Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Izadora

(((( Tea )))) I wouldn't normally advocate remembering bad times but, as long as you'll be able to see the positive side rather than it just upsetting you, think back to when things were really, really awful and then enjoy being proud of how far you've come.

Code - you should wear the skirt for your last day in the office!! It sounds fabulous and I'm very jealous of your legs. Even though I'm slightly above average height I always end up with the hems of jeans dragging on the ground. If I go for short ones they look slightly wrong as they're just a tiny bit too short...

WaS, I hope the knee gets better soon.

Waves_and_Smiles

That's a difficult one, Oakdene. Perhaps if you give it some time from seeing each other you might be able to hang on to the friendship you have but it is going to be raw for both of you right now. It sounds silly but do try to keep busy if you can and not ruminate over it, it will hurt more if you keep going over the what ifs in your head. I really hope that you can recover your friendship.

Thank you, Izadora. It's more annoying then anything. I am used to my mind going haywire and my autoimmune diseases flaring but my knee going on strike is a new one! Hence I am all grumpy and frustrated and want to chop my leg off. :rotfl:

tea_lover

What's your weather like there WaS? Damp weather plays havoc with my sister's dodgy knee (dislocated twice, various other issues with it). I don't know how it affects it but it really does.

Pyxis

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Waves_and_Smiles

Pyxis! Massive hugs!

It is a bit damp, tea. You might be onto something. It's not like I have done anything differently, it's just won't work suddenly. Of course suddenly I, who spends most of my days mostly stationary now wants to get up and move about the house and go dancing or something!

Izadora

WaS - you could always do a one-legged dance

Far from being damp here, it's glorious sunshine. It's meant to be nice all weekend as well and I'm going to be spending most of it in the flat!!

It's national afternoon tea week this week (it finishes Sunday) so I decided to have mum and dad round tomorrow and IzHe's mum's coming up for the weekend as well so I'll be spending most of the morning in the kitchen and then I'm working on Sunday. I've put together a shopping list this afternoon and have realised that I need to buy just over a litre of double cream!!!

tea_lover

Beautiful sunshine here too Iz. It's making me laugh as it's so cold and rainy in Rio! I'm onto my second load of washing for the day (I dream small :rotfl:). Your weekend sounds lovely

Waves_and_Smiles

National Afternoon Tea Week? A celebration I have never heard of??!! Ok, I am adding cream cakes to the shopping list, I already have expensive Lady Grey tea that I am too scared to drink because of the cost. I shall celebrate!

Izadora

tea_lover wrote: »

I'm onto my second load of washing for the day (I dream small :rotfl:).

It's a worthwhile dream to have though, I loved the fact that it was warm enough last Saturday that I got the bedding stripped, washed and back on the bed in a day

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

National Afternoon Tea Week? A celebration I have never heard of??!!

I hadn't heard of it until last week. It was quite strange because my mum called to tell me that she'd been tidying out some cupboards and had found my old cake plates so I said I'd have to have them round for afternoon tea at some point. I was reading a magazine on the train home, which I very rarely do, that night and it had an article all about it being Afternoon Tea week, so I decided we had to have it this weekend.

Although, seeing as I don't drink tea, I am serving it with prosecco instead

Waves_and_Smiles

I think I prefer your version, Izadora! I am contemplating cucumber sandwiches too with the crusts cut off. Surprisingly, WaSp agreed to the idea. I think it's the promise of cake. :rotfl: