What do you make of this?

Jagraf

jackieb wrote: »

I wouldn't worry about that. When I buy cards and presents for my in-laws, I don't write 'to Mum and Dad'. I tag them with their proper names, even though it's from their son and me, it's me that always writes them out. I hope that makes sense lol I'd rather my OH wrote them out and write Mum and Dad on them, but he won't.

Do you just write the card from you then? If you buy the presents and cards and also write them and they're not written to mum and dad then they're not from him at all really.

jackieb

Jagraf wrote: »

Do you just write the card from you then? If you buy the presents and cards and also write them and they're not written to mum and dad then they're not from him at all really.

No, I write his name on everything. And it is from him. He supplies the money - I don't work. I think a lot of men don't know what they've bought people. I know some men do, but I bet my OH isn't the only one. He's been away for 4 weeks over Christmas and he still doesn't know what he bought anyone. He doesn't even know what he got me (2 books, i'm easy pleased ). I quite like to be left to my own devices anyway. But if he wanted to get involved I wouldn't stop him. He's not bothered and it doesn't bother me. I've even had power of attorney for him in the past so we could buy a house and I could act on his behalf. I'm used to it.

It doesn't mean we love them any less though. My Dad is dead and it just doesn't seem right to me to call my father-in-law 'Dad'.

Different strokes for different folks.

Jagraf

jackieb wrote: »

No, I write his name on everything. And it is from him. He supplies the money - I don't work. I think a lot of men don't know what they've bought people. I know some men do, but I bet my OH isn't the only one. He's been away for 4 weeks over Christmas and he still doesn't know what he bought anyone. He doesn't even know what he got me (2 books, i'm easy pleased ). I quite like to be left to my own devices anyway. But if he wanted to get involved I wouldn't stop him. He's not bothered and it doesn't bother me. I've even had power of attorney for him in the past so we could buy a house and I could act on his behalf. I'm used to it.

It doesn't mean we love them any less though. My Dad is dead and it just doesn't seem right to me to call my father-in-law 'Dad'.

Different strokes for different folks.

Sorry I didn't word it very well, it's your prerogative to put what you want on a card, but for his parents it's not a card from him at all - it's from you, as it doesn't even have what your son calls them on it (unless he calls them by their first names).

When my daughter was little she used to put a painted hand print in her cards and I used to write "to nanny" in them. I wouldn't put to their first names from her, iykwim.

catkins

I find the use of the word "mine" when the card is from 2 people. I would say "our". I always refer to things as "our" - our house, our dog, our cat and find it strange when someone says "my son" especially if their husband or wife is with them

pendragon_arther

OP, do you have kids? Sorry if you've already said.