Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

z1a

Pyxis wrote: »

The thing is, zIa, that this thread is a thread for people who may have problems with their physical and /or mental health that may make them feel very vulnerable, and for people who can offer help and support.

Could I ask you to read the first 2 or 3 posts at the start of the thread, and then you will see what I mean.

One of the main things we try to do on here is to accept that a person's problems are very real to them, and are affecting their lives, and so we do not want to be judgemental or critical, but rather to try to be helpful, even if it's only to be a listening ear.

Judgement and criticism has its place in Discussion Time, but not here. :A

OK, explanation accepted. Admit I didn't read start of thread.

Will remove my comments from previous posts.

Pyxis

z1a wrote: »

OK, explanation accepted. Admit I didn't read start of thread.

Will remove my comments from previous posts.

Thank you. Much appreciated!






Deka and Surveyqueen, would you be kind enough, in the circumstances, to delete your quotes of the posts that z1a deleted?
Thank you.

surveyqueenuk

Pyxis wrote: »

Deka and Surveyqueen, would you be kind enough, in the circumstances, to delete your quotes of the posts that z1a deleted?
Thank you.

I'll get straight on it once that "board monitor" comment goes.

jobbingmusician

Ha ha.
Thanks, z1a. I can't help as I'm not board monitor in these parts.

I didn't see your original posts but thank you very much for removing them. I do understand that it might be a good idea to remove the board monitor thing, though.

Torry - I am so sorry. I wish I could find the original quote, but I know that your lovely husband is living through you, and he is still touching all our hearts and lives through you.

Torry_Quine

jobbingmusician wrote: »

Ha ha. Thanks, z1a. I can't help as I'm not board monitor in these parts.

I didn't see your original posts but thank you very much for removing them. I do understand that it might be a good idea to remove the board monitor thing, though.

Torry - I am so sorry. I wish I could find the original quote, but I know that your lovely husband is living through you, and he is still touching all our hearts and lives through you.

My husband is gone and cannot live through me or in any other way either, that's why it hurts so much. There is nothing of him here anymore. All I have are memories which are painful

Pyxis

Torry_Quine wrote: »

My husband is gone and cannot live through me or in any other way either, that's why it hurts so much. There is nothing of him here anymore. All I have are memories which are painful

Those memories are very painful now, Torry.
Hang on to them, as one day they will be a huge comfort.

The love your husband gave you was a great gift, and you were blessed. It was wrenched from you and that's why it hurts so much and why there's a whacking great wound.
But it's still there, in those memories.

Torry_Quine

Pyxis wrote: »

Those memories are very painful now, Torry.
Hang on to them, as one day they will be a huge comfort.

The love your husband gave you was a great gift, and you were blessed. It was wrenched from you and that's why it hurts so much and why there's a whacking great wound.
But it's still there, in those memories.

I don't know what to do, I want someone to make it better but nobody can.

Pyxis

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I don't know what to do, I want someone to make it better but nobody can.

:A:A ((((((((((((Torry)))))))))))))))

No, nobody can make it better.
Much as we want to, we can't.
Only time will do that.


Torry, My feeling is that you might be helped a lot by the Cruse association.
Is there a contact near you?

http://www.crusescotland.org.uk

calleyw

Torry,

Its hard when a love one dies. There is a lot of pain and hurt. My ex MIL was like that. She never forgave her husband for dying and leaving on her own.

There is always going to be firsts over the next year. First birthday, wedding anniversary etc with out him and they will cause you pain. But over time it does lessen.

How about you give the samaritans a call on 116 123. Its free and they are there for all. I have used them once before when I felt bad. And was alone and needed someone to talk to.

Yours

Calley x

Torry_Quine

Pyxis wrote: »

:A:A ((((((((((((Torry)))))))))))))))

No, nobody can make it better.
Much as we want to, we can't.
Only time will do that.


Torry, My feeling is that you might be helped a lot by the Cruse association.
Is there a contact near you?

http://www.crusescotland.org.uk

Thanks

calleyw wrote: »

Torry,

Its hard when a love one dies. There is a lot of pain and hurt. My ex MIL was like that. She never forgave her husband for dying and leaving on her own.

There is always going to be firsts over the next year. First birthday, wedding anniversary etc with out him and they will cause you pain. But over time it does lessen.

How about you give the samaritans a call on 116 123. Its free and they are there for all. I have used them once before when I felt bad. And was alone and needed someone to talk to.

Yours

Calley x

I've already had our anniversary and my birthday which was tough. Today is the day my mum died which was good Friday so Easter is never easy to get through.


I have called the Samaritans a couple of times, it helps for a little while but then feeling bad afterwards.