Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

elona

WAS

It is her loss - in more ways than one if she cannot see you as the great person that you are. She may be a lovely person but she seems to be a blinkered and prejudiced one.

You do not deserve this and it is not your fault.

Pyxis

WaS, I've just thought, maybe she's angry with you for having gone through all that without letting her know.

Maybe she feels rejected by you, in having 'excluded' her from the dreadful times you had.

I don't know if that would make you feel better or worse, though.

Maybe when she's calmed down and thought about it, she'll get in touch again.



By the way, did you send an email to your psychologist chappie?

Waves_and_Smiles

Thank you elona, I am just so confused. She was happy we got back in contact and told me some very personal things about her life, I shared back as she asked and now she just doesn't want to know me.

It is possible, Pyxis. I haven't told anyone apart from all of you, not even WaSp because he used to know her and her partner really well too so it makes it feel more real to tell him and I might just cry. We all used to go out for drinks and meals together, I babysat for her, I was good friends with her mum. We were all very close which just makes it hurt so much more. I have always wanted her to be part of my life again and I was so happy when she was, now I feel like a door has been slammed in my face and I can't put it right because I cannot change who I am.

surveyqueenuk

WaS, maybe she feels guilty for letting the friendship flounder. Maybe she feels bad that she didn't check up on you shortly after you left work. She may have even had the mind to do so all those years ago but never quite got around to it (I think we have all probably done something similar...). And now, she could well be feeling terribly guilty as it turned out you were very ill.

If there is other stuff going on with her life then she might not be able to deal with these feelings. De-friending might have been the only way she could "switch off".

So there is the possibility that it wasn't personal at all, just a defence mechanism. I do understand that this doesn't make things any less unpleasant though. Hopefully, talking about this and getting some opinions is helping ((( )))

Effing Facebook! I am sure it causes more harm than good...

jobbingmusician

I am REALLY shocked at her, WaS. Because presumably she worked in mental health??? I can't believe that anyone who had anything to do with MH could blank someone out for being unwell. Perhaps it's a Facebook glitch - she might have blocked you without realising, and be sitting there thinking you'd blocked HER? I feel cross - I would like to be able to sack any of my staff if they did something like that. (I don't think any of them would, though. Still wondering if it's some sort of glitch.)

Waves_and_Smiles

Thank you, surveyqueen, that is possible.

I have emailed her twice JM and she has ignored me both times. We were emailing every day for a while, both very excited to catch up and the last email she sent me she asked about my mental health and told me she would never stop talking to me. Then she did just that. I sent her another email a week later saying I was sorry if I had upset her and that she is always welcome to discuss it with me but if not, I would always remember what a great friend she had been to me and I wished her and her family well. She never replied to that one either. I have done all I can think of, I am just so sorry that I wasn't good enough for her to remain friends with.

Pyxis

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Thank you, surveyqueen, that is possible.

I have emailed her twice JM and she has ignored me both times. We were emailing every day for a while, both very excited to catch up and the last email she sent me she asked about my mental health and told me she would never stop talking to me. Then she did just that. I sent her another email a week later saying I was sorry if I had upset her and that she is always welcome to discuss it with me but if not, I would always remember what a great friend she had been to me and I wished her and her family well. She never replied to that one either. I have done all I can think of, I am just so sorry that I wasn't good enough for her to remain friends with.

WaS, if she's not angry with you, then she's frightened. Not of you, but of your history. Why that should be, I don't know. Maybe she feel's she can't cope, especially with dealing with her daughter as well. Maybe that's the key to this.

Like I said, leave her be and give her time. You left the door ajar if she wants to get back in touch.

It is really horrible to be 'rejected' like that, though, whatever the reason or mitigating circumstances.

mellymoo74

WaS I'm upset and angry
How dare she
She will know what this would do to you

Georgiegirl256

You are good enough WaS, more than good enough. I can totally understand why it's upset you so much, it would me too, especially when you don't have any explanation whatsoever. Faceache, causes more trouble than it's worth. I know it has it's uses, but in general I can't stand it and left it years ago.

You don't think her partner is controlling her usage of her account and emails do you?

Georgiegirl256

Izadora wrote: »

I've gone shuddery just at the thought of that!!! Even if they'd been my favourite pair of pants I think they would've ended up being launched out of the window, never to be worn again!!

They did go flying across the bathroom at brake neck speed! Followed by "D!! Spiderrrrrrrrrrr!"

Pyxis wrote: »

Hahaha! Just noticed that auto carrot changed knickers to knockers! Now, that would have been an interesting discussion about pubic hair! :rotfl: :rotfl:

Kept on happening to me too, my first attempt at writing it was that there was a "spider in my knockers" :rotfl: Sounds like something off Allo Allo!