Nice People Thread No. 15, a Cyber Summer

michaels

GDB2222 wrote: »

Along with the recorder. Your sins have certainly found you out.

And we found out today we lost out on the BTL/development opportunity to a cash buyer who offered considerably over the asking price - weirdly to live in the place rather than as a developer

LydiaJ

Pyxis wrote: »

It is sad, notwithstanding her great age.

While reason tells you they won't be there for ever, when they do live a long life, it does seem as if they will be there for ever, so makes the loss greater in some ways.

Also, it is one of the very last links with your childhood and formative years so makes it poignant as well, as you tend to grieve for your lost 'security' as well.
:A

Thank you. What thoughtful words.

vivatifosi wrote: »

I don't think comfort eating per se is a problem, providing that the event is a big one and it doesn't become habitual and a response to every day ups and downs. Death of a loved one does feel like a fair reason.

I snacked like a Hoover yesterday. I had a steroid jab late Friday and it has turned me into a shark. I'll be glad when that side effect passes.

Also thank you. You make me feel less of a *Bad Parent*.

bugslet wrote: »

@LydiaJ, sorry to hear about your aunt, a good age.

Not doing well in dog world. One died in May, another one died at the start of the month and now a third has been given four months to live. If she's on the 'wrong' side of the average, I'm in danger of losing three in the same year. I'm turning into a bad dog mother.

Oh no! That sounds grim. Sure it is not your fault though.

LydiaJ

PasturesNew wrote: »

Sorry to hear that.
You've clearly got tons of good memories.
RIP

Thank you. Indeed I have. We used to have cheap holidays as a kid staying with a friend of my parents' in Cumbria, and we always stayed with this aunt and her family (near Stoke) on the way up and the way back down.

ivyleaf wrote: »

LydiaJ Just seen your post. So sorry you've lost someone precious My Nan died at 90 and it seemed quite astonishing that she wasn't there any more.

PasturesNew wrote: »

.... but she did tell me (when I met her 5 years ago) that he'd written her a birthday card .... then killed himself, so she preferred to avoid her birthday being "celebrated" in any form. She told me this as I'd just been trying to "do the right thing" and had sent her a birthday card (for the first time ever to be honest). Strangely, it was dad that told me to send her one, it was a job he'd previously done (is what I believed) ... so I just bought cards and sent them.

Foot ... mouth. Goal.

My MIL doesn't like much made of her birthday for similar reasons - LNE was on his way to visit her for it when "the accident" happened. We give her presents for it, though, for which she seems grateful.

I agree with ivyleaf, though - this was NOT your fault, or even your dad's if she hadn't told him.

oldandhappy

Hugs to those who need it as it can sure be horrid at times. I have no idea really because I have loved people I have lost but when I have lost an animal I feel completely broken for a long time........BW Dianne

oldandhappy

Enjoyed reading your post Pyxis...sounds like a step back in time holiday. BW Dianne

LydiaJ

michaels wrote: »

And we found out today we lost out on the BTL/development opportunity to a cash buyer who offered considerably over the asking price - weirdly to live in the place rather than as a developer

Sorry to hear you've been disapointed.

Why is it weird, though? I presume you know that people do buy houses to live in, so do you mean because people who buy homes rather than investments aren't usually cash buyers? I was. My friend at work will be too. Or do you think the house is not very desirable as a home to live in, despite its development potential??

In other news, the bloke who reversed into my car on Friday seems to have told his insurance company that it was his fault, so that's one less thing to have to deal with. Now just got to get the photos that the repair shop have requested off DD's phone (easier than the FB shuffle I went through to send photos from my own phone to the insurer) and onto the right bit of the repair shop's website.

I am trying to make a point of celebrating the small wins otherwise I'll collapse in a heap of goo. Today's are as follows:
1) Other driver has admitted prang was his fault.
2) This afternoon I found a pile of homework I had mislaid this morning, with still plenty of time to mark it before I have to return it on Wednesday.
3) Day off tomorrow (apart from staff meeting at school in afternoon) including massage at spa.
4) Arranged last week to have coffee, cake etc with teacher friend in cafe across the road from school after lessons this afternoon. This turned out to be perfect timing after everything that's happened the last few days.

LydiaJ

oldandhappy wrote: »

Hugs to those who need it as it can sure be horrid at times. I have no idea really because I have loved people I have lost but when I have lost an animal I feel completely broken for a long time........BW Dianne

The thing is that unless one loses a person who lives in the same house, the loss of an animal actually makes more difference day to day. The gap left behind is there every time you get up and go downstairs, every time you come home and walk in the door, etc. I know that's how I felt when we lost Avatar Dog.

oldandhappy

LydiaJ wrote: »

The thing is that unless one loses a person who lives in the same house, the loss of an animal actually makes more difference day to day. The gap left behind is there every time you get up and go downstairs, every time you come home and walk in the door, etc. I know that's how I felt when we lost Avatar Dog.

that really makes more sense..obvious when written down...thanks

oldandhappy

worse than awful that is PN...we had blooming awful experiences out of the blue in the middle 90s when living in Beddington (near Croydon) that was our 1st house we bought and enjoyed the area so much for many years...but then some new kids on the block can change everything..mini terror type feelings really for too long.
We moved by 2000 to Bexhill on Sea a good move for us for many happy years until it felt so overcrowed and consumed us...apart from the new neighbours of course that sent us a tad mad....take care PN...no answers really

michaels

LydiaJ wrote: »

Sorry to hear you've been disapointed.

Why is it weird, though? I presume you know that people do buy houses to live in, so do you mean because people who buy homes rather than investments aren't usually cash buyers? I was. My friend at work will be too. Or do you think the house is not very desirable as a home to live in, despite its development potential??

Glad your car issue sorted so easily.

The house - it is currently two bed and has no parking and can't have parking and is in an ok but never going to be desirable area. I.e. it says rental all over to me. It is end of terrace on a largish plot so could be extended into a nice 4/5 bed family home - but it still has no parking and is in an area with a top value that doesn't reflect the investment required.

But my cunning plan was to squeeze another house onto the end of the terrace, and add a single storey rear extension and loft conversion onto both to give two three bed rentable terraces worth 450 each having purchased for 350 plus purchase / finance costs plus 250 build costs.

So it is disappointing to lose it and doesn't make sense to me that an OO would outbid everyone else (agent suggested there were offers as low as 295, 2 at asking price of 350 and then this cash buyer who was enough more that they didn't bother with best and final offers).

PasturesNew wrote: »

.

Do you have neighbourhood watch / pcso.

Or how about one of those high frequency devices that deter children?