Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

onomatopoeia99

Sunny, removal people expect to load and unload everything in my experience, they don't expect the people they are employing to be an extra pair of hands unless you've actually agreed that as part of the deal when hiring them.

They'll likely be grateful if you offer cups of tea though!

Izadora

SI, I hope that all goes well with the move.
I can understand why you feel a bit weird about watching other people get on and work but it's their job and the fact that you've got everything packed up and moved the boxes downstairs is already way more than they would've expected you to do.
We moved a couple of weeks ago and IzHe (my husband) felt really bad about letting the removals men get on with it but when he offered to help they said that it was easier if he just kept out of the way because they've got a routine and throwing an extra person in would disrupt it. All they asked of him was that he told them which room stuff was going into when they got it to the new place.
Moving's stressful at the best of times so trying to do that at the same time as wanting to hide in a cave is going to be hard but it'll be over faster than you think and you can relax in the new place.
Try to make sure you don't push yourself to get everything unpacked and put away too quickly as well - living amongst boxes for a few weeks/month/years is preferable to exhausting yourself.

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Ugh. I composed a reply on the Kavaunagh vs Ford thread in DT, and deleted it because it gives personal experiences and I haven't got the brain space to have my character ripped to bits.

I wish I did. But it's been a bit of a draining day!

HBS x

Waves_and_Smiles

HBS! Hello, we missed you!

Hello new people and welcome!

Moving update-we move on Monday. It has been somewhat chaotic, I have so far managed 2 panic attacks and one catatonic episode but still holding it together so far (just). On Tuesday we should be settled. Wish us luck please!

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Good luck WaS! You got this

Lots of love SI - you got this too

I'm eating painkillers for breakfast. I threw my back out slightly yesterday...I hate this getting older stuff.

HBS x

Izadora

HBS - having seen the attitudes of some of the people on that thread I don't blame you. It's terrifying how much victim-blaming is going on over there!!

WaS - best of luck with today's move and I hope you love the new place.

SI - well done for making it through moving, and dealing with removals men who were rude enough to accept offers of help, and I hope you managed to get some relaxation in over the weekend.

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Bubble baths are awesome

HBS x

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Sunny_Intervals wrote: »

I haven't had one for a while. I got a wee bit carried away with the bubbles. Hid my expanding waistline, I suppose. :rotfl:

Takes more than a few bubbles to hide mine!

jobbingmusician

Aww SI, really really sorry to hear about the GP thing. I'll have a think and see if I can come up with any constructive suggestions. The only one at the moment is that we are both on our PPG (patient participation group). Every practice is supposed to have one of these, and they are a group of local volunteers who try to improve how the surgery is run. I do think we get slightly better treatment because our faces are known around the place (and we say useful things at 6 meetings a year about things like your situation). But you have to have a GP first, before you can consider this, I quite see......

onomatopoeia99

This isn't MH related, at least not directly, it's me being useless and just trying to set out my thoughts:o. It's not a penguin but please don't quote.

I had a lovely long weekend away, couple of cultural things, a significant family birthday that all the immediate family got together for, and met up with two friends that I rarely see due to the distance. One I've mentioned before, she has BPD (or EUPD if you prefer) and got very close to being homeless earlier this year, but after a LOT of drama and sofa surfing is now in a room in supported accomodation (which I saw for the first time at the weekend, it's really nice) and doing a lot better as a result of the stability this has given her and the therapy she is finally getting. It's still going to be a long journey for her but she finally seems to be moving in the right direction and I'm so happy for her. The other friend I got to know as one of her friends several years ago and very, very slowly we've gone from having a mutual friend in common to being friends ourselves.


So, at the end of the evening we both leave first friend at supported accomodation place to catch the train back to our different stations for changes, her to her home and me to the family I'm staying with, and we're standing in the carriage chatting away about this obscure science thing (one of the reasons we ended up becoming friends is she's another total nerd) and I'm thinking how generally awesome and clever and passionate and kind she is, how much I like being in her company and then realising the direction of my musings and having to remind myself that while I don't think of myself in those terms, I'm close to 50. She's in her thirties and will be for some years more, and I'm *so* not going to be the man that chases after a much younger woman.

Anyway, I don't know what to do, I have no idea if she has any interest in me whatsoever beyond friendship, I do know she has her own massive insecurities about dating, with good reason given her relationship experiences, and I can think of a ton of reasons not to say anything without even involving my own anxiety or her age or the distance, so I'm almost certain to do and say absolutely nothing. This makes me sad.