My mum is going to kick me out HELP!

System

Marlie - no obligation but hypothetically if a man falls out with his mother because he stood up for his girlfriend, and faces homelessness for it then he's made a sacrifice for her, and a decent girlfriend would want to help a man who did this for her, if she could. So if this was what happened and she just leaves him to his fate then that isn't love, and maybe he'd be better off making up with his mum

bobby_99

if i could i would honestly me posting on here shows its the last resort.

I think what i will do is just get the letter from my mum and hand that over and until then look for private renting

But just wanted some advise on the best way i could go about it.

Kim_kim

bobby_99 wrote: »

i live in east london

so i need more then 30 hours to claim it?

Right so you're in an expensive area.
Have you looked into renting a room locally?
You'll have to start pricing them up.

bobby_99

she is its just her situation does not allow visitors to stay over she will soon get housing and she has agreed for me to move in but i just wanted to see if their was a better way.

ampersand

bobby, welcome to mse.

I suggest a full financial and life-style mot for you and your girlfriend, regardless of whether or not you move in together.

You'll really need to be on top of managing your income when you are no longer under Mum's roof. Reasons are irrelevant, given that you've been told to go.

By now, aged 25, most young adults are well on the way to understanding all of this. r rvrn if by having made massive mistakes[Credit cards etc.] and coming to mse for debt advice.

As a rather vague late starter, you must quickly acquire the habit of accurate record-keeping, especially with regular or varying amounts of income.

You must understand and calculate how they've come about.
Sometimes they will be wrong and you may need to confidently challenge this.

Leave any guesswork scenarios above and make a prompt appointment with your nearest CAB. They're under a lot of pressure these days and you may have to wait.

Make a date-order file of ALL paperwork - wageslips, Bank statements, calendar notes of hours worked[get into this habit daily anyway], all spending - work and personal, financial committments if you have them, any Direct Debits or Standing Orders.

If you have none of the latter, learn what they mean.

You'll need to set these up if, for example, Mum has paid all the utility bills.
You'll be paying from now on, in some way, for your water, electricty and/or gas, food [make your own+Thermos to take to work], phone, TV licence [if you watch real time tv], transport [if applicable]. You may have costs associated with any move too. Are friends going to help?

Have you ever saved? Now's the time to master it - it's addictive.

It's an opportunity as well as a steep learning curve, so make that CAB appointment and really start using everything that's here on mse.

If you have debts, read my signature and try CAPUK or Stepchange or one of the free debt charities for free budget help and planning.

Good luck. Apply yourself now and set up habits you need for Life. You need this toolkit wherever and however you next live and look for more/better work.

bobby_99

yes i was thinking of that but my gf is due to get housing so was thinking i could just move in with her but i just have to think what the best option for me is financially

System

Maybe during the time that you can't flat share with her, flat share with someone else, maybe a colleague?

bobby_99

yea thats what im going to do i think im going to flat share hopefully it wont be long before my gf gets housing then i move in.

Poppie68

If you can provide accurate hours and income someone on here should be able to provide more accurate advice....
In the event of you being left without a permanent roof over your head come end of February start asking your friends and co-workers now if they would be able to help on a temporary basis, offer a small cash incentive but don't out stay your welcome...
If someone agrees it gives you extra time to sort yourself out.

nannytone_2

have you looked up the LHA rate for your local authority?