Someone in work is pushing my buttons (Rant)

Slinky

Call her out in front of colleagues about the lift and the £200.

Wait for an invite to lunch and make a point of saying before you go, 'better check what you've got in your purse as you're paying for me as well'. That'll ensure there's never another invite.

Peter333

Slinky wrote: »

Call her out in front of colleagues about the lift and the £200.

Wait for an invite to lunch and make a point of saying before you go, 'better check what you've got in your purse as you're paying for me as well'. That'll ensure there's never another invite.

The problem is, the OP will look like the bad guy then.

I don't think there's any easy answer to this.

culpepper

The best way to treat her is to completely ignore her. If you must interact with her for work purposes, then do only that.
Then live your life. She will dig herself a hole and sit in it.
Certainly don't invest time in writing to or talking about her.
If someone asks you about why she is saying things about you, then describe very briefly that she likes to use people as commodities and you refuse to be one. Don't even bother with details .
When she discovers you are no longer her willing victim, she will find another one.

KxMx

My vote goes to getting her side of the story out. Then people can make up their own minds based on two versions and not one.

TiddlyPom

Retain your dignity at all costs. If this woman is fairly new to the company it won't take long for people to see what she is really like.
Bad behaviour like hers only reflects on what she is like and says nothing about the person it is aimed at.

JasX

Pollycat wrote: »

But what if this woman - as she appears to be pretty brass-necked - says 'but I repaid you for that! You must have forgotten!'
That then puts the OP in an awkward position in front of her colleagues in a 'you did, no, I didn't situation.

The OP has already written off the £200 so better not to bring it up - imho.

Take her to small claims court.... she'll need to prove it then (ie produce paperwork) -especially if op has the cc statement and the colleague admits she did owe it (which is implicit in anything she might put in writing claiming to have already repaid)

Pollycat

JasX wrote: »

Take her to small claims court.... she'll need to prove it then (ie produce paperwork) -especially if op has the cc statement and the colleague admits she did owe it (which is implicit in anything she might put in writing claiming to have already repaid)

That's assuming the OP wants to go to all that faff to get money back she apparently wrote off - she doesn't say she brought the subect of the £200 in their chats about 'old times' during lunches.

If she does, then I'd agree with you.

bearcat16

A good, well timed and solidly aimed head butt can work wonders.

Jk! Just ignore her and she'll soon get bored.

JasX

Pollycat wrote: »

That's assuming the OP wants to go to all that faff to get money back she apparently wrote off - she doesn't say she brought the subect of the £200 in their chats about 'old times' during lunches.

If she does, then I'd agree with you.

The £200 I was regarding as irrelevant, if the OP want's to go down the route of getting this 'problem individual' off her back by playing the "well if you hadn't run off with my £200" the OP would need some means of covering herself from simply being called a liar

Unfortunately if the OP want's to be able to defend herself against letting this person simply call her a liar and walk off she needs options to prove otherwise, I see two options only to have in your pocket as a backstop here:

1-go around the office , everyone you know, and everyone you ever meet wiht the paperwork explaining to them one by one (and looking a bit wierd in the process'

2-Necessarily following thru and proving her case once in court, not because she's particularly bothered about the £200 but to counter the 'problem woman' publically branding her a liar and getting off scot-free.

Pollycat

JasX wrote: »

The £200 I was regarding as irrelevant, if the OP want's to go down the route of getting this 'problem individual' off her back by playing the "well if you hadn't run off with my £200" the OP would need some means of covering herself from simply being called a liar

Unfortunately if the OP want's to be able to defend herself against letting this person simply call her a liar and walk off she needs options to prove otherwise, I see two options only to have in your pocket as a backstop here:

1-go around the office , everyone you know, and everyone you ever meet wiht the paperwork explaining to them one by one (and looking a bit wierd in the process'

2-Necessarily following thru and proving her case once in court, not because she's particularly bothered about the £200 but to counter the 'problem woman' publically branding her a liar and getting off scot-free.

The OP would only need to defend herself against being called a liar if she brought up the subject of the £200 and the other person said she'd paid it back.

That's why I suggested this:

Pollycat wrote: »

The OP has already written off the £200 so better not to bring it up - imho.

However, I have no idea why we're still debating this when the OP hasn't responded since the first day she posted but is busy giving other users advice on different threads.

Maybe the OP and this woman are best buddies again.
Maybe she just needed to get it off her chest and didn't really want any advice.
I'll leave her to it.