What do you make of this?

sweetilemon

arbroath_lass wrote: »

Really? I always write Mum/Dad/Sister etc and sign OHs name first. OH doesn't write cards either but we are a team and that is my forte, he's great at other stuff!

I do the same.

jackieb

arbroath_lass wrote: »

Really? I always write Mum/Dad/Sister etc and sign OHs name first. OH doesn't write cards either but we are a team and that is my forte, he's great at other stuff!

I was 18 when we got married and it didn't feel right as I never called them Mum or Dad, and I already had a Mum and Dad. Would be weird to change it now. If it were left to him no-one would get cards or presents. They know him well and i'm close to my in-laws so I don't think it matters.

Andypandyboy

Ok OP, can you now share why you asked the question?

LittleMax

Andypandyboy wrote: »

Ok OP, can you now share why you asked the question?

I thought I had...

LittleMax wrote: »

Thank you for all your replies, it is helpful to see that others see it as just a thank you for just being you a wonderful son type message.

She is indeed a clingy mother, but OH has well and truly cut the apron strings over 20 years ago. I generally get on well with MIL, and I am well tolerated (no one would have ever been good enough!)

I thought I was being a bit paranoid and therefore just wanted a totally independent take on it.

Status Quo resumed - thank you

arbroath_lass

jackieb wrote: »

I was 18 when we got married and it didn't feel right as I never called them Mum or Dad, and I already had a Mum and Dad. Would be weird to change it now. If it were left to him no-one would get cards or presents. They know him well and i'm close to my in-laws so I don't think it matters.

But it's not you calling him Mum and Dad it's your OH. I don't call them Mum or Dad - I just write the card on OH's behalf. I just find it odd, sorry. It obviously works for you, would be a boring old world if we were all the same :beer:

jackieb

arbroath_lass wrote: »

But it's not you calling him Mum and Dad it's your OH. I don't call them Mum or Dad - I just write the card on OH's behalf. I just find it odd, sorry. It obviously works for you, would be a boring old world if we were all the same :beer:

But they know how he is, and it's obvious it's me, not him writing it. I could never forge absence notes for school either :rotfl: The cards say Mum and Dad on the front of them, I just can't bring myself to write Mum/Dad on the front of the envelope lol we all have our little quirks

arbroath_lass

jackieb wrote: »

I just can't bring myself to write Mum/Dad on the front of the envelope lol we all have our little quirks

Now, that makes sense to me :rotfl:

maman

jackieb wrote: »

But they know how he is, and it's obvious it's me, not him writing it. I could never forge absence notes for school either :rotfl: The cards say Mum and Dad on the front of them, I just can't bring myself to write Mum/Dad on the front of the envelope lol we all have our little quirks

It gets worse. My DD1 has taken to calling me and DH 'Nanny and Grandad' in conversation not just on cards!!:eek:

Jagraf

My husband calls my mum 'nanny' as she's our daughters grandmother. I think it's fine and works for us - it's affectionate.

Jagraf

gilly41 wrote: »

Its my sons 30th today and I wrote how proud I was for everything he has achieved in his card I also got him a cake with 30 on and had a little party tea for his wife and our grandson . Does that make me weird? I hope not. I think I am just a loving mam who is very proud of my son . xx

Go ahead - he's your son do what makes you happy.

My MIL is very proud of her son and that makes me happy as his wife. I don't feel jealous or possessive and as a parent I certainly understand they are your children.

Whatever next - removing cards that say "my husband" "my son" "my mum and dad"