymore - it's like an invisible forcefield won't let me cross the entrance.

Wait until she's pregnant AGAIN, and you haven't had one yet - then you'll know what jealousy really is..!

I'm sorry. I knew I sounded a bit off but it still hurt a bit. I already have a DD age 6 so I know how lucky I am but it doesn't feel any easier.

ScENeYmE

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

It does seem like every day brings another reminder of how you are not pg. We had my step son over for the weekend as usual, which normally doesn't bother me (we get on really well) but this weekend he seemed to serve as a reminder that DH IS fertile (or at least he was 9 years ago) and if there are any problems they are likely to be with me.


By the way - is anyone else going through this with a partner who has 'done it before'? DH is quite conscious of it and would never say that his ex-w dealt with things this way or that happened to her...but there is still something in me that sometimes wonders if it is all as exciting when it is not your first...

I know exactly how you're feeling. We have been TTC for 2 years now, but I have polycystic ovaries, so it's not easy. But my OH has got 3 sons aged 3, 5 and 7. They live in Gloucester (OH is from there) and we're in Manchester, but we have the for a few weeks at a time when we can. When they come up I love playing mum to them, but then all too soon it's time for them to go home, and that's when it makes me realise even more that I'm struggling to have children myself. At least it's not a constant reminder, no matter how much I love them. Also my brother has a 2 year old Daughter and a 3 month old Son. I see them nearly every day, I absolutely love them to bits, but when I found out that my sister in law was pregnant I was devastated. Luckily I have the best family in the world who really suppert me when I'm a bit fed up about it all. A few of them have actually offered as a last resort to be a surrogate, which really would be the last thing as I'd love to experience the pregnancy, labour, everything about having a baby.

Ok random typing over, it's bed time

maggiemaybe

Hi all, back from Florida not in the mood for work.

:hugs: jiblets! I know how you feel - friends around me are having babies left, right & centre and I'm having to shop for masses of baby showers. Then people coo over the babies and go "oh maybe I'll have another one"....like it's nothing. I know they don't mean it nastily, but sometimes I feel like saying "but you've already got one/two - what about meeee?"

Selfish rant over

It's now Day 67 since last period and I've just sent off for some pregnancy tests. I'm pretty sure I'm not but might as well make sure. Are severe hot flushes a pregnancy sign? :rolleyes:

Sarah_Joanne

Well I am now on CD26! I can't wait until the weekend to see if AF arrives or to do a test if not! This has been the first month of properly trying and first full cycle off the pill so I'm trying not to get my hopes up but failing miserably.

I can see what others mean when they talk about symptom spotting! I felt a little bit queasy for about 5 minutes this morning and convinced myself it was proof!

I really feel for you girls who have been trying for some time. I can see how this month after month would be very hard and I think you all are all very strong to get through it all.

All the best to all of you and I'll let you know what happens at the end of this week! Until then I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed!

Nicki

helen79 wrote: »

Hiya, I know it feels like forever until Monday, but hang on in there! You get the most accurate reading on the day that your period is due. Good luck, and try to resist til Monday!

x

Tested again first thing this morning and still BFN but as the day has worn on still no sign of AF coming, and still have sore boobs, feel ravenously hungry, knackered and running to the loo every 10 mins it feels like. Made the mistake of telling OH on Friday evening that there was a chance I was, so he was disappointed when the test was negative this morning. He thought I was because he said I was incredibly grumpy over the weekend, and I don't usually get PMT :rolleyes: . Until AF appears however, I'm buoying myself up with stories on another thread here about people who were pregnant but didn't test postive until a few weeks after they missed their first period. And in the meantime am resisting the call of the blue cheese and wine in the fridge, hard though that is.

Will try and hold out to the end of the week, before testing again if no sign of AF. Suspense (or maybe self-delusion is killing me though). Doesn't help that my good friend has just found out she is expecting again, so would be good timing for us to have little ones together.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

I can see what others mean when they talk about symptom spotting! I felt a little bit queasy for about 5 minutes this morning and convinced myself it was proof!

I have been sick practically every morning since I was about 14 so that symptom is not the best test for me (all kinds of tests just come up with weak stomach, stress and gag-reflex - sorry TMI!)

I am waiting for a coffee aversion - I love my coffee so the minute I taks a dislike I will be like >>> :j


I am feeling a bit brighter today, in a kind of what's done is done, que sera sera kind of way.


Wishing you all very the best of baby-dancing

shelly

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

I can see what others mean when they talk about symptom spotting! I felt a little bit queasy for about 5 minutes this morning and convinced myself it was proof!

We have been trying for 4 years (been successful twice but lost them both) and I convince myself pretty much every month I am pregnant :rotfl: When you are desperate to conceive its very hard not to take any tiny symptom and blow it out of all proportion.
I try not to let myself get excited when AF is a day late but its so hard, even after all this time......you would think I would be used to it by now :rolleyes:

Sarah_Joanne

Well I have been pregnant once before - when I was much younger. I had been having problems and had not had AF for 8 months previously so didn't notice when it didn't show (along with being told that I wouldn't be able to conceive by Dr) So I was 12 weeks gone before I found out.

I had had all the symptoms but never put it all together as it was so unexpected! I thought I was bloated due to excesses over Christmas, my boobs had grown cos I had put on weight, and I had been coming off anti-depressants with horrendous side effects including nausea. Looking back the nausea was almost certainly morning sickness!

So now I think I am ultra sensitive to anything that may be a symptom. Even when I was on the pill I was taking HPGs all the time as I had convinced myslef I was pregnant - although I never was!

So anyway now I'm just hoping. I was unable to have the baby before (), and just really really want to have one now. The decision I made before was the hardedst I have ever had to make but it was for the best. I do worry now that if I am unable to have a baby in the future I have lost my only chance.

I wasn't sure whether I could write this on here and I hope people can understand. The decision I made when I was young was not taken lightly, and there were very good (medical) reasons for it.

Baby dust and lots of love and luck to all

Sarah xx

searching_me

i know what you mean about looking for symptoms... i would believe i was every month i did get pg after trying for a year but had an ectopic found out on the 12th of may i was 8 weeks gone.... im on my first period since it all happen and my doctors have advised us not to try again for at least a couple of month... gutting but im being positive they managed to save my tube and everything else is healthy.... been hard at times though as my bro as just had a little boy hes georgous and im happy for him but it hurt alittle everytime i look at him so i know how you all feel.... im just look forward to the future and what it might bring... good luck to you all and ((hugs)) xx

angelfairy

Hi all,

Trying to catch up on the posts from over the weekend, but failing miserably.

Big hugs to all that need it though.

I am off to the docs on Wed night, just for some general advice re ttc and my weight. Really worried after watching the big baby documentary last week. I am not at the weight of the ladies featured, but bigger than I should be and it is really worrying me. Trying this month to focus on healthy eating inside of ttc, but i seem to be doing both.

Not sure really as to when my ovulation is, but trying to work it out, but last month's AF was a few days later than i expected (first month off the pill) so i am not sure what dates to put in???