How to handle this one re workmen?

Rain_Shadow

Sounds like what started out as a small job turned into a big job.:cool:

onomatopoeia99

I tell people working in my home they can use the loo when they arrive so they don't have to ask me again, I'll also point them at the teabags, sugar, milk and kettle, then I leave them to it.

Generally I'll go to work so I don't waste annual leave sitting around while they work.

TBagpuss

miss_independent wrote: »

Yes it is my problem. But I also think its extremely rude to wander around people's upstairs or to use the toilet in someone's home without asking.

I think it is the wandering around the house which is rudeand which I would address with the workman.
I think using a loo is one of those slightly grey areas - I think it's generally polite to ask but almost always rude to refuse, so someone using the loo without asking first would strike me a slightly rude, but not a major issue. (I'm assuming that they are someone who is working there, or who you don't know well, I would not expect a close friend, house guest or family member to ask)

Thinking about it, if I'm in someone's house in my personal capacity I'd probably ask "where is the loo" (as it would never occur to me that someone would not let a guest use the loo) but if I was there in a professional capacity I'd ask "May I use your loo/bathroom" as I ouldn't necessarily make the same assumption. But this is partly because in my professional capacity I would not normally be in anyone's home for more than an hour at most.

I still don't think OP overreacted as this was someone wandering arounf upstairs and in parts of the houe he had no permission, and no legitimate reason to be in. I would definitely be checkingthat any small valuables were still there and I'd also be mentioning it him - quite apart from anything else, if we put th best possible spin on it and assum that he was justs totally clueless then it's to his benefit to have it pointed out that a lot of his customers are likely to find that kind of behaviour unacceptable, it may save him losing repeat business in future.

lazer

If the bedroom is above the kitchen he may have been looking at the flooring to see if was easy to lift to change or test the light fittings from above.

LannieDuck

Him being in your bedroom when he had no reason to be there was inappropriate and unprofessional. At the very least, lock the door next time he comes around, and I (personally) would find an alternative workman for the future.

Popping upstairs to use the bathroom, fine. On finding it had no door he should have come and asked whether there was a toilet he could use, not randomly wander around the parts of your house he had no business being in.

CAPTAINBLONDECHICK

I wouldn't dream of walking around anyone's house (never mind a stranger/customer's) looking for the bathroom without having asked first - out of politeness, rather than for permission. I still even ask my oldest friend if he minds me using his! I see it as good manners.

On the other hand, I would have no issue with a visiting family member or friend just using mine without saying anything as they are someone I know, but if I had someone in doing work that was a stranger to me, I would have no problem with them using it (if it was presentable!!), I would just expect to be asked - again, not for permission but just by way of good manners.

Mind you, years ago, someone from BT was putting a new line in my house and asked to use mine just as he was leaving - no problem at all ...... until the smell that enveloped the entire house afterwards! Never smelt anything like it from a human being in all my life. Took what seemed like hours to get rid of.

Dill

CAPTAINBLONDECHICK wrote: »

I wouldn't dream of walking around anyone's house (never mind a stranger/customer's) looking for the bathroom without having asked first - out of politeness, rather than for permission. I still even ask my oldest friend if he minds me using his! I see it as good manners.

On the other hand, I would have no issue with a visiting family member or friend just using mine without saying anything as they are someone I know, but if I had someone in doing work that was a stranger to me, I would have no problem with them using it (if it was presentable!!), I would just expect to be asked - again, not for permission but just by way of good manners.

Mind you, years ago, someone from BT was putting a new line in my house and asked to use mine just as he was leaving - no problem at all ...... until the smell that enveloped the entire house afterwards! Never smelt anything like it from a human being in all my life. Took what seemed like hours to get rid of.

:rotfl:

On one occasion the plumber left our toilet soiled and in a really dirty state. Maybe it's a man thing. Personally I flush until it's all gone down the toilet, and would be mortified to leave someone else's loo in such a state.

carefullycautious

Am I missing the point here.


You had a plumber in to do a job, for all you know he could have been checking the rooms to see where the pipes are and running the water upstairs to check the pressure.


Also if the poor man needed the toilet urgently for number 2s I would not have made an issue out of it to embarrass him.


As for you leaving items of clothing and sanitary ware around that's just laziness on your part which we may all be guilty of at some time in our lives.


As for your OCD watch the recent episode of Bear Grylls Mission survive where Jason Gardner who also has OCD is quickly cured. When you are put into extreme situations living outdoors there is no such thing as OCD.

carefullycautious

CAPTAINBLONDECHICK wrote: »

I wouldn't dream of walking around anyone's house (never mind a stranger/customer's) looking for the bathroom without having asked first - out of politeness, rather than for permission. I still even ask my oldest friend if he minds me using his! I see it as good manners.

On the other hand, I would have no issue with a visiting family member or friend just using mine without saying anything as they are someone I know, but if I had someone in doing work that was a stranger to me, I would have no problem with them using it (if it was presentable!!), I would just expect to be asked - again, not for permission but just by way of go

Mind you, years ago, someone from BT was putting a new line in my house and asked to use mine just as he was leaving - no problem at all ...... until the smell that enveloped the entire house afterwards! Never smelt anything like it from a human being in all my life. Took what seemed like hours to get rid of.

You can quickly get rid of this smell by lighting and blowing out matches. The sulphur kills it

Topcat1982

carefullycautious wrote: »

Am I missing the point here.


You had a plumber in to do a job, for all you know he could have been checking the rooms to see where the pipes are and running the water upstairs to check the pressure.

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It was an electrician.

I too am surprised he would go into the bedroom without asking, even if he was looking for ensuite.