Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

seven-day-weekend

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

I shall blurt out what's wrong. Remember I was in touch with an old colleague and close friend again? We shared some things about our lives and she asked me what happened when I became ill. I told her what I went through and she unfriended me on Facebook and never replied to my email, just stopped talking to me entirely.

I have no idea what I did wrong and now I feel like a walking mental health problem more than a person, as if my mental health defines me to others. I am still the person she knew before I became ill, it didn't change my personality yet because of my illness she doesn't want to know me anymore.

It feels like a loss because once we were very close and I have always missed her. I cannot console myself by saying she is a nasty person I don't need in my life because that isn't true. She is a lovely person with a huge heart who anyone would be lucky to have as a friend. I feel utterly rejected and unfairly judged, I made it clear that I was far more stable now and the worse times were in the past.

I just don't know how to deal with it, I feel so hurt. I could think of a million reasons why it could have happened but the truth is I will never know, she just doesn't feel she can be my friend anymore after hearing the truth. I feel like a freak not worthy of anyone right now.

WaS, this is not your fault, it is hers. Her behaviour. Her choice. You have done nothing other than be honest and if she can't cope with that, that is not your probem, it is hers.

I have had an old 'friend' unfriend me on facebook because I shared a post about panic attacks being a mental health condition. he sent me a very angry post and then unfriended me.

Sometimes people can't cope with it for whatever reason.

But it is NOT YOUR FAULT! xxxx

tea_lover

Couldn't agree more SDW. We could come up with 1001 reasons for her behaviour WaS and not one of them would reflect badly on you.

calleyw

mellymoo74 wrote: »

She's lovely calley xx

Thank you Melly.

I picked her because of the floppy ears and her colouring.


Yours

Calley

mellymoo74

I agree with sdw WaS.

She's a similar colour to foxy Calley has she got a bit more cuddly?

That's wiped me out dunno if I have enough construction experience for them, company was nice, independent 25 mil turnover do the fit outs for big retail stores.

calleyw

mellymoo74 wrote: »

I agree with sdw WaS.

She's a similar colour to foxy Calley has she got a bit more cuddly?

That's wiped me out dunno if I have enough construction experience for them, company was nice, independent 25 mil turnover do the fit outs for big retail stores.

I agree with SDW as well.

That is what prompted me to post the pictures. I am not a cat person. but she is very pretty.

Well have to wait and see what happens. Fingers crossed.

Yours

Calley

mellymoo74

Thank you X

This mornings walk
Melly
Froo
Boo
Foxy

Boo went toilet, I was cleaning it up Foxy came to see and did a fantastic backing away that smells face.
Froo span in a circle and went toilet foxy looked went further up the hill, span in a circle and went toilet. Swear she thinks she's a dog lol.

whitewing

I am finding it difficult to deal with slightly negative things (like customer queries that seem more like complaints). It's overshadowing the good stuff.

It was one of the worse features of mh issues to me - even if I had a good time, something seemed to come along and slap me in the face afterwards.

My life is full of normal ups and downs but why are the downs still more painful?

This is to do with resilience.

tea_lover

Think I could do with some more resilience as well WW.

Day been going tootling along ok, then one email from my boss and I'm back to pee'd off, frustrated, feeling like I can't get anything done, strong temptation to just go home, etc. It wasn't even a particularly bad email! But as you say.... definitely overshadowing the good stuff.

ETA: calley and melly - what beauties you two have! They are like twins

Pyxis

whitewing wrote: »

I am finding it difficult to deal with slightly negative things (like customer queries that seem more like complaints). It's overshadowing the good stuff.

It was one of the worse features of mh issues to me - even if I had a good time, something seemed to come along and slap me in the face afterwards.

My life is full of normal ups and downs but why are the downs still more painful?

This is to do with resilience.

I suppose we tend to remember the bad stuff more than the good stuff in certain circumstances.

When I was training for my last profession, we were told that we would be helping hundreds of people. However, what we would remember most would be the two or three whom we didn't help and who complained.
Two or three out of hundreds.

And he was right!

mellymoo74

Now OH is worrying cos foxy is off causing havoc somewhere
She's been a stray for a few weeks plus she likes to chase birdies, bees, flies, leaves and grass lol
She will be back when hungry or tired or just wants a love (sat on OH giving him a huge cuddle for a couple of hours yesterday, one now the reasons despite it not being a good idea money wise to keep her, she's staying)