Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

PrettyKittyKat

2 Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD49 Missmoose
CD41 Tryingin2018
CD33 Thrift260
CD27 Buttermint

"If in doubt - BD" Zone

"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD11 Aunty-Pickle
CD10 Creditcardjunkie
CD7 Skimper
CD4 PrettyKittyKat
CD3 Ariel85

Those we haven't heard from in a while:
Nanyco, CamelLady, athensgeorgia, SlothSocks, wifeforlife, LKRDN_Morgan, Zeni, KatieBee123, April87

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Please let me know if anything needs editing (including the zone you are in) and I will try to keep up. If you would like adding to the lists just let me know what CD day you are (the first day of your period is CD1).

2018 Thread Graduates:
Afoolandhermoney 23/01/2018
Selement 9/3/2018
Toots14 13/3/2018
T4Taylor 29/3/2018
NelliePie 13/4/2018
HappyLassie13 20/5/2018
Rambosmum 24/5/2018
Celepie 30/5/2018
HopHop 28/5/2018
Gemini90 31/5/2018
Sakurah 22/6/2018
BapBap 1/7/2018
KatieBee123 5/7/2018
Lola25 11/7/2018
HappyLassie13 1/9/2018
BusyBargainz 5/10/2018
WJN222 18/10/2018
Faith177 25/10/2018

PrettyKittyKat

Ariel85, welcome to the board! We are a similar age. I also wish I had stopped by pill earlier, but as we were getting married I didn’t want to risk AF arriving during the wedding/honeymoon! I am definitely not going back on the pill if we are lucky enough to conceive as we would like two children.

Ginger, I have realised that you aren’t on the lists – would you like to go on?

I find this forum such a comfort too. There are only two people that know we are TTC in ‘real life’. One is a family member who is over a year further in the TTC journey than us and she has been going through fertility treatment so her advice and opinion has been invaluable. The other is my SIL who we recently told, she conceived both her children within 1 month of coming off her contraception so she doesn’t understand the emotional side but we are close to her and very drunk when we told her! Haha

Had my hair cut yesterday and got the question….’So when you have moved house does that mean it’s time to start trying?’… anyone else stomach just churn at those type of questions? I’m not angry she asked me, just sad I had to smile sweetly and say ‘We are hoping to have a baby next year’ rather than ‘actually we are pregnant!’.

skimper

Could I be moved to the If in doubt zone please?

CreditCardJunkie

PKK I'm more at the stage where I find it awkward when someone asks, I don't know what to say so say nothing and then everyone feels awkward lol.
Was visiting a family member in hospital last week who jokingly said about going to the maternity ward (because it's a nice new building) and said I'd be more likely to be going....to which I had no idea what to say lol

GingerSaurus

PKK yes actually I will go on the lists please. I didn’t want to when I joined because I didn’t want to be stuck at the top for ages with my long cycles but they seem to have settled down now. CD2 today.

My SIL also conceived the first month off birth control. I hate being asked about it as well. It sounds silly but neither OH or I really like being around kids so I think family sometimes think it’s ok to ask because they don’t think we’ll want them.

Aunty-Pickle

The whole questions about having children is horrible. OH and I met in 1996 and were married in 1999 so you can imagine the whole raft of questions and comments we had to deal with until I got pregnant in 2014! Had some particularly horrible ones from MIL. My mum was amazing and never ever asked or said anything! When we moved into our current house it sparked a lot of rumours. J was just about to turn 2years old and the house had 3 bedrooms...
Goodness, people are such nosy gossips aren't they?!

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PrettyKittyKat

2 Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD50 Missmoose
CD42 Tryingin2018
CD34 Thrift260
CD28 Buttermint

"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD8 Skimper

"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD12 Aunty-Pickle
CD11 Creditcardjunkie
CD5 PrettyKittyKat
CD4 Ariel85
CD3 GingerSaurus

Those we haven't heard from in a while:
Nanyco, CamelLady, athensgeorgia, SlothSocks, wifeforlife, LKRDN_Morgan, Zeni, KatieBee123, April87

When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

For those posting on smartphones or tablets the code for magenta is
([ )COLOR="magenta"( ] )your text ( [ )/COLOR ( ] ) (lose the round bracket)

Please let me know if anything needs editing (including the zone you are in) and I will try to keep up. If you would like adding to the lists just let me know what CD day you are (the first day of your period is CD1).

2018 Thread Graduates:
Afoolandhermoney 23/01/2018
Selement 9/3/2018
Toots14 13/3/2018
T4Taylor 29/3/2018
NelliePie 13/4/2018
HappyLassie13 20/5/2018
Rambosmum 24/5/2018
Celepie 30/5/2018
HopHop 28/5/2018
Gemini90 31/5/2018
Sakurah 22/6/2018
BapBap 1/7/2018
KatieBee123 5/7/2018
Lola25 11/7/2018
HappyLassie13 1/9/2018
BusyBargainz 5/10/2018
WJN222 18/10/2018
Faith177 25/10/2018

PrettyKittyKat

yes I definitely feel awkward too! Mostly because I hate lying, hence why I don't exactly say 'we aren't trying now' but word it differently, but also because I don't want to tell everyone and his dog our private business!

I think many years ago I would have fallen into the trap of asking people these types of questions. But this was naivety. Now I am older I know about what COULD be happening behind closed doors (infertility, baby loss) so I know the pain that question or joke could cause.

Gosh Aunty-Pickle all those years married with no baby - you must have been the local scandal hahaha (Joking!). We have been married 15 months and it has been the constant question.

Ariel85

We have been married 7 years. Got the question a lot at first but seems to have died down now. My mum has stopped asking too as she knew I didn't like the questioning!

First bit of advice needed....

I had what I thought was the first day of AF Wednesday. My cycles have been irregular since coming off the pill so didn't think too much of it when my last cycle was only 23 days. Did have really sore boobs leading up to this though and still is the case, even though af has finished now. This is unusual for me, they usually stop hurting on the day af arrives. I had a nagging doubt and did an OPK thismorning which came up positive, this was just one of the strip ones rather than a smiley face one.

I then went to Tesco and bought 2 HPTs and took one. There is faint line. I'm just really confused as I had 3 days of bleeding, used tampons and everything. Wondering whether this has been a chemical. I'm going away with work today so have taken the other test with me and may test in a few more days to see if the line is any darker....

Really want to be feeling more positive but not feeling it with how much bleeding there was

CreditCardJunkie

I feel the same PKK!

Ohh Ariel, I have everything crossed for you that this could be your BFP!