Looking for advice: Husband with spending problem

Kittenkirst

heartbrokengirl wrote: »

Thanks for all the posts and advice. After all that, he didn't come clean to his mother. If he couldn't do that, we couldn't move forward. I decided I needed to leave our place and went back home to my brother. I'm just picking up what I'm going to do from here. I haven't cut off contact for the moment, but at least home I feel I have some more control of the situation. I'm picking through my own financial situation to make sure I'm as safe as possible. Thank you again and I'll update if there is some miracle!

Good to hear from you HBG! I don't have anything really constructive to offer other that it must have taken a lot to leave, even if temporarily, well done for being strong enough t do so.
I really hope everything works out in whichever way you want it to, good luck for your future :grouphug:

FBaby

Good luck HBG. I think you moving is probably the best thing you could have done. Things will only get better if he realises the seriousness of it all and that he needs to change his way big time, not just temporarily, not just his attitude to money, but his whole attitude to life, prioritising what is important, ie. his marriage rather than his standings and what people think of him. I really hope he has the strength to make these changes so you can enjoy a happy life together.

Flooky

heartbrokengirl wrote: »

Thanks for all the posts and advice. After all that, he didn't come clean to his mother. If he couldn't do that, we couldn't move forward. I decided I needed to leave our place and went back home to my brother. I'm just picking up what I'm going to do from here. I haven't cut off contact for the moment, but at least home I feel I have some more control of the situation. I'm picking through my own financial situation to make sure I'm as safe as possible. Thank you again and I'll update if there is some miracle!

Good to hear. Look after yourself.

crazy_cat_lady

Good luck HBG - I know it must have been difficult to make that decision. I wish you lots of love and luck for the future. Don't forget to come on here and sound off if you need to.

andyfromotley

Sadly i dont think you will ever get to the truth of this situation. You are absolutely doing the right thing in putting yourself first no matter how painful this all seems. good luck.

LJB290

Sorry to hear that you were forced to make the decision to leave but I expect your instincts were correct and you've probably done the best thing for yourself 0 and that is very important.

Its always best to trust your instinct - good luck for the future.

Queen.Bess

All the best to you HBG. What a shame that he couldn't even do that for you.

As you say, it might not be forever, but in the meantime you have protected yourself and if he values your relationship, I hope he makes the amends needed and perhaps you can start again.

But, for now, you are thinking of yourself and that's the most important.

Take care, QBx

Kitten868

I'm really sorry. That's really pants. I would urge you to talk to his mum purely as she was your landlord. But this can wait for the dust to settle a bit. As I say get on with life and let the shock go through you. This is a big deal. Wishing you strength xxxx

AnotherJoe

Just to say HBG good wishes I think it's all for the best doing what you've done.

87mave

That takes a lot of guts HBG. It's so much easier said than done, but it's for the best.