Nice People Thread No. 15, a Cyber Summer

oldandhappy

He would not be playing fair it seems....I was sent a text a while back from him saying I was an unfit mother so it cant really get much worse now..His sister who for a whole year now has been through hell and back with aggressive breast cancer and has never visited her or phoned her although she has phoned him....Sad but true...money can take over a lot it seems...I know power can also...
Today is a new day...again.. and although I do get upset I will not be dragged down.

oldandhappy

Still do not know what to do about the dip pool heating...solar has to be the way to go but have not found anybody local yet for advice...I saw one towards Angouleme off the N10...I expect you all know that area ;)its only 30- 35 mins south so I think a phone call first to see the situation....best wishes Dianne

vivatifosi

michaels wrote: »

Is the assumption that now the will says what is needed the poa is to make sure it can' tbe changed again, or even to start spending the inheritance before it is due....

...talking of POA Martin seems to recomend we should all have matching ones with our partners and it appears that you can get them for free if you are on tax credits.

For whatever reason, I'd assumed it would be automatic for a married partner. If that's not the case, I'd better look into it. Not much sense in undertaking financial steps to look after each other, only to leave a legal one undone. Thanks michaels.

Pyxis

oldandhappy wrote: »

He would not be playing fair it seems....I was sent a text a while back from him saying I was an unfit mother so it cant really get much worse now..His sister who for a whole year now has been through hell and back with aggressive breast cancer and has never visited her or phoned her although she has phoned him....Sad but true...money can take over a lot it seems...I know power can also...
Today is a new day...again.. and although I do get upset I will not be dragged down.

I was in a vaguely similar situation a few years ago, involving quite a lot of sentimental items and some money. I decided that I'd had enough of all the wrangling that had gone on over the years, and that life was too short to be spent agonising and arguing over just things. Yes, it was unfair, and underhand and all that, but they were just things. So I decided to do nothing. It was rather liberating.

GDB2222

Pyxis wrote: »

I meant to say, if she's not capable of making decisions and the will was only made recently, then surely there's an argument for saying the will is void if she's not capable?

That's absolutely true. But, assuming this is an LPA, it can only be made if the person making it has reasonable understanding of what they are doing. So, there's not necessarily a conflict, as both the will and the LPA may be valid. Indeed, the LPA includes a certificate (usually signed by a doctor or solicitor) that the person understands it and isn't being pressured into signing it.

The first stage with an LPA is making it, and the second stage is actually using the LPA when the person has deteriorated to the stage they can't make their own decisions. So, it is possible the LPA has been made, but not yet implemented.

We've been down this route fairly recently with my MIL. A few years before she died, she recognised that she needed help dealing with her finances. She could still make decisions, but she needed help as she lacked concentration.

SingleSue

Another Youtube link but this time, it is not Josh's work but one James has put together with his good friend Aaron, the singer and writer of the song who now lives in Australia (he also used to be a very near neighbour, 3 doors up until he moved)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=akmc8Pd9NpA

Pyxis

Wow! That's good!

Did I understand correctly that the singer on the video is Aaron, not one of your sons? But that one of your sons made the video?

Sorry to be dense! Am easily confoosed at the moment!

Generali

oldandhappy wrote: »

nope nope nope...u read it all wrong...my mothers is still alive she is 89 but confused and bed ridden etc etc.........changed here will in the last 6 months leaving all to my oldest son...nobody else....that was basically the gist of the write up I made looking for opinions...

I'd try posting here:

http://boards.fool.co.uk/legal-issues-practical-51110.aspx?mid=13374314

Take a deep breath and try to break down your post into:

- What has happened
- What you think is wrong with what has happened
- What you would like to happen instead
- An idea of your ideal path from point 1 to point 3

There are a couple of solicitors that post (for free) on there that will hopefully respond. Clitheroekid is particularly good. It's not a site that is all (((((huggggggzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz)))) like it is here but you will hopefully get excellent advice.

I hope you're okay.

The Girl made it into the Zone cross country (basically the first interschool level of cross country competition for the best kids at running in their school comp). She came 120th out of 190 for her age group which was pretty good I thought. She's gutted, hated today.

In cooking news I made tarte au citron today. It's really good, even if I say so myself.

SingleSue

Pyxis wrote: »

Wow! That's good!

Did I understand correctly that the singer on the video is Aaron, not one of your sons? But that one of your sons made the video?

Sorry to be dense! Am easily confoosed at the moment!

Yep you are right, Aaron (not my son) is the singer, James (my son) came up with the concept, directed, edited and produced the video. Obviously he didn't film the Aussie clips but he told them what he wanted.

michaels

Generali wrote: »

I'd try posting here:

http://boards.fool.co.uk/legal-issues-practical-51110.aspx?mid=13374314

Take a deep breath and try to break down your post into:

- What has happened
- What you think is wrong with what has happened
- What you would like to happen instead
- An idea of your ideal path from point 1 to point 3

There are a couple of solicitors that post (for free) on there that will hopefully respond. Clitheroekid is particularly good. It's not a site that is all (((((huggggggzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz)))) like it is here but you will hopefully get excellent advice.

I hope you're okay.

The Girl made it into the Zone cross country (basically the first interschool level of cross country competition for the best kids at running in their school comp). She came 120th out of 190 for her age group which was pretty good I thought. She's gutted, hated today.

In cooking news I made tarte au citron today. It's really good, even if I say so myself.

Well done - my DDs, particuarly DD2 would probably be fairly good at cross country but they have decided it is not cool to run so far and get tired out so they walk around chatting with their friends to avoid getting picked

When I went to secondary school at the end of every PE lesson we had a shower before getting change dback into uniform. DD claims that at her school they don't have showers and often don't even change for PE - too me this is Ewww. Was my experience unusual? (Yes they were naked communal showers but it was just what was expected so no one worried or got silly about it)