What do you make of this?

LittleMax

Thank you for all your replies, it is helpful to see that others see it as just a thank you for just being you a wonderful son type message.

She is indeed a clingy mother, but OH has well and truly cut the apron strings over 20 years ago. I generally get on well with MIL, and I am well tolerated (no one would have ever been good enough!)

I thought I was being a bit paranoid and therefore just wanted a totally independent take on it.

Status Quo resumed - thank you

red_devil

its lovely why not try writing something nice in theirs.

LittleMax

red_devil wrote: »

its lovely why not try writing something nice in theirs.

I choose cards with lovely words for OH to give to his Mum, I draw the line at writing in them for him :rotfl:

*Robin*

I said something similar to one of my [grown-up] boys recently.. This was not long after hearing about a mate's son who had done an awful thing - was just so glad I can be proud of the way my offspring behaves (unlike my poor friend who is forever having to sort out the messes his lad - actually a 32 year old man :eek: - creates!).

So don't read too much into it, OP.

Lunar_Eclipse

It's a bit OTT, but that is how lots of mums feel about their sons in my experience: slightly possessive/over protective.

I think it was only meant nicely.

pickledonionspaceraider

LittleMax wrote: »

Just after some unbiased opinions. Is this a strange thing for a mother to write in her grown up son's birthday card (punctuation is as written)?

On your birthday a heartfelt "thank you" for just being mine!
lots of love from
Mum and Dad xxx

Oh for crying out loud

I do not see why these well intentioned words could possibly be seen as anything other than loving

gilly41

Its my sons 30th today and I wrote how proud I was for everything he has achieved in his card I also got him a cake with 30 on and had a little party tea for his wife and our grandson . Does that make me weird? I hope not. I think I am just a loving mam who is very proud of my son . xx

Rebel_Cause

OP, I can see why you have concerns, maybe you are thinking she is seeing him as a possession, maybe it was her wording.

In other words, she is thanking him for being her son, she obviously loves him and is very proud of him.

OH gets cards at Chritmas and birthdays saying 'the best son in the world' or 'the best son anyone could wish for' from mummy dearest. I think it is sweet.

RuthnJasper

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I read it as she is proud that he is her son.

I agree with this. I might rephrase it along the lines of "I'm just so thankful to have you as a son". I think that there might be an issue if it was saying "I'm so glad you are mine and mine alone, love Mum. xxx P.S. Your father sends his regards."


Was it the mother or father who wrote the words?


Picking over sentiments in a partner's greetings card is perhaps not the healthiest of activities, however.

arbroath_lass

jackieb wrote: »

I wouldn't worry about that. When I buy cards and presents for my in-laws, I don't write 'to Mum and Dad'. I tag them with their proper names, even though it's from their son and me, it's me that always writes them out. I hope that makes sense lol I'd rather my OH wrote them out and write Mum and Dad on them, but he won't.

Really? I always write Mum/Dad/Sister etc and sign OHs name first. OH doesn't write cards either but we are a team and that is my forte, he's great at other stuff!