Nice People Thread No. 15, a Cyber Summer

silvercar

oldandhappy wrote: »

Having had serious illness for me and husband now in the past and then recently our daughter has had treatment for aggressivee breast cancer we are aware we are now different for these life changing experiences but it also makes us appreciate a lot more in life and realise life is not forever for any of us and if you can make the most of each day and do what you can for anybody in need then that is a good day in our books....we have always had a personal joke about nice people and now we have found some I reckon.....cannot beat a glass of french wine for a mellow attitude!!! regards Dianne

Nicely said.

I've just noticed that you are located beyond our shores, have you been there long?

Doozergirl

oldandhappy wrote: »

Having had serious illness for me and husband now in the past and then recently our daughter has had treatment for aggressivee breast cancer we are aware we are now different for these life changing experiences but it also makes us appreciate a lot more in life and realise life is not forever for any of us and if you can make the most of each day and do what you can for anybody in need then that is a good day in our books....we have always had a personal joke about nice people and now we have found some I reckon.....cannot beat a glass of french wine for a mellow attitude!!! regards Dianne

Very true

silvercar

PasturesNew wrote: »

I've got some "posh/expensive houses being sold" programme on the telly. More4, freeview 14.

They're about to visit a huge old pile/wreck with bats flying round inside!

A "proper old school" delapidated stone building that's wider than a big wide house .. and then some.

EDIT: Rosehall Manor, £3million http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-34152438.html

Built in 17th century it's been empty for 60 years. Currently owned by some Pakistani businessmen who wanted to turn it into a hotel.

Wow!

The Rosehall estate benefits from planning consent ( granted February 2014 ) to convert the mansion into a hotel, the estate buildings into lodges and build a further 5 lodges. This would provide a total of 37 rentable rooms.

Go on PN, you know you want to.

20 bedrooms, so that's £150k per bedroom, or £75k each if PN will allow sharers . Cheap as chips!

Spirit_2

silvercar wrote: »

Wow!



Go on PN, you know you want to.

20 bedrooms, so that's £150k per bedroom, or £75k each if PN will allow sharers . Cheap as chips!

You did read the location? 4 months of the year it will be cold and freezing for the other eight.

looks suitable only for Hamish or Zag.

SingleSue

bugslet wrote: »

Billy no mates here and it was £800.00 ish last year.

One of the benfits of being int grim North.:D

£1064 here pre Billy no mates reduction and council tax benefit....for a tiny 3 bedroom pre fab house that was supposed to only be here 20 years (it is now almost 70 years old) which is unmortgagable.

Doozergirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

Although you're fab at what you do .... never underestimate some people's judgement of a woman on her own. e.g. if we both wanted somebody to be doing something, at the same time, where he'd wronged us both on recent work/promises ... he'd turn up at your door as he knows there's a bloke lurking in the background that might wade in.

How you're treated, as a single, can't be seen by those who go home to another.

All other things being equal, a couple will usually trump a single when they require anything.

PN, you can't ever profess to know what is in other people's heads or generalise about groups of people as if they have the same mentality because you can put a label on them. Being part of a couple is not my identity. Someone being a builder is not their identity.

I'm not saying that to be mean at all, but it is your thoughts about about other people and how you expect them to think/behave that causes you to limit what you do and reduces the boundaries you place around your life. I've been there.

People think they are there thoughts, or that their thoughts must be true, beause they're thinking them. We are not our thoughts. We can't be, because if we're listening, who is talking?

People are not good to me because I am married and they are intimidated by my husband! They are good to me because I am good and they are good. And that is most people. As you sow, so shall you reap. What you expect, you get.

Raise your expectations!

Doozergirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

I've got some "posh/expensive houses being sold" programme on the telly. More4, freeview 14.

They're about to visit a huge old pile/wreck with bats flying round inside!

A "proper old school" delapidated stone building that's wider than a big wide house .. and then some.

EDIT: Rosehall Manor, £3million http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-34152438.html

Built in 17th century it's been empty for 60 years. Currently owned by some Pakistani businessmen who wanted to turn it into a hotel.

One could be The Monarch of The Glen.

vivatifosi

Doozergirl wrote: »

PN, you can't ever profess to know what is in other people's heads or generalise about groups of people as if they have the same mentality because you can put a label on them. Being part of a couple is not my identity. Someone being a builder is not their identity.

I'm not saying that to be mean at all, but it is your thoughts about about other people and how you expect them to think/behave that causes you to limit what you do and reduces the boundaries you place around your life. I've been there.

People think they are there thoughts, or that their thoughts must be true, beause they're thinking them. We are not our thoughts. We can't be, because if we're listening, who is talking?

People are not good to me because I am married and they are intimidated by my husband! They are good to me because I am good and they are good. And that is most people. As you sow, so shall you reap. What you expect, you get.

Raise your expectations!

Brilliant post Doozer.

I think that attitudes between the sexes have changed massively over the past twenty or thirty years (thank goodness).

Builders no longer routinely wolf whistle at women, garages no longer routinely have girlie posters on the wall. Correspondingly, my local garage knows that if it doesn't give women the same level of customer service as men, then it will lose so many customers it will go out of business.

Yes I am married, but it does not automatically follow that my husband grabs a wrench to fix stuff that I can do myself,or takes my car keys to get my tyre changed. They are things I do myself... as does Doozer, Silver, etc, even though they are also married.

Equally,if Gen, Michaels, zag or anyone else expected their wives to take the car in the garage, it wouldn't be because they love them any less.

There's a whole world of opportunity out there, waiting to be embraced now that we're not stuck in the 1970s like the policeman from Life On Mars.

The garage metaphor applies equally to builders.

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

The garage

My sister was always annoyed at the garage she and her husband used. They both worked in the same profession, my sister's job/title was higher than her husband's. Whenever she booked her car in for an MoT/service she had to fight to try to get a courtesy car, even though she needed it for work/whatever.... whereas her husband was routinely just offered/assumed one, even when all he was doing that day was playing golf.

bugslet

SingleSue wrote: »

£1064 here pre Billy no mates reduction and council tax benefit....for a tiny 3 bedroom pre fab house that was supposed to only be here 20 years (it is now almost 70 years old) which is unmortgagable.

Just between you and me Sue, head oop North - it's not that grim - even where I live. We like to tell Southerners about the gas lights and cobbles to keep them down there:p.

Doozergirl wrote: »

PN, you can't ever profess to know what is in other people's heads or generalise about groups of people as if they have the same mentality because you can put a label on them. Being part of a couple is not my identity. Someone being a builder is not their identity.

I'm not saying that to be mean at all, but it is your thoughts about about other people and how you expect them to think/behave that causes you to limit what you do and reduces the boundaries you place around your life. I've been there.

People think they are there thoughts, or that their thoughts must be true, beause they're thinking them. We are not our thoughts. We can't be, because if we're listening, who is talking?

People are not good to me because I am married and they are intimidated by my husband! They are good to me because I am good and they are good. And that is most people. As you sow, so shall you reap. What you expect, you get.

Raise your expectations!

Excellent post DG. I deal with garages a lot and big hairy truckers and other hauliers all day long. I forget I'm a woman and I suspect they do too.