Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

onomatopoeia99

I don't know the acronym, so I suspect the answer is likely to be "not very much" unless it's something I've encountered under another name / different context, but feel free to send me a message and I'll help if I can.

System

I did a thing. A social thing. I went to the pub after work and met new people :eek:

And i've made social plans for the next 2 weeks!

I know since i;ve had my fixed shifts i;ve withdrawn quite a bit and been fearful of socialising. Thankfully my friends are understanding and some have MH problems themselves so they understand what i'm going through.

hugs and squishes for everyone!

this post is brought to you with a few pints of cider :beer:

dekaspace

I feel my doctor isn't doing their best, used to have an amazing doctor at old town who gave me regular blood tests at the slightest issue and prescribed me anxiety medication for a while, when I came here whilst they are friendly in a formal way nothing much gets done, they are the type that asks what you want then agrees/disagrees which is useless if you don't know what the problem is!

A few months ago it was only the fact I had a temp doctor that I got referred for sleep apnea, my regular two just told me my sleep issues were diet and routine based.

Saw my regular today stating that whilst I know I am waiting for sleep apnea apointment in past 3 weeks been so groggy it feels I have a mild flu at all times.

Her response "just wait until you have your hospital appointment as that will get to root of your tiredness" Even when discussing the sleep apnea she said I should be more active and I won't be tired!

Shes not a bad doctor just quick to make a diagnosis that gets nowhere.

heartbreak_star

Unfortunately, blood tests are too expensive to do at the slightest issue these days

Hopefully your hospital appt gets things sorted a bit!

HBS x

dekaspace

Well it wasn't just the blood test thing, its that for pretty much everything I get told either "theres something going round" or "just get a good nights sleep and eat well" even when I was barely able to move.

elsien

She's right though in that weight is one of the factors that can make sleep apnoea worse. It gets into a bit of a vicious circle where poor sleep impacts on energy, routine and motivation when affects physical health, which affects sleep. And so on.
If there's anything you can do in the meantime to try to break the cycle a little, then it can only help.

dekaspace

Well she wasn't just saying it for the sleep apnea but for everything, and I have been going to her for 3 years and each time I come in with a problem I get the same comments, I say I am so dizzy I can barely stand up she tells me to just eat well and get a good nights sleep at good time, I do this and I feel just as bad.

Its more likely hay fever as I was getting tablets for that and mentioned it at hospital who confirmed I have restricted airways likely due to hay fever.

I did also mention my hand that I broke at start of year was in agony for a week and been stff and tender for 2 weeks as did my shoulder which I hurt in same fall and she didn't even check just told me everyone feels pain in old injuries when its cold.

dandy-candy

Deka my husband was registered with a gp he didn't much like but we found out that that particular one wasn't in on Mondays so we made a point of booking advance appointments on that day. Could you maybe do the same?

dandy-candy

We've been asked out at the last minute to a meal in a restaurant tonight and I don't know what to do. There will probably be about a dozen people and they're my husbands relatives, they're nice but really loud and big drinkers. After last weeks lunch out with just my DH and me when I zoned out and couldn't wait to get home, I don't think I can handle this.

I know DH will say it's fine if I don't go, but I know he would rather I came. I worry if I don't go it will make me more of a hermit and less likely to go out another time, but on the other hand I have nothing nice to wear that will fit me, the restaurant only sells seafood and game neither of which I like (and the smell of fish makes me feel nauseous), and I'm already stressing about it to the point of welling up.

I have left the house today- I nipped to Homebase- so I feel I've done something. I also have to drop DS2 at his diving place at 8.am so don't want too late a night. Really want to pull out off dinner, I know DH will bring up that we never socialise...

Izadora

dandy-candy wrote: »

I know DH will say it's fine if I don't go, but I know he would rather I came.

Although he obviously wants you to be there I'm sure he'd also rather not have to worry that you're having a hideous evening.

dandy-candy wrote: »

I worry if I don't go it will make me more of a hermit and less likely to go out another time

I know it's a lot easier said than done but try no to worry. Sometimes going out when you don't want to can end up putting you off of all social engagements so reassure yourself that you'll go out when it's something more agreeable to you.

dandy-candy wrote: »

the restaurant only sells seafood and game neither of which I like (and the smell of fish makes me feel nauseous)

Even without the other considerations that would be enough to put me off. There's a fish restaurant near us that my MIL loves and I end up having to go there reasonably regularly, even though there's only one thing on the menu that I can eat and I despise the smell of fish, so I can sympathise.

dandy-candy wrote: »

I know DH will bring up that we never socialise...

Is there anything coming up that wouldn't stress you out as much as tonight's dinner? That way he could go on his own tonight (Oh, Dandy would've loved to come but you know how she feels about fish and game...) but know that there's a social event soon which he gets to share with you.

Whatever you decide to do I hope you have a good night ((((Dandy))))