Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

onomatopoeia99

deka, some people with MH problems will tend to "self-medicate" using alcohol, often without realising they are doing it (as in, not realising why). My friend did, before she realised there was more going on than simple unhappiness and sought diagnosis. That doesn't stop his behaviour being inappropriate though, but after that much booze he probably had no concept of what was appropriate behaviour. I'd be unconscious after just the amoumt of whiskey you said.


My new year started with an invite to a friend's birthday, which was a total surprise and will double the number of non-family birthdays I attend in a typical year :rotfl:. Really looking forward to it, though since she's someone I've got know through a mutual friend it means lots meeting of new people, so also more than a little terrified.

Izadora

(((( Torry ))))

Happy New Year all. Here's hoping that 2018 brings nothing but good stuff for everyone.

calleyw

Afternoon my Lovelies,

Happy new year

Hugs and squishes and handshakes all around for everyone that needs them and even those that don't.

Quiet Christmas here. Christmas day had my ex around as other wise he would have been alone apart from a quick visit from his daughter and Grand Daughter. I am annoyed about it. And my ex got upset about it as he did not want to be a burden and as it was and AM's first xmas together. I told him would not take no for an answer, AM would do a firemans lift and carry him to the car :rotfl:

I did try and do too much as did turkey, gammon and beef LOL!!!! AM did the yorkies. I know. Had AM's parents around on boxing day for a buffet. Cold meats and jacket potatoes yummy.

Chilled rest of the week. New years eve stay home because of Action dog and fireworks. Down to the coast yesterday for a couple of hrs. AM back to work today yay :rotfl:

Well this is a shocker joined a gym and we are trying to go most days. After my health check thought I had got away with it. But no have a dr's appointment at the end of the week

Yes I know I am porker and my blood pressure and cholesterol is raised. I ate too much over xmas like we all do.

Anyway everyone have a good day

Yours

Calley XX

whitewing

Happy New Year, everybody. I have been reading via my mobile but never got the hang of posting from it.

Back at work today but it is very quiet at the moment. I have had a lovely sort through of emails - deleted loads.

System

New Year was a bit of a nightmare. Went to Swain;s friends house, all was well, nice and chilled. Then his gf's (shes just moved in) friends turned up and the house went into full on party mode. Thaye are all in their late twenties but the screaming and the shouting and the loud music meant they were acting like 18 year olds. It was far too loud and busy for me. Swain tried to shelter me from it as best he could but it was too much for him too. We left at about 2am and have vowed to have a quiet night in this NYE!

System

Also slightly nervous as i think me and Swain are getting our own place in 2 years time. His mums not happy with his dad and wants to move in 2 years when her pension comes in, meaning Swain will have to move out. We are both going to give her £20 a week to save for us and n 2 years time that should cover the moving costs/deposits etc. Its scary but its real and tats making me want to save money more than ever so its a good motivator at least

elsien

Sounds like a plan, MU.

I have decided today I need to try to live more in the moment. Even when the moments aren't great. I seem to spend most of my time doing one thing while thinking of all the things I need to do next and even if it's just boring day to day stuff I feel sometimes that life is passing me by without me noticing. So plan A is just to think about what I'm doing now instead of my long to-do list. Hopefully it might make me a bit less stressed as well. Watch this space.

dekaspace

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

deka, some people with MH problems will tend to "self-medicate" using alcohol, often without realising they are doing it (as in, not realising why). My friend did, before she realised there was more going on than simple unhappiness and sought diagnosis. That doesn't stop his behaviour being inappropriate though, but after that much booze he probably had no concept of what was appropriate behaviour. I'd be unconscious after just the amoumt of whiskey you said..

He has been sectioned before, at his worst was that he was on legal highs and drink after his mum died of cancer and his brother raided his bank accounts, got credit cards in his name to pay for his heroin and kicked in my friends door a few times for somewhere to crash, im talking actually breaking the door down and needing a new door type.

The drink and legal highs have taken their toll, his personality when he is in a good mood is much like I remember, but he seems to be bitter over his situation he complains that he only works 9 hours a week so has no money (yet he has £220 a month and his rent and utilities are paid for him) so its not as if he is skint, yet in same conversation can complain he hates his job and he wants to go on benefits to be better off.

Other times he will play games to get attention, I hardly ever see him but he has another friend who went from seeing him a few times a week and taking him on trips and buying him food and letting him stay in his spare room (a do gooder, nice guy I have met him many times over the years) to making that person resent my friend, not due to the things he does for him but how my friend doesn't help himself and spends money when he has debts to pay, or won't leave the house, refused social work support in past(then complains how he is lonely)missed a PIP assessment as he felt too depressed to go but then complained he had no money.

dandy-candy

Dekka I have found some people never change and in fact they don't even want to change and improve their lot in life, because in some weird way they like being able to moan about their woes and have the attention it brings. I don't know if this applies to your friend, but if you find him stress inducing then put yourself first and spend less time with him.

System

New year is off to a positive start, i downloaded some money apps, one to record spending and one to record savings, its pay day tomorrow and i actually already still have money in the bank, im so used to living pay day to pay day so its nice to have a buffer and a bit more control of my spending.

ive downloaded myfitnesspal and im recording all i eat (doing the 5:2 diet too) and exercise (im going to pay for a gym induction then payg as it works out cheaper with my discount card than actual membership, and go swimming as well)(

oh and good news for Pyxis (i think it was you?) i'm cutting out the pepsi max addiction and drinking green tea instead!

I'd like to lose 5st :eek: this year thats only 70lbs, and if i aim for 2lb a week should only take 35 weeks to get there.

Mood wise i am a little tiny bit up, but not to the point of a full blown episode. I'll keep an eye on it and if it gets any worse will make a trup to my GP.