large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

missbiggles1

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

That was a bit of a gratuitous personal insult isnt it? Where did that come from?:cool:

You know very well what I mean - ie friends invite each other to relevant things they go to that they think the other will fancy and that they are taking other friends along to.

One takes it for granted that it's not necessary to absolutely carefully nitpickingly explain every word....:cool:

It wasn't intended as an insult - you specifically said you'd expect friends to invite you when they went out. If you didn't mean what you wrote, why did you write it?

BarryBlue

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Don't worry, it's mainly women who are agreeing with you as well - we don't all have short arms and long pockets!:)

Yes, I realise that. I am just having a chuckle at the more and more ludicrous posts that seek to tell me that we do the wrong thing in just paying without a second thought. We apparently have links to statistical sites now. How loopy is that!:rotfl:

missbiggles1

Jagraf wrote: »

I don't think you can run through a toilet window ( didn't want your getaway pan to fail). Especially if you've nicked the bread rolls.

Even more so if you've eaten the bread rolls!

missbiggles1

BarryBlue wrote: »

Yes, I realise that. I am just having a chuckle at the more and more ludicrous posts that seek to tell me that we do the wrong thing in just paying without a second thought. We apparently have links to statistical sites now. How loopy is that!:rotfl:

What's amazed me about this thread is not that people do things differently because that goes without saying. However, what's surprising is that the things that I (and some others) think of as basic good manners and thoughtfulness are derided and considered heinous crimes by so many.

The world gets madder every passing day.:(

onlyroz

BarryBlue wrote: »

Yes, I realise that. I am just having a chuckle at the more and more ludicrous posts that seek to tell me that we do the wrong thing in just paying without a second thought. We apparently have links to statistical sites now. How loopy is that!:rotfl:

I don't have a problem with you paying without a thought if you can afford to do so. I do have a problem with your incredulity that others might not wish to do this, or your brushing off of suggestions that a person's circumstances could change over time.

onlyroz

missbiggles1 wrote: »

What's amazed me about this thread is not that people do things differently because that goes without saying. However, what's surprising is that the things that I (and some others) think of as basic good manners and thoughtfulness are derided and considered heinous crimes by so many.

The world gets madder every passing day.:(

It's good manners to describe people who don't want to subsidise your dinner as having "short arms and long pockets"?

seven-day-weekend

Yes, missb, strange isn't it, that you have consideration for someone's circumstances and go somewhere cheaper, and you are accused of 'demoting them to the second division' and NOT considering them. Strange.

I would not even ask my son and his partner, or some of our financially stretched friends to come to an expensive restaurant unless I was treating them. I don't want to think of them scratting around trying to find something they can afford. I'd rather go to Wetherspoons where they can eat as much as they like. I also don't want to rub it in that we can afford this and they can't. I'd have thought that was having consideration for them. But apparently not.

missbiggles1

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Because, as can be seen from this thread, if they are not having one , some people are quite likely to think me a greedy pig for having one.

Although I know my friends would not think that.

Particularly if you've had a couple of glasses of wine as well!:eek:

You gannet!:rotfl:

missbiggles1

onlyroz wrote: »

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It's good manners to describe people who don't want to subsidise your dinner as having "short arms and long pockets"?

If I had done that it would indeed be bad mannered so it's just as well I haven't, isn't it?:D

seven-day-weekend

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Particularly if you've had a couple of glasses of wine as well!:eek:

You gannet!:rotfl:

...sometimes I have a liqueur coffee too