large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

seven-day-weekend

onlyroz wrote: »

Some people don't want to be subsidised, and don't ask for their friends' pity when times are tough. Many people still want to see their friends, and don't expect their friends to start eating in Wetherspoons when they normally go to fancier restaurants - but are instead perfectly happy to scale back on the number of courses, drinks and side dishes.

Well that of course is their choice. I still don't see anything wrong in offering to help out if they don't really want to 'scale back'.

onlyroz

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Well that of course is their choice. I still don't see anything wrong in offering to help out if they don't really want to 'scale back'.

Some people are too proud to accept charity, and others simply don't want to divulge the intimate details of their financial situation to all and sundry.

seven-day-weekend

onlyroz wrote: »

Some people are too proud to accept charity, and others simply don't want to divulge the intimate details of their financial situation to all and sundry.

I hope my friend would not class me as 'all and sundry'.

And as I say, there is nothing wrong with me offering. They are free to refuse.

If of course I did not know their financial situation, then I'd not know they were cutting back would I?

Georgiegirl256

KxMx wrote: »

I don't expect to be invited to every meal or outing.

I don't expect either a friend to presume they know my finances and not invite me to a particular place solely because they deem it too expensive for me.

I think the two posters who stated they "knew" their friends couldn't afford x have a flaming cheek.

By excluding them on your "knowledge" you seem to forget the possible ways those friends could have afforded, and enjoyed that outing. Ever heard of saving up? Extra money that month? A choice to spend all on one outing instead of on three? A savings pot for treats coming to fruition? I could go on here!

:T my point exactly! Not their choice to make.

Wow, 101 pages! Group meal out to celebrate? :rotfl:

cbrown372

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

:T my point exactly! Not their choice to make.

Wow, 101 pages! Group meal out to celebrate? :rotfl:

hang on until I break open my piggy bank to see if I have enough money

Georgiegirl256

Jagraf wrote: »

I can't speak for everyone else but if I was the one who had caught an illness / didn't drink alcohol / had a small plate etc I would still expect to pay the same as everyone else. That has been my experience too (and what I have been most comfortable with).

If someone offered that I pay less then I would say no.

Please don't say it is "sad" as it has in no way affected my friendship circles or my relationships with my relatives or my colleagues.

In my experience all my friends / colleagues / relatives have done exactly the same if they have eaten less or haven't had a drink. It's something that just doesn't happen, in my experience.

I wasn't going to. But also can't understand why you would feel the need to pay more than you need to?

I'm not talking about a difference of an extra bread roll here, or an extra drink there, but when there's a vast difference in cost.

Even though I believe the easiest way is for everyone to pay their own, I'm not one to get a calculator out and quibble over a few pounds. I think it's petty to argue and work it out to the penny.

Georgiegirl256

cbrown372 wrote: »

hang on until I break open my piggy bank to see if I have enough money

I think I might just be able to stretch to a pudding as well! Oh hang on a sec, I don't eat puddings, will I still be allowed to come?

onlyroz

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I hope my friend would not class me as 'all and sundry'.

And as I say, there is nothing wrong with me offering. They are free to refuse.

If of course I did not know their financial situation, then I'd not know they were cutting back would I?

No, there is nothing wrong with you offering, but there are many people who would refuse your offer. And my point is that there should be no need for anybody to divulge personal information about their finances and health. It should be enough to say "I'm only eating one course today" without expecting to be interrogated, or being expected to pay for more than what you ate.

onlyroz

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I think I might just be able to stretch to a pudding as well! Oh hang on a sec, I don't eat puddings, will I still be allowed to come?

No, you're not welcome. You must stay at home so that my meal isn't ruined by your po-faced expression, or your pious preaching about the evils of puddings, or your insistence on not subsidising the cost of my own pudding.

moneyistooshorttomention

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Seriously?

You expect your friends to invite you along to every meal they eat, every film they go to see, every gig they go to?:eek:

I'm afraid that sounds more like a stalker than a friend!

That was a bit of a gratuitous personal insult isnt it? Where did that come from?:cool:

You know very well what I mean - ie friends invite each other to relevant things they go to that they think the other will fancy and that they are taking other friends along to.

One takes it for granted that it's not necessary to absolutely carefully nitpickingly explain every word....:cool: