Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

kirtsypoos

Thanks Cherry will give it a go.

I'm feeling a bit negative at the moment. My OH has seriously low libido and is happy to go 7-10 days with no BD :mad: the idea was to be more open this month so he would have more of an idea about timing....it seems like the opposite has happened and he feels more pressured and then makes excuses....I know he wasn't well last week but I do think he's putting it on a bit now so I'm feeling a bit resentful that all he has to to is get his end away and I have to remind and nag before it happens.

alipops1986

twigpig wrote: »

That's great zeni.... good luck with moving we'll be putting our house on the market in the next 1-2 months. Not looking forward to it..... lol

Welcome alipops, just let me know if and where to add you to the list :wave:

Thanks Twigpig - could you add me to 'awaiting OV' - currently CD4.

According to my App, it has predicted fertile days as: Sun (CD10), Mon (CD11), Tues (CD12) with predicted Ovulation around Wed (CD13). I've been monitoring my cycle via the app since October, so have a good bit of information in there now. Apparently, I average a 27/28/29 day cycle!

I used the same App when trying for my little boy, who is nearly 3 years old now. It took us 4 months to conceive him, although for one of those months life got in the way so we weren't actively trying really.

As usual though, once the whole idea of conceiving is in your head it does actually take over your thoughts, or is that just me?! I'm constantly wondering 'What if?' and thinking too far ahead!

Alipops x

alipops1986

kirtsypoos wrote: »

Thanks Cherry will give it a go.

I'm feeling a bit negative at the moment. My OH has seriously low libido and is happy to go 7-10 days with no BD :mad: the idea was to be more open this month so he would have more of an idea about timing....it seems like the opposite has happened and he feels more pressured and then makes excuses....I know he wasn't well last week but I do think he's putting it on a bit now so I'm feeling a bit resentful that all he has to to is get his end away and I have to remind and nag before it happens.

Unfortunately Kirtsypoos, I don't think men get it. My husband certainly doesn't always compute the information I give him! I think some of that is to do with the fact that the whole baby situation isn't in their body, they get the easy end of it really. Also, I think as ladies we invest far more into the process of trying,emotionally by monitoring things/finding the window of opportunity. For my OH particularly, I think his motto is "there's always next month!" - which I completely agree with, if he's put in his required level of effort :rotfl:

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Hi twigpig can you update me please? I'm in the two week wait at 4dpo.

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I agree totally kitsypoos and alipops, it's sometimes frustrating to get across the urgency. There's just no way to say "fertile window" in any kind of romantic or sexy way! And of course there are often just other things that get in the way like illness or stress.

alipops1986

Cherry_Gale wrote: »

I agree totally kitsypoos and alipops, it's sometimes frustrating to get across the urgency. There's just no way to say "fertile window" in any kind of romantic or sexy way! And of course there are often just other things that get in the way like illness or stress.

I'm glad i'm not alone on this Cherry - also I think men/perhaps people in general assume as we spend so long trying to avoid getting pregnant that when you want it to happen, it just will. When actually, the fertile window can be so small it's quite impressive when people hit that by 'accident' or 'by chance'!

kirtsypoos

alipops1986 wrote: »

I'm glad i'm not alone on this Cherry - also I think men/perhaps people in general assume as we spend so long trying to avoid getting pregnant that when you want it to happen, it just will. When actually, the fertile window can be so small it's quite impressive when people hit that by 'accident' or 'by chance'!

That's exactly it alipops! We spent over 3 years on birth control and now he seems to think it will just happen....

Cherry that's so true! I started trying to be a bit coy about it and not really let him know that fertile week was a thing!

He's not 'feeling it' tonight either so I'm silently seething

Munchkin84

I'm glad it's not just me,
Thankfully our fertile window this time will close the day after OH gets back from working away so hopefully won't need any encouragement after being away for six weeks.

twigpig

TTC thread

Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD39 athensgeorgia - 19 dpo


"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD4 alipops1986 - awaiting ov
CD9 ButterflyBabe - awaiting ov
CD10 twigpig - awaiting ov
CD12 kirtsypoos - awaiting ov
CD13 Zeni - awaiting ov
CD18 Cherry Gale - awaiting ov
CD24 DSM348 - awaiting ov
CD25 Orange_Candle - awaiting ov
CD57 easilydistracted - awaiting ov


"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD16 MrsNubs
:EasterBun

Those we haven't heard from in a while
dragoneye454

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MrsNubs

Twig could you remove me from the lists please? DH and I had a long chat over the weekend and we've decided to do less tracking as it really doesn't seem to be working for us. I tried temping and never got any sort of pattern and OPK's also don't seem to work. While my cycles are so crazy I have no idea when I should even be doing the OPK's so I think I probably miss the window most months cause I'm expecting my cycle to be a lot shorter than it is.

We're going to try to BD every 2-3 days for the whole month and see if we have better luck