Government petition to make the parent receiving child maintenance provide receipts

borkid

Teah would you expect receipts for food shopping to be split into 2, one for the childrens food and for the RP food? Would you expect energy/internet/phone bills and the like to be apportioned? What about travel fares/ petrol ferrying the children around receipts for these as well. I really can't see it being workable.

duchy

Teah1984 wrote: »

If I was giving the opportunity to have my children on a permanent basis I would not hesitate for a second. I fully understand how much financially it costs to cloth, feed etc a child/children. I have one question! Do you believe that it is ok for child maintenance to be spent on funding a rp's social life without the children's involvement? My point in the grand scheme of things is that as long as child maintenance is being spent on something that is directly benefiting the child/children then there is no problem but when it is not being spent on the child/children that's when something needs to be done!

If your child support was the sole income to the family's household - you might have a point but the way things work in Britain this simply isn't the case. In your case in particular there is also a new partner who presumably brings in an income to the family - some of which benefits the children living there . You haven't mentioned if the mother of the children also works. Whether she does or not some of the household income will be hers either through wages or benefits .

Perhaps you need to stop focusing (fixating) on what your ex is or is not doing and wasting time wondering if a bottle of wine was purchased from which income coming into the home. Your attitude really isn't healthy either for you or your children.

Teah1984

To be perfectly honest I do understand where everyone is coming from and i hold my hands up and admit that I have not gone about things correctly although thought was put into this clearly not enough thought and planning was considered. I admit the petition would never work and also some points that have been thrown up mean that I would not want this petition to go ahead ie controlling aspects amongst others. My children are cared for extremely well from both sides. Although I still have personal reservations with regards to maintenance I accept that I have went about it the wrong way. Again I would like to thank everyone for the comments and input, apologies if I did offend anyone during the debate. Petition will be stopped as soon as possible on the basis that it is morally incorrect and also could never work I admit.

NYM

Make no mistake, many I'm sure, understand your frustrations it's just the practicalities of it are unworkable. X

Teah1984

I understand now the way that I went about trying to get my point across was incorrect. Yes frustrations are there however my focus is and will always be my children sometimes I let frustrations get the better of me but because of a lot of comments today I will take time to think things over before jumping in at the deep end. Again thank you to everyone for your comments.

nearlyrich

The further explanation with your ex taking the money off them would annoy me too, even when destitute I never touched their money boxes or bank accounts. 2 things you can do 1 is have a calm conversation about why she has taken their money and indeed your money to buy coats that never materialized. 2 you can give them money to spend which you keep hold of and if they need coats on top of maintenance paid you take them and buy them suitable coats or whatever after a discussion with your ex about what they need.

pathtofreedom

Would you rather she was working full time, but most of your maintenance was just having to pay for the child care so she could work? As then she and the children could end up worse off over all depending how old they are and if they are in full time school, even if they are at school full time that would still leave holidays, before and after school times for childcare.

Either go for reversing the situation and you have the kids in the week, she has them weekends, and see how you can cope with it, or just let her get on with her life, and be glad she does have a partner who no doubt treats your children as well.

Teah1984

It is certain things like that instance which have annoyed me. I will always provide for my children emotionally and financially however you are right I may just have to spend the money on coats etc myself rather than being trusting with money in future

POPPYOSCAR

Back to school next week!

pathtofreedom

Teah1984 wrote: »

It is certain things like that instance which have annoyed me. I will always provide for my children emotionally and financially however you are right I may just have to spend the money on coats etc myself rather than being trusting with money in future

Could she have put the money in a junior isa for them, who told you she borrowed it? Maybe that was easier to say depending on their ages, than trying to explain isa's. Again you're assuming without knowing all the facts or details of her financial life or just her life in general.